when does nesting kick in?

alilag

I had my 2nd baby shower yesterday & it was a surprise shower.  It was wonderful & I had a great time.  When we unloaded the car I asked DH to put it all in the basement w/ all the other baby stuff.  I went downstairs today & looked at a room filled with sooo much stuff!!!!!  The nursery furniture is all set up but I have not washed clothes or put together any other baby supplies.  I had high hopes to start thank you notes, start laundry, put away things in the closet but all I did was waste the day away sitting on the couch watching t.v. & dealing w/ my miserable allergies.  I think denial is hitting me pretty hard right now & I'm feeling very overwhelmed.  I can't wait until nesting kicks in b/c I need to get my butt in gear.  This is the first time in my pregnancy that I feel like crying because I'm afraid of motherhood but I can't cry.  I'd like to just get it over with but I'm stuck in this denial/overwhelmed phase.  

pettycrocker

lol I feel like I could have written this myself - The nursery door is always closed, but I went in there today to grab a pack of wipes and realized (what a mess!) Everything is ALL over the place- there's a bunch of opened and scattered boxes full of stuff - it was just too much. I basically ran out of there and closed the door again LOL. I haven't started laundry yet either! As far as the nesting bit goes- Who knows! We're slackers I guess, but after seeing the room I honestly don't even want to think about getting it all straightened up  

-Good luck to us, I guess  

kell8807

I got a huge surge of energy today & cleaned our house.  But we still haven't done anything to the nursery.  It'll get done at some point & if not, then I guess it's a good thing she'll be sleeping in our room for awhile.

Don't let yourself get so overwhelmed!  Let your SO help do stuff.  He can help fold laundry & put it away, too.  It will get done!   Write thank you's gradually as you watch tv. Or set aside some time after dinner for you & your SO to do them together.  When we did ours DH would read off the list of who bought what items, while I would write, then he'd address the envelopes.  It went much faster & I didn't feel like I had so much to do on my own.

lissiealkie

I didn't start nesting til about the last month with DS.  I got all the stuff done, but just didn't start frantically cleaning and all that til the very end. 

miller4285

Oh..the nesting desire is there for me. I have all sorts of plans. But that's about where it ends...because I am too lazy and/or tired and/or big to do any of it...

FutureMrsWittig

Me too.  I keep thinking I'm going to get things done, but then I'm sore and achy and grumpy and I don't want to do anything but lay on the couch.

I'm feeling very depressed.  Which naturally isn't helping my overwhelmed and scared feelings...  Trying to excersize more to make myself feel better, so hopefully those endorphins will kick in soon.

staticgirl77

I was/am in the same boat. But what really has worked for me is putting everything I need to have done, no matter how small or trivial, on a list in my Ipad. Once I could see what I had left to do, I prioritize my list based on how I am feeling (or what I feel I can handle) or my time constraints. I try to get one thing off my list everyday, even if it's super small. I also send my husband updated lists and have a star by the things I expect him to do. This is what has really worked for me and I am seeing a difference is my attitude towards it. Plus it makes the time between now and when I am due fly by

skimball09

I didn't nest at all with DS! I'm nesting more with LO but with DS I was like "ehh" haha...no worries if it doesn't happen!

MrsWilliams2B

With DS, I think I started about 34wks. It was right before my baby shower. I was washing DS clothes, folding and refolding them...I was reogranizing the fridge, our room, and all kinds of stuff. With LO, I am kind of there. I have all these plans, going through our winter clothes and putting them away (If it ever stays warm enough to not need them!), getting the house completely spotless. None the less, once I get MH and DS out the door to work/school, I usually lay back down and sleep a few more hours. When I get up, try to get started but tire easily, can't get something done because I am too big..or I get sidetracked. Bah!

CABeachMom11

to be honest, if I wasnt so stressed/overwhelmed at work, I dont know if Id be as crazy about nesting right now... I use it as a distraction from work.  ( I used to do this in college too- right around finals/paper writing time I would go on a cleaning spree!)   It will kick in when you are ready. Don't stress about it and don't compare yourself to others too much.