Harder on LO #2?

LilCMom

I feel like DH is much harder on DS than he was on DD. I think it's because everything she did was brand-new and wonderful, and now he is just waiting for the milestones and feels like he is behind, even though he isn't. I keep having to remind him that DD was like a month behind most babies her age on milestones, and that DS isn't even close to the age where those things happen! Yesterday he was like, why isn't he sitting up yet? Uh...he's four months old, that's why!! It's like everything DD does is awesome since it's never been done before, but DS always seems behind to him. I hope this isn't how it's going to be!

mlf625

I wonder if boy/girl comes into play here, as well?  DH is harder on DS (who is #1) than he is on DD (#2).  Same went for my dad with us.

cherhop1

wow that's interesting.  I wonder if it has anything to do with how men seem to connect more with their children as they get older.  A lot of men have a hard time with little babies. I see that with my DH, the more DS does/grows the more he interacts and seems to enjoy him.  Perhaps your DH is anxious to get that same bond that he has with DD and that is why is acting all impatient for DS to get older??

roundtheworldgirl

mlf625:

I wonder if boy/girl comes into play here, as well?.

This occurred to me, too.

I think another possible explanation could be that husbands tend not to be as knowledgeable about babies before their first is born.  Then they learn all this new information and try to put it to use on baby #2.  Not being as smart as we are, they don't realize that all babies are different.

At least, this is how my DH is.

Lambie.

Obviously we aren't there yet but I worry about this too.  DH thinks DD is just awesome and I'm afraid this little boy just won't match up for him, plus the fact that I can imgaine DH going softer on his daughter than his son. I hope I am worrying about nothing.