Hi (Vent)

learningtobesolo

I'm joining you brave ladies after my STBX of nearly five yearsthreatened to hit me in February.  We separated for a short time and I officially filed two weeks ago.  Unfortunately, it looks like we're headed for 50/50 physical custody which would be more tolerable if I thought he was fighting for it for the right reasons. 

Instead, I suspect he's just trying to "stick it to me" and have "A" as much as possible for a)child support reasons and b) because he knows how painful it is for me not to be with her as much.  In fact, I'll likely have to pay him child support because he is currently unemployed which makes me physically ill to think about.  He can emotionally abuse me for years, posture, threaten to hit me, intentionally "lose" his job the day before I went back on maternity leave and promote it as if he is a "great dad" for "sacrificing" to stay at home with A when in fact he was too lazy to work and though taking care of her would be the "easy" route...and get 50/50 custody and a $300/month child support payment. 

I've lurked for awhile under a previous user ID but my STBX knew that username so I've changed to this brand new one (obviously).  I just want to thank you for your strength that you've shown me, especially achase with your blog.  Your situation is similar to mine in the areas of control and manipulation and a general feeling of being mind fvcked by another person.  Thank you for your openness.

 

 

StrawberryAlarmClock

Hi and ((hugs)).