Vent (NBR) long....

sarajean5682

My husband and I have been together for 3 years.  Prior to that I dated a man for 9 years (we never got married, thank God).  My best friend, who was my Matron of Honor, is married to my ex's brother. My ex and I split up because he frequently had issues keeping his zipper up (if you know what I mean). 

Anyway, to get to the point, his mother blamed me saying if I made him happy enough he wouldn't have "had" to do what he did.  Which yes, I know is a ridiculous statement so it never really bothered me.  It showed/shows her character.  My BFF was by her house yesterday (the woman is her mother-in-law).  They were talking about vacations this summer and my BFF says well after the camping vacation I'll only have one day left and I'm saving that for November when Sara has her baby.  I guess she didn't know I was pg.  Her comment to my BFF.... "wow, she didn't waste any time but I suppose she is getting up there in age."  

Really????  That's all she could think to say and to my BEST FRIEND!  I'm only 29 and when baby is born my DH and I will have been married for 13 months.  Why do I let that woman annoy the s*** out of me?  

Thanks for letting me vent and sorry for the long post..... 

jessica102706

Sorry that you have to hear things like that but as you said, this woman obviously has no character. She also raised a son who disrespects women and she sees nothing wrong with what he has done. So I would not expect much more from a woman like that. Try to ignore her. She isnt going to stop saying these things so if it really bothers you, let your friend know so she wont tell you when she makes stupid comments.

charlsie26

It's hard to be first class when your white trash....people suck

sarajean5682

charlsie26:

It's hard to be first class when your white trash....people suck

This seriously made me LOL!  You couldn't be more accurate.  

shanniebananie

I'm so sorry you had to hear what that woman had said to you. Seeing as the woman is so toxic, I'd likely ask your friend to refrain from mentioning you in her presence or, at the very least, not share the garbage the woman has to say about you. 

marista99

jessica102706:

Sorry that you have to hear things like that but as you said, this woman obviously has no character. She also raised a son who disrespects women and she sees nothing wrong with what he has done. So I would not expect much more from a woman like that. Try to ignore her. She isnt going to stop saying these things so if it really bothers you, let your friend know so she wont tell you when she makes stupid comments.

This 100%.  I'm not even sure why your friend felt the need to repeat this to you.  It's just hurtful and accomplishes nothing.

Blondee82

marista99:

jessica102706:

She isnt going to stop saying these things so if it really bothers you, let your friend know so she wont tell you when she makes stupid comments.

This 100%.  I'm not even sure why your friend felt the need to repeat this to you.  It's just hurtful and accomplishes nothing.

Ditto, your friend isn't in the wrong here but she would've done you both a favor had she not repeated this to you.  If she was determined to tell you, the least she could've done is defend you to her MIL.

sarajean5682

My friend did defend me and she only told me because she spilled the beans to her and felt bad. As a rule she never repeats what is said about me. Its not my friend I was venting about. She is the biggest support I have, next to DH.