Ahh, she finally came. And a WWYD?

brideonjuly8

Period is here, finally.  YAY!  So now....

My mom is planning a trip to KS to see my dad's side of the family and check out our farms, and there is a cool festival going on the first weekend in June so that's when they want us to come because it's really fun (just Steven and I can go). 

I was planning on not doing a medicated cycle this next one since my m/c because I was wanting to see what my cycles would do (and the meds kinda mess with my lining and my fluids greatly decrease).  The cycles after my pregnancy with S were actually really regular and short (30 days) so I was thinking maybe pregnancy sort of resets my cycles somehow.  Even though this cycle was 46 days long and I didn't O until CD 31 my HCG didn't drop until several weeks into it and I think once it was zero my cycle would have been more normal.  Is this making any sense?  I could be way off base, but if I don't have to take any meds I don't want to.  Preseed worked well for us this last cycle when I got pregnant, but I'd really prefer to see what a natural cycle would do before starting the Femara again.

BUT- We would have to leave by CD 19, and even on my last medicated cycle I didn't O until CD 18 (but I could move the meds up to days 3-7 instead of 5-9, which is when I took them before).  And there's also the added expense of being monitored.  So, even on meds it's kinda cutting it close and I don't want to wait another effing cycle.  I just want to get this ball rolling again.  But I also want to go with my mom.

I'm not sure if doing a medicated one this cycle would mess up my cycles like BCP does, so I'm just not sure if the next one would still be normal (if, in fact, they are more normal now). 

I'm sorry this is long and rambly, but I have to decide by tomorrow because I would have to start the Femara tomorrow morning, CD3.

So, would you take the meds to ensure I O before I leave, or do a natural cycle and risk missing out on this month?  Or not go at all and ensure we get to try to make another baby this month?

Thanks for all your input. 

L L CG

Here is what I would do:

Take the meds to ensure that I O before I left for the trip.  Keep in mind, though, that I am crazy. 

eta: YAY for AF! 

ssinca

I would take the meds, but that's me. Since you arent really fond of them, I'd think you should hold off and see what your body does.

amyliisa

I totally understand your concern about wanting to go unmedicated this cycle.  However, if it were me, I would choose either option 1 (medicated) or option 3 (don't go).  It seems like too much of a chance to me, to rely on a natural cycle doing what you need it to do.  That's just me and at this point in the game I wouldn't want to take that big of a chance.

Now as far as whether to medicate or stay home from the trip...  Can't help you there, because I don't know what I would do.  I guess it would come down to finances - it's obv more expensive to medicate and be monitored, plus you will likely have some expenses on your trip.  If expense is a factor, then it seems like staying home and being unmedicated is the best way to go...   Sorry - I know this is such a tough choice!

ali-1411

I would not take the meds and risk missing the cycle.  Its one cycle.  One month.  In the long run, I think you'll be happier for having made the trip.  And if you get pregnant next month instead of this month...really what difference does it make?  You have to make yourself happy now.  And S would enjoy the trip with a happy mom, that's more important than anything else.

HSartteach

no advice on the meds as I would have no idea what I am talking about.

But, congrats on AF--I never thought I would say that!

Emer

MrsRosie:

I have never taken meds, so I can't know how they really make you feel, but all things being equal I would take them, O in time to get it on before the trip, then take the trip.  It would suck to miss the trip when you may not even get PG that cycle anyway, KWIM?  If you have a better chance of getting PG on the meds and you could in turn then take the trip, it seems like more of a win-win.

This.  I think if you take the trip and miss the cycle, you won't fully enjoy your time there.  And I think you should definitely go on the trip.

mlf625

L*L*CG:

Here is what I would do:

Take the meds to ensure that I O before I left for the trip.  Keep in mind, though, that I am crazy. 

eta: YAY for AF! 

That's exactly what I would do, too.

One month may not seem like a long time to a "regular" person, but I know how much added stress and sadness having to wait an extra month can bring when you've had a m/c or tttc.  I'd do what you can to get a chance at this cycle, then go on the trip and enjoy your sweet S. 

kiarox2002

I would take the meds and I would go on the trip.  Will they let you take the trigger shot with you?  (Are you doing a trigger?)

 

brideonjuly8

kiarox2002:

I would take the meds and I would go on the trip.  Will they let you take the trigger shot with you?  (Are you doing a trigger?)

 

Not doing the trigger.  I didn't end up needed it, got pg the cycle I decided against it because of the s/e. 

AustinMimi

Ditto Rosie. 

fjaril

ok, take this with a grain of salt b/c I've never had to face these problems, but...

 I would take the kiddo and go. I wouldn't do meds this cycle. I'd let me body have a cycle and no worry about taking meds, triggering early etc. Just let you body have a break.

I think once you are there, you'll have a great time and be able to just let things go. I might even talk with my mom first and let her know baby talk is off limits that weekend. Just try to enjoy yourself and your kiddo and have fun.

I think that'll be healthy for your body and brain. 

 

bluestreet

fjaril:

ok, take this with a grain of salt b/c I've never had to face these problems, but...

 I would take the kiddo and go. I wouldn't do meds this cycle. I'd let me body have a cycle and no worry about taking meds, triggering early etc. Just let you body have a break.

I think once you are there, you'll have a great time and be able to just let things go. I might even talk with my mom first and let her know baby talk is off limits that weekend. Just try to enjoy yourself and your kiddo and have fun.

I think that'll be healthy for your body and brain. 

 

This exactly. It seems like you've been on such a roller coaster that it might be nice to just let your mind and body be for a month. But, I haven't been in your shoes, so I don't know if a month of not trying will feel like a month squandered.

eta: congrats on getting your flow!

jml5q

is this your first cycle after your d&c? i'm assuming you got the ok to ttc this cycle. i only ask because we were told to wait 1 month, although i know different drs say different things.

i'd probably skip the meds this cycle and go on the trip. sperm can live up to 5 days or something. plus what if you take the meds and still don't O until after you've left. i think i'd be more upset if i went medicated and still didn't O until late.

but i think you should definitely go on the trip, it sounds fun and relaxing!

AustinBride06

bluestreet:

fjaril:

ok, take this with a grain of salt b/c I've never had to face these problems, but...

 I would take the kiddo and go. I wouldn't do meds this cycle. I'd let me body have a cycle and no worry about taking meds, triggering early etc. Just let you body have a break.

I think once you are there, you'll have a great time and be able to just let things go. I might even talk with my mom first and let her know baby talk is off limits that weekend. Just try to enjoy yourself and your kiddo and have fun.

I think that'll be healthy for your body and brain. 

 

This exactly. It seems like you've been on such a roller coaster that it might be nice to just let your mind and body be for a month. But, I haven't been in your shoes, so I don't know if a month of not trying will feel like a month squandered.

eta: congrats on getting your flow!

 

I would say ditto this, but I know exactly how you feel and that you don't want to waste any time.  The waiting to TTC is excruciating b/c it feels like you're just wasting precious cycles.  In fact, I spent a lot of time telling my therapist last night how much pressure I feel like I'm putting myself under to get PG by my EDD at the end of the summer.  And if I need medical help to TTC, I want to go to my doctor at the end of the summer knowing that DH and I did everything humanly possible to get PG on our own.

That said, if I thought I had a good chance this cycle, I'd probably do the meds if possible but I would still go on the trip.  If I wasn't sure that the timing would be good, I'd take a month off the meds and try to be okay with "whatever happens, happens" this cycle.

brideonjuly8

jml5q:

is this your first cycle after your d&c? i'm assuming you got the ok to ttc this cycle. i only ask because we were told to wait 1 month, although i know different drs say different things.

i'd probably skip the meds this cycle and go on the trip. sperm can live up to 5 days or something. plus what if you take the meds and still don't O until after you've left. i think i'd be more upset if i went medicated and still didn't O until late.

but i think you should definitely go on the trip, it sounds fun and relaxing!

Yeah, we were told to wait one cycle, and that was last month, so we're good to go now.