ANOTHER new board?!?!

amiamish

omg. why?

ETA: well crap, I see ANOTHER one... so that's 2 new ones.

shopgirl78

Are you talking about child free?   TTTC requested to have a safe haven from bfps and ttc related stuff as they have exhausted/quit treatment and have chosen not go the adoption route...

Or is there another new one? 

amiamish

yes that was the one I was talking about. Then I saw the " IF vets" I just realized that's not super new. And how is IF different from child free? (I don't mean that in a snarky way)

juniper19

amiamish:

yes that was the one I was talking about. Then I saw the " IF vets" I just realized that's not super new. And how is IF different from child free? (I don't mean that in a snarky way)

I assume they've stopped TTC.  I'm sure it isn't PC to say so, but they've "given up" trying.  I could see how it would be painful to have gone through a few rounds of IVF and decided to stop and then see happy BFP posts from people who are still trying.

firefightersgal

Yes, it is for people who have stopped TTC and don't have plans to adopt.  It is painful for them to see BFP's and read mostly TTC posts when they cannot and probably will not have children. 

ghm

As people said the other day, though, why not on the nest? I know I've seen/heard that it's painful for them to see the ads/random avatars on the bump. It doesn't make sense to make them sign in to a pregnancy/parenting site if they are not having children.

justEK

ghm:

As people said the other day, though, why not on the nest? I know I've seen/heard that it's painful for them to see the ads/random avatars on the bump. It doesn't make sense to make them sign in to a pregnancy/parenting site if they are not having children.

I was wondering the same thing. 

amiamish

justEK:

ghm:

As people said the other day, though, why not on the nest? I know I've seen/heard that it's painful for them to see the ads/random avatars on the bump. It doesn't make sense to make them sign in to a pregnancy/parenting site if they are not having children.

I was wondering the same thing. 

my thougts exactly...

juniper19

amiamish:

justEK:

ghm:

As people said the other day, though, why not on the nest? I know I've seen/heard that it's painful for them to see the ads/random avatars on the bump. It doesn't make sense to make them sign in to a pregnancy/parenting site if they are not having children.

I was wondering the same thing. 

my thougts exactly...

Well, they were probably coming to the bump for a while before they stopped trying, so it is probably a convenient way to capture that audience.

But also, I have been emailing with a friend who is doing her third round of IVF and she remarked how frustrating it is to not have any control.  It made me chuckle because all of parenthood is about not having control of your life the way you did before children.  So I wrote her back that parents and parent-hopefuls both have that struggle in common and whether you are succesful or not in the end, the decision to be a parent is a shared bond.  So maybe those non-parents feel like they belong on this site more than a site for couples that don't want children (yet).  I'm probably overthinking this a little...

amiamish

juniper19:

Well, they were probably coming to the bump for a while before they stopped trying, so it is probably a convenient way to capture that audience.

But also, I have been emailing with a friend who is doing her third round of IVF and she remarked how frustrating it is to not have any control.  It made me chuckle because all of parenthood is about not having control of your life the way you did before children.  So I wrote her back that parents and parent-hopefuls both have that struggle in common and whether you are succesful or not in the end, the decision to be a parent is a shared bond.  So maybe those non-parents feel like they belong on this site more than a site for couples that don't want children (yet).  I'm probably overthinking this a little...

ok I can kinda understand that...

MaxandRuby

I'll probably get flamed, but who cares that there are new boards?  If you want to check 'em out then check 'em out.  I guess I don't get why people get their panties in a bunch because a new board is created. 

amiamish

MaxandRuby:

I'll probably get flamed, but who cares that there are new boards?  If you want to check 'em out then check 'em out.  I guess I don't get why people get their panties in a bunch because a new board is created. 

because when they create new boards it pulls people from existing boards, which means less activity on that board... Like here. Back before there was tri boards, 0-12 boards, toddler boards, and a gazillion others, we all talked here. It kept the board moving and there was lots to talk about. It's nice talking to people that have gone through it before instead of just those going through it at the same time. It's just crazy to have so many boards for one thing in common-we all have kids, we should all talk on the same board.

MaxandRuby

Really? People stop going to boards they previously been a part of?  I guess I could totally see that.  I guess for me, I go to all the boards that interest me. I don't just stop visiting one board because a new/more specialized board was created.  But I guess I could see people doing that.  I do agree that the number of specialized boards is kind of insane....

ghm

Yes, the creation of all of these boards is highly annoying. Most of the "vets" hang out here. If you go on the 0-3 month board, etc, it's basically the blind leading the blind. When it was the nest, TTC/pregnant, new moms hung out on BOTB, and then parents hung out on parenting. Some continued to just post on their regular board (ML, relationships, etc). I think while the boards are nice at times, it's also really dumb. Everyone whines that they don't have a board for their specific issue. AND at this point, I don't know why they don't just create a board any time someone requests it. They have so many boards as it is, what's one more? Like the allergy board? WTH are they having to fight so hard for it when there are 2 different diapering boards, 5+ IF boards, boards for every birth month for the last 2 years, etc. I've also seen the high drama if you dare post on the wrong board--secondary IF can't post on the regular IF board, then you have TTTC, and then you have the board for if you're snarky and TTTC. It's kind of this entitlement vibe I get. I've seen people get ripped apart for posting on the wrong board, and it wasn't like that before there were 5 million boards.

amiamish

ghm:

Yes, the creation of all of these boards is highly annoying. Most of the "vets" hang out here. If you go on the 0-3 month board, etc, it's basically the blind leading the blind. When it was the nest, TTC/pregnant, new moms hung out on BOTB, and then parents hung out on parenting. Some continued to just post on their regular board (ML, relationships, etc). I think while the boards are nice at times, it's also really dumb. Everyone whines that they don't have a board for their specific issue. AND at this point, I don't know why they don't just create a board any time someone requests it. They have so many boards as it is, what's one more? Like the allergy board? WTH are they having to fight so hard for it when there are 2 different diapering boards, 5+ IF boards, boards for every birth month for the last 2 years, etc. I've also seen the high drama if you dare post on the wrong board--secondary IF can't post on the regular IF board, then you have TTTC, and then you have the board for if you're snarky and TTTC. It's kind of this entitlement vibe I get. I've seen people get ripped apart for posting on the wrong board, and it wasn't like that before there were 5 million boards.

exactly