Question

Me&Mr.T

I mostly lurk on here for information, and I've posted a few questions here or there.

My husband and I have TTC for 3 1/2 years, however the last year we've been on a break from treatments for a few reasons. One of the things we've discussed is potentially adopting to add onto our family either in addition to having biological children or instead of. A child is a child to us and we are looking forward to being parents. But the length of time TTC has weighed on my emotions. I've also been going through a lot with my family right now and have considered going to counseling to work through it all. Will going to counseling for my IF and family affect our hopes to adopt someday? 

MrsKolasa

No! You just need to be honest with your social worker during your homestudy and your dr. and your counselor will need to fill out some paperwork regarding your mental status/health.

I dealt with a lot of anxiety/depression while TTC and dealing with our IF and losses. I was medicated for both until Luke was a few months old. Get the help you need, it will be fine during your homestudy.

 

jehnm

Absolutely not!  They will probably see it as a good thing that you went through counseling to help deal with your feelings. 

Jen717

We just finished the classes and home study portion of being licensed to adopt through the state, and a big part of the process was making sure that we had properly dealt with the "loss" of not having biological children. Like PPs said, I think that they would see it as a positive thing as long as you're upfront and explain your reasoning.

GLynn2009

Be honest and upfront and it will be a good thing that you are proactive to help yourself.

silliestbunny

Agreeing w/PPs that it's not likely to impact.  However, some international adoptions may be impacted if you ever end up on anti-depressants.  (No judgement here... it's just good info to have.)  That said, take care of your mental health NOW... you'll be happy you are feeling better

Also-- see if you can find a therapist that has a history of work in the area of IF (or even adoption).   I have a good friend that's done a ton of work in this area... if you were in SoCal, I'd give you her name and number

Me&Mr.T

Thanks everyone! I'm not depressed, so I don't see me ending up on medications (no judgement! I just know I'm not depressed). I just have some issues that I really would like to work through so that I can let them go, etc. I am very glad that this is something I can move forward with.