Going to a support meeting tonight,..

Mom2Reese

I'm back over from SAIF, we just had failed FET #2, reconsult next week to figure out what's next. IUIs are covered by ins but we have MFI but no $$ left for a fresh IVF cycle. Who knows what's next for us?! Anyway, through my blog a friend of a friend of a friend read about our journey and we've emailed a couple times over the last year or so about IF. She recently started an IF support group and invited me. Going to a new place with new people by myself is WAY out of my comfort zone but I feel that maybe this group will really help,...this failed FET has been much harder than the last. Anyone been to a support group and found it was helpful? Or just more depressing? I'm hoping to develop some friendships through common ground. We'll see. I'm a ball of nerves at this point.

Ginger71

Never been but would consider it. Ther's not much in my area though.  Let us know how it goes.

Kristendianne

I go to a support group through my church.  We are also meeting tonight.  I didn't know anyone when I first went and have made some wonderful friends.  It has been the most wonderful thing in the world for me.  I seriously don't know how I'd get through IF without it.  Everyone understands how you feel.  Yesterday, I had my ER and someone made my husband and I dinner and brought it over.  We felt so loved.  You should definitely go!  I think you'll get a lot out of it!

MoFree

I have not been to an IF support and hope you find the comfort you are looking for.  However, please do not be surprised if someone who is still waiting for #1 does not unconditionally feel comfortable with you.  I know that IF is IF and a BFN is BFN, but to people who are still waiting to conceive their first child you are in an envious position.  Honestly, if I were going to an IF group, I would be more comfortable with women who had not het conceived, but this may not be how everyone TTC #1 feels.  Just something for you to consider. 

Mom2Reese

MoFree:

I have not been to an IF support and hope you find the comfort you are looking for.  However, please do not be surprised if someone who is still waiting for #1 does not unconditionally feel comfortable with you.  I know that IF is IF and a BFN is BFN, but to people who are still waiting to conceive their first child you are in an envious position.  Honestly, if I were going to an IF group, I would be more comfortable with women who had not het conceived, but this may not be how everyone TTC #1 feels.  Just something for you to consider. 

I completely understand what you're saying...but, this group has women from all different 'stages' on IF. Seems that anyone would feel comfortable there.

chizzle09

MoFree:

I have not been to an IF support and hope you find the comfort you are looking for.  However, please do not be surprised if someone who is still waiting for #1 does not unconditionally feel comfortable with you.  I know that IF is IF and a BFN is BFN, but to people who are still waiting to conceive their first child you are in an envious position.  Honestly, if I were going to an IF group, I would be more comfortable with women who had not het conceived, but this may not be how everyone TTC #1 feels.  Just something for you to consider. 

I went to one and it really helped me. I will say, however, that all the women that went were TTC #1. The women that ran the group have children and were able to talk about their experiences, overcoming IF, etc. That was very helpful. I'm not saying you wouldn't be welcome, but you might want to ask the people who run the group if its okay if you come. I know some women would be fine if there were women dealing with secondary infertility there, but you never know.