"Pull out method"

AtoZtoB

Who got pregnant from this so called method? Just curious!

slmcronelaw

Ha Ha, this made me laugh...because I am immature! 

We haven't ever tried this "method"! 

first-time-mama

My SIL used this method.  I dont get when people say this is their method.  Her 4 kids are proof it doesnt work LOL

lildevil968

:::shamefully raises hand::::

lildevil968

first-time-mama:

My SIL used this method.  I dont get when people say this is their method.  Her 4 kids are proof it doesnt work LOL

So am I....lol. We have since permanently fixed that problem.

kcisthebombdotcom

Me.

I didnt want to go on hormonal BC after DS since we wanted to conceive our children fairly close, so I decided that our method of BC would be to use condoms around the times I was ovulating and pull and pray when I wasnt. On CD26 of what I thought were the last few days of my cycle before my period, we used pull and pray (this was our first and only time we ever did it, BTW). 2 weeks later, I got a BFP and was pregnant with my DD.

We planned to have them a little further apart, but weren't disappointed when pull and pray failed and they were a few months closer than we planned. I'd never use this as a reliable BC method. I can't handle another child emotionally right now, so I have an IUD.

BarbieAP

Not me.  But my co-workers 3rd child is product of how poorly this method works.

loriedy

Actually this was our method for 7 years and I never got pregnant. I assumed I wasn't too fertile because I never got pregnant. As soon as we got married we stopped pulling out. I thought it would take a long time for me to get pregnant but NO it didn't. As soon as we tried we conceived! Now that we had my LO we are back to pulling out and no pregnancy it's been 19 months, so it's worked for us.

first-time-mama

lildevil968:

first-time-mama:

My SIL used this method.  I dont get when people say this is their method.  Her 4 kids are proof it doesnt work LOL

So am I....lol. We have since permanently fixed that problem.

Lol..so did she

ashnoelle

lildevil968:

:::shamefully raises hand::::

me too.

I was "naturalistic" and didn't want to have any type of hormonal BC. We used condoms, but not always. We weren't very good at pulling out either...

Now I have an IUD (the Mirena). Screw the whole "no hormones" thing, I'm not having another baby anytime soon.

StarryNight39

We have always used the P&P method since MH and I met. He recently got a vasectomy since we are done having children, but we never once had a mistake. Worked well for us But I am glad he now shoots blanks  

mrs.jlsprouse

No accidents here.  Worked for us for a year until we started trying for E.  We've been using it for another year now.  We both understand the "consequences" of our actions and another LO wouldn't NOT be a blessing, we just aren't actively trying.

homebird

I don't pretend to be an expert, but according to the American Pregnancy Association, the withdrawal method has a 19% failure rate. I'm thinking these are typical use failure rates (not perfect use).

BC methods that have a higher failure rate: diaphragm (20%), fertility awareness (25%), spermicide (26%), and sponge (20%). The male condom is right up there though with a 14% failure rate.

So ... it's interesting that withdrawal is given such a bad rap considering I know a lot of people who use condoms (raises hand) or the fertility awareness method exclusively.

PiRSquared330

You know when people say "we aren't trying but aren't preventing?" well normally I think thats bogus. If you aren't preventing, you are trying.

 

That being said, I think the pull out method is the one thing that fits into that. You obviously aren't trying to get pregnent, but you sure as heck aren't preventing!

 

 

jessNdean

hadn't failed me for 10 years.

and we still do it. (most of the time that is when dh is too lazy to get his ass to the store for condoms)

murfygirl

homebird:

I don't pretend to be an expert, but according to the American Pregnancy Association, the withdrawal method has a 19% failure rate. I'm thinking these are typical use failure rates (not perfect use).

BC methods that have a higher failure rate: diaphragm (20%), fertility awareness (25%), spermicide (26%), and sponge (20%). The male condom is right up there though with a 14% failure rate.

So ... it's interesting that withdrawal is given such a bad rap considering I know a lot of people who use condoms (raises hand) or the fertility awareness method exclusively.

My OB actually told me if done properly every time it can be as effective as condoms alone.

DH and I pulled out for 6 months with no accidents. The first month we didn't we got pregnant with DS. We have been using the "Pull out method" for over a year now with no accidents.

We understand it isn't as high as say BCP but I can't take those and we want another baby soon anyways.

homebird

Oh yeah, definately not as high as BCP.

We use condoms and although (I think) it is a widely accepted form of birth control, it has a considerably high failure rate (as stated in my previous post). And my daughter is proof of that, lol.

I don't think most people would think we were irresponsible or uneducated about birth control because we chose condoms. However, when the withdrawal method is brought up there seems to be a lot of judgment about it.

I think it's a perfectly fine method to practice as long as you realize there is a higher margin of error.

murfygirl

homebird:

Oh yeah, definately not as high as BCP.

We use condoms and although (I think) it is a widely accepted form of birth control, it has a considerably high failure rate (as stated in my previous post). And my daughter is proof of that, lol.

I don't think most people would think we were irresponsible or uneducated about birth control because we chose condoms. However, when the withdrawal method is brought up there seems to be a lot of judgment about it.

I think it's a perfectly fine method to practice as long as you realize there is a margin of error.

I always get kind of baffled by this myself. Condoms fail quite often and they are neck in neck with the pull out method when it comes to percentages. I am totally aware of the failure margin and 100% OK with it. When the time comes that I am done I will do something more permanent and sure. I have 2 nephews who are living breathing proof that condoms do in fact fail. 

ali_bl-nov05

Me.

But to be fair, he didn't do it on time, so I can't really say that it didn't work, we just didn't do it right. I don't think this method is very trustworthy, anyways. 

blushingbrideoct07

I've been using that method for years and it works for me.  When I told my OB that is my method of BC she said it works 70% of the time.  At this point in my life I am ok with those percentages.  

Mrs.Telly

Worked for us.

Que*Syrah

first-time-mama:

My SIL used this method.  I dont get when people say this is their method.  Her 4 kids are proof it doesnt work LOL

I also know someone with 4 kids who use this method. I wish I could say they were young, immature and naive but they're both over 30

nealbl

I have lived by this method for the past 10 years and I only got pregnant twice. Both times we were trying to get pregnant so it works just fine for me. I know its not fool proof but neither is the pill  

Jocelyn0415

We were using pull and pray and the one time we didn't, I got pregnant.

charlies-angel

It also worked for me for a few years

shellybell15

This method worked for us for 18 months until we started "trying" for #2. I had several bad experiences with b/c before DS so I didn't want to try any others since I knew we would want another child soon. If we had condoms we would use them, but more often than not we didn't have one. 

Andreaw1124

My hubby and I have used this "method" for 7 + years.  Stats say that it is 93% effective.  So, we have had sex well over 100 times and do NOT have 7 surprise children.  We got pregnant with DS first time not using the "method", and pregnant with 2nd LO again, not using the "method."  For us, it works!

emily0829

homebird:

I don't pretend to be an expert, but according to the American Pregnancy Association, the withdrawal method has a 19% failure rate. I'm thinking these are typical use failure rates (not perfect use).

BC methods that have a higher failure rate: diaphragm (20%), fertility awareness (25%), spermicide (26%), and sponge (20%). The male condom is right up there though with a 14% failure rate.

So ... it's interesting that withdrawal is given such a bad rap considering I know a lot of people who use condoms (raises hand) or the fertility awareness method exclusively.

14%?!!?!?

Flowr4246

Yup.  In my defense, it did work for two years.  But really?  It was only a matter of time...

NELCORP

We use this method. It worked for us for 13 years between our two kids. We decided to let nature ride and then was blessed with DS2. Now were back to this method.

I don't get the it didn't work for so so, their kids are the proof. In these cases, did the man actually pull out before ejaculating and they still got pregnant or did he not pull out in time. If he failed to pull out, the method did not fail; the man did.

huber22

mrs.jlsprouse:

No accidents here.  Worked for us for a year until we started trying for E.  We've been using it for another year now.  We both understand the "consequences" of our actions and another LO wouldn't NOT be a blessing, we just aren't actively trying.

This. 

homebird

emily0829:

homebird:

I don't pretend to be an expert, but according to the American Pregnancy Association, the withdrawal method has a 19% failure rate. I'm thinking these are typical use failure rates (not perfect use).

BC methods that have a higher failure rate: diaphragm (20%), fertility awareness (25%), spermicide (26%), and sponge (20%). The male condom is right up there though with a 14% failure rate.

So ... it's interesting that withdrawal is given such a bad rap considering I know a lot of people who use condoms (raises hand) or the fertility awareness method exclusively.

14%?!!?!?

Yup. I just looked it up again and it says a failure rate of 14-15% with typical use. Using spermicide increases a condoms effectiveness though, to over 95%.

Leap08

We used this method for years, at least 5. I hate taking BC pills. I just don't like the way I feel/act on them, and we started to get really lazy about condoms until we just weren't using them anymore. I actually did start to think that maybe we just weren't all that fertile. When we decided to try to conceive, we got pregnant after 2 cycles, and with this baby it took 3. I think it depends on how good your partner is at pulling out.

Rainne38

loriedy:

Actually this was our method for 7 years and I never got pregnant. I assumed I wasn't too fertile because I never got pregnant. As soon as we got married we stopped pulling out. I thought it would take a long time for me to get pregnant but NO it didn't. As soon as we tried we conceived! Now that we had my LO we are back to pulling out and no pregnancy it's been 19 months, so it's worked for us.

 

THIS! Almost exactly!!

12bailey18

I did! I'm almost 30 weeks pregnant using this method...LOL

D.Smith

when I was younger( stupid) I did for 3 years and thank God I did not get pregnant 

broomy

My mom. LOL.

I used the pull-out method with an ex for about a year (though we used condoms when I was likely to be ovulating). Worked for us.

wolverine8

loriedy:

Actually this was our method for 7 years and I never got pregnant. I assumed I wasn't too fertile because I never got pregnant. As soon as we got married we stopped pulling out. I thought it would take a long time for me to get pregnant but NO it didn't. As soon as we tried we conceived! Now that we had my LO we are back to pulling out and no pregnancy it's been 19 months, so it's worked for us.

This is us except that is what we did for 9 months after we got married and the first time we didn't we got pregnant. 

mojito14

We call it "pull and pray", but same thing...lol.

We have been using that method for 6 years and only got pregnant on purpose 3x.