Overnight visits (may have asked this b4, not sure)

mdotm0904

Had a talk with my ex today, just to see where his head was in regards to the baby. (He claims i've kept him in the dark, but to my knowledge everytime I tried to reach out he changed the subject. Even asked him to come to a doctor's appt w/me once & he gave me the silent treatment for 4days. So i took that as disinterest & stopped updating him w/my pregnancy.) Anyway, he still hasnt made it clear what his intentions will be he just feeds me a lot of bull like "i'm leaving it in God's hands", "I don't want a repeat w/my ex" (she ran away w/the kids in the middle of the nite).

He asked where my head was & I made it clear that while he's a sucky BF/husband I do think he's a great father & wouldn't mind if he were involved in his daughters life. I didn't think overnight visits were a good idea while she was small but as she got older if he wanted to do a couple of weekends or a day during the week, I wouldn't object.

He's yet to get back to me, but I'm just wondering, at what age did you allow your exes to take the baby overnight? I don't think an infant needs overnight visitation. Maybe that's selfish but I feel like a baby needs to be with their mom. I was thinking of starting around 9months or so. I feel like day visits & whatnot are more than ample for her to get to know him without having to spend overnight.

If any of you have gotten court ordered visitation did the judge allow overnight visits for a newborn/infant?

sweetie0228

rule of thumb is 18 months before overnights are required. 

But save yourself some grief and just wait until the child is here and let the lawyers hhandle it.

I'm not sure if you are legally married or not based on this post, if you are not legally married even if he's on the birth certificate he doesn't get automatic rights to the child.

mdotm0904

Nope, not married. And that's good to know that even if he's listed as the father he doesn't have legal rights. That definitely makes my life a little easier for the moment. 

mom2one

sweetie0228:

rule of thumb is 18 months before overnights are required. 

But save yourself some grief and just wait until the child is here and let the lawyers hhandle it.

I'm not sure if you are legally married or not based on this post, if you are not legally married even if he's on the birth certificate he doesn't get automatic rights to the child.

This depends on the state and is NOT true for all states.