TTC @ 40

Fall89

Okay!  Hi Everyone,

I am new to the whole board thing, so I am not sure what all of the codes mean.  On top of that, I am trying to conceive at 40 years and 5 months old!  I have no Fallopian tubes so IVF is my only option.  I am about to undergo my 3rd round of IVF.. My first cycle ended early.  My 2nd Cycle we go to the implantation only to have a chemical pregnancy and early miscarriage.  After several tests, the docs think they have it right.  They were STUNNED (their words) that my twins didn't stick.  (I had 2 live births very early 20s and have a 20 and 17 year old.)

I had a THROMBOPHILIA work up and discovered that I was lucky to have had 2 live births. (This may explain the miscarriages between my son and daughter.)  I am at risk for clotting. 

 I feel a little guilty being here.  On the one hand this whole peri-menopause thing coupled with a new hubby and desire for new family makes me feel just as worthy as the next to be here.  On the other, I feel greedy and less than deserving because I was blessed with children and this is my second go at the baby buffet!

I decided to post to just relieve some of the many roller coastery type feelings I have somewhere other than on hubby!  I hope someone out there understands.  This is crazy.  I have never NOT succeeded at something I wanted so badly.  I don't know what to do with these feelings, especially since HORMONE REPLACEMENT makes them change from one moment to the next.

I go in for one last test next week and if all goes well, I get to start my 3rd and probably final round of IVF.  I just thought it might be nice to have someone to talk to!

Thanks for listening!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Banana44

There are quite a few of us on this board who already have children.  I have an 8 yo SS(stepson) and a 2 yo DD(dear daughter). 

Having children already doesn't mean we can't have feelings of wanting to complete our family.

Congrats on the new hubby(DH) and I hope round 3 works for you!

Good luck!

happywifemomofone

Welcome to the board.  I have an 18 y.o. DS who graduates HS next week.  Spent 15+ years being the best single mom that I could be to DS.  Finally got married to a wonderful man in late 2009.  DH has no children, was previously married and then widowed young.  This board is a great place with a variety of women at all different places in their journey.  We are also doing IVF, in the middle of stimming for IVF #2. Wish that I had thought ahead in my 30s and planned for the idea that I might want to have children.  RE already recommended DE for us, but for us-we're just not interested.  Wishing you best of luck and hopefully you'll be able to move to PG after 35 real soon!

klm195

I think - whether you have children or not, you still 'fit' the board - you are 35+ and trying to have a baby.

Welcome!  And like the rest of us - may your stay be short and you be on your way to a happy and healthy nine months of pregnancy soon!

Country Girl in the City

Welcome to the board.  Don't feel guilty about being here.  I am trying for #1 and it is nice to have some women around my age (I will be 37 next month) with experiences that I have not had yet.

the struggle and hustle

Welcome - I also just recently joined.  I hope your stay is short and your treatments are successful!

lindaeverly

Welcome!  I agree with all of the PP's (previous posters).  It doesn't matter if you have children already or not.  You are 35+ & trying to have a baby, so you can join us if you'd like!  The ladies on this board are so supportive & informative, so hopefully you will feel at home here. 

LMHCnewlywed

Welcome! And I can totally relate as I am blessed with a beautiful 4 year old son. I was lucky to even have him (have PCOS, hypothyroidism and was 38 and overweight when I conceived). I also had a very high risk pregnancy. I still want another and really want a sibling for my son but the odds are very much against me as I am now 43!! Yikes i does not seem possible as I type that age.

Good luck and this isa great supportive place to be!

boymamaco

Welcome to the board! You fit in here... so take the emotional roller coaster out here and not on hubby. I'm sorry for your miscarriages. I hope this next IVF cycle is it for you!