Qualifying for Adoption?

Mamaof3Jade

Is it hard to qualify for adoption?

I am on the fence about haivng more children right now, but know that I will never TTC again because of complications in the last pregnancy and the risk of it happening again. Dh and I are both very young, 22 and 25, but have three other children and a very happy, stable homelife. We are married, and own our home. Dh has a good, secure job, and I can't think of any reasons why we wouldn't qualify. We are both healthy, active people. Do you think our ages could play against us here? I am worried that trying to arrange an adoption within the nest few years may be rough with three other young children and still being so young ourselves. I am nervous about actually moving forward with this process and then being shutdown for reasons that I feel are unfair. Did you worry about that? I know we are wonderful parents, and we would make a loving home and family for any new baby. I'm sure others would see that too. Am I just being silly?

Dr.Loretta

Typically you have to show that you're expected to live a normal lifespan (eg, no terminal illnesses), can afford to raise another child, and can care for said child.

Some agencies have age limits, whether they be lower or upper limits, or require you to be married for a certain amount of time. I don't see that being a problem in either respect with you guys. Some birthfamilies want their kids to be only children, and some want them in a family with siblings. So having bio kids will work for you or against you in specific instances, but birthfamilies look for all types of situations.

We did not worry about such things. We did our research and found an agency that would work with us.

I would encourage you to check out the FAQs, do some basic reading/research, and look into programs in your area. At that point you should know if adoption is something you really want to do, what type of adoption to pursue, and how to go about it.

GL

CaptainSerious

Welcome to the board!

Dr. L. stole everything I was going to say.

GLynn2009

You should be fine with the agencies but the all have some guidlines that seem un fair so just keep looking and you should be able to find one.

I would think that they would question you being so young with your first child more.... I am not judging because I had my first one way to young (19) also.

meganroselee

Dr.Loretta:

Typically you have to show that you're expected to live a normal lifespan (eg, no terminal illnesses), can afford to raise another child, and can care for said child.

Some agencies have age limits, whether they be lower or upper limits, or require you to be married for a certain amount of time. I don't see that being a problem in either respect with you guys. Some birthfamilies want their kids to be only children, and some want them in a family with siblings. So having bio kids will work for you or against you in specific instances, but birthfamilies look for all types of situations.

We did not worry about such things. We did our research and found an agency that would work with us.

I would encourage you to check out the FAQs, do some basic reading/research, and look into programs in your area. At that point you should know if adoption is something you really want to do, what type of adoption to pursue, and how to go about it.

GL

this exactly.

Alliebooberz

Ditto Dr. L