Should I let her do this? BFing related.

JJ&BB1146

DD is 13.5 months and is still BFing. She has started crawling up in my lap, pulling down my camisole, and nursing randomly during the day. I guess at home it's not THAT big of a deal, but could be embarrassing if we are out in public (she already sticks her hands down my shirts in public). Should I be letting her do this? Is it bad for her to learn she can just pull down my shirt and get milk whenever she wants? I just don't know whether to refuse her if she does that or just let her. (FWIW, she nurses 4x/day, morning, 2 naps, and before bed). 

rssnlvr

I wouldn't let her, but that's because I wouldn't want to confuse and upset her by telling her no if she does it at an inopportune time. She likely wouldn't understand and would feel rejected by mommy. Have you introduced cow milk yet? Could you just start teaching her that mommy's milk comes at these predictable times and all other times she's welcome to other milk or water? She may just be thirsty.

Abrooks

I think it's a personal preference. I wouldn't want to because I'd be concerned about how she might act in public since she doesn't understand the difference between private and public at her age.  Do you sign with her?  I might start trying to teach her the milk sign instead so she can communicate when she is hungry in a different way to you.  

m_and_m

She is definitely old enough to start learning nursing manners. I nursed DD on demand for a looooong time (2 years? 2.5 years? Not sure exactly when I started making her wait until it was more convenient for me, but she nursed until she was 3.), but I did not allow her to pull my shirt up or down. When she did, I just put my shirt back where it belonged, removed her hand, and told her it wasn't polite. Over, and over, and over, and over again. Eventually she learned to ask instead. As PP suggested, you can teach her the sign for "milk" or "nurse" so she won't feel like she has to "demand" it in that way.