night weaning dust please.

KellyMRocks

I started night weaning tonight. We are using Dr Gordon's method, which is basically just offering comfort that is not boob. Then slowly offering no comfort. It sucks, its hard. She was so pissed at me. But it needs to be done. Some nights are better than others, but.most nights she comfort nurses for hours on end.

I could use some "stay sane and be consistent" dust.

ZoeMay06

Stay sane and be consistent dust on the way! It sounds like this will be a big improvement for you all, even if Winnie doesn't agree just yet. Hopefully she'll get the picture soon. Night weaning was hard for us too as we were also cosleeping. Some nights I just had to turn my back on her! She finally figured it out and we were all much happier getting more sleep at night.

Mrs_Shmoopie

I hope Night 1 went okay!!  Tons and tons of Stay Sane and Be Consistent Dust headed your way!!  Just stick with it -if you backslide then all last night's work will be for nothing and you'll just have to start all over with her eventually.  It won't be the first time you'll have to do what's best for her (and the family as a whole -b/c doesn't a more well-rested mommy=good things for everyone??) and she'll disagree loudly.  You didn't come to the decision to night wean lightly and you are absolutely doing what you know in your heart is best (even though it may not feel like it in the middle of the night while she's loudly protesting).  {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}

Celyn

Hugs and make it work dust!  Removing mom from the bed altogether is what we had to do in the end.   Poor B got no sleep, but dude it was time for him to take one for the team

ashleyhuney

Good luck, you can do it!

 

Sounds like she has a strong suck/comfort/sleep connection.  Just curious, have you tried any of the methods to disconnect sucking/sleep?  I don't know anything about Dr. Gordon's method so maybe that's part of it, the only technique we tried was the pantley pull off in No Cry Sleep Solution and it worked for J.  He was an all night nurser too.  I never full on night weaned but discovered half way into the process that a sippy of water was the ticket.  From the night we gave him water in his crib he slept all night (unless he was sick, etc) so I swear it was magic   Of course, now we have a kid whose comfort item is a sippy of water and God forbid you forget it, but I figure there are worse things to be attached to!

EmmieB

lots of dust!

KellyMRocks

ashleyhuney:

Good luck, you can do it!

 

Sounds like she has a strong suck/comfort/sleep connection.  Just curious, have you tried any of the methods to disconnect sucking/sleep?  I don't know anything about Dr. Gordon's method so maybe that's part of it, the only technique we tried was the pantley pull off in No Cry Sleep Solution and it worked for J.  He was an all night nurser too.  I never full on night weaned but discovered half way into the process that a sippy of water was the ticket.  From the night we gave him water in his crib he slept all night (unless he was sick, etc) so I swear it was magic   Of course, now we have a kid whose comfort item is a sippy of water and God forbid you forget it, but I figure there are worse things to be attached to!

HI A, 

 

I have tried delatching. She wakes immediately. Like I said, some nights I can get away from her, other nights I can't even get up to to go the bathroom without waking her.

Dr Gordon's method, is almost specifically for cosleepers and for babies over 12 months of age.You pick the 7 hours a night you want to not be nursing and start there.  Nights 1 through 3, when they wake you nurse but not to sleep. Nights 4 through 7 you don't nurse, but offer other comfort (rocking, shooshing, patting). Nights 8 through 10 you continue to lay with them but don't pick them up, rock or shoosh. 

Last night, her first wake up, she cried for an hour while I tried to comfort. Second wake up was *only* 10 minutes, but it sure felt longer! I decided to nurse after 5 hours and then start the process over, since I felt like 7 hours was long for her. But I nursed her after 5 hours (at 3am) and fell asleep. I woke up to her still latched at 5:30. 

mommy2jay

lots of dust to you for night weaning success!  and hugs for the times that are tough too

love22

That can be tough.  M loved to nurse.  I slowly decreased his time nursing until I didn't offer it at all.  Does she take a paci at all?  That helped us and was much easier to quit than nursing.

Good luck!

SweetieP

Good Luck!

KellyMRocks

love22:

That can be tough.  M loved to nurse.  I slowly decreased his time nursing until I didn't offer it at all.  Does she take a paci at all?  That helped us and was much easier to quit than nursing.

Good luck!

Unfortunately, she will not take a paci. Or a bottle. She got pisssssed last night when I tried to offer it to her.  

shnelly

Sending you continued strength. We haven't attempted yet. I think I need to be out of the bed, like T mentioned.