Name question, would you be mad?

JOEBunny

Ok, I normally scoff at the name "ownership" post, but this kind of gets to me.  My cousin & his wife had a baby boy on Sunday.  They also have twins who are 1 month older than my DD. 

Our new baby boy is due in 4.5 months.  They named their new baby and are calling him by my DH's name, which WAS at the top of our list.

This cousin is 2 years younger than my brother and was named & called the same thing as my brother, which was weird anyway, since there were only 4 of us on that side of the family at the time and both boys had the same name. It was not a family name.

I just think they could have at least mentioned it to us that they planned to name their child my DH's name, since we have kids so close in age.  

What do you think?

kittycarr

I'll never understand why this is a big deal.

Zenya

I don't see the big deal about 2 kids having the same name so it wouldn't bother me.

DandR

its your cousin...so their child and your child will be related how?? not very closely....do you spend a lot of time with this cousin? 

Honestly, if it didn't bother him to be one of 2 John's or whatever the name was in the family to worry about using the name, then it probably shouldn't bother you.

**BAC***

I may be a little irritated at first but I would get over it if it was a name we had a hearts set on. 

femmegem

Yeah, I'm not really seeing the big deal here.

DandelionMom

I'd be annoyed that they weren't a bit more considerate. ?But no, I wouldn't be mad. ?If you love the name, use it anyway. ?I grew up with a cousin that is nearly the same age with almost the same name and it was a little confusing but mostly fine. ?

shopgirl_07

You know, I think I'd mention it to my cousin if I was going to name my son the same name as their DH. So it's kind of odd that they didn't give you a heads up.

 But I'd still go ahead and use that name though, wouldn't let that stop me.

skippy2310

Not a big deal to me.

 

ashleyvc1

I wouldn't be mad, however would think it's kinda funny that they have not creativity....

mommyof4boys

Do you see them often?  DH an I also have cousins with the name of Christopher and I have a cousin with the name of John.  My cousin's hubby's name is John and they wanted to name their son John but we named our son Jon (we were due within a few weeks of each other) and they got upset at us.  They named their son Giovanni instead.  No one batted an eye at us when we named our kids names that were already in the family.  In our case, I haven't seen my cousin Chris in about 20 years and DH rarely sees his cousin.  My cousin Jon and I see each other about once or twice a year.  But, my cousin and her husband John, we see more often.

When we were considering names for Christopher, Joseph came up.  DS#1 was helping us name him and suggested this name.  My BIL's name is Joseph.  We knew they wanted to try soon for a baby so we chose to not use this name since we weren't sure if they wanted to.  Turns out they had girls so it was a non-issue.  

I'd go ahead and use the name.  You, I'm assuming will name your son after your husband.  In our case, Jon and Chris are family names.  Jon, Matty and Chris' middle names are also family names.

femmegem

Okay, I take it back to an extent. I'm kind of slow right now and missed the fact that you were thinking of naming your next child after your DH. But did you mention that to your cousin?

I have a lot of cousins and one of them actually has an Alex. She had her Alex a good 10 years before we had ours. Honestly, I never see my cousins and I forgot she even had a son named Alex. She may have been annoyed with me, I have no idea. I hope not, but if she was oh well.

I'd still use the name if you really love it. How often are you really going to see this cousin and her child?

stacynikki

I wouldn't be mad.  I would still name my child whatever I wanted to regardless of who named who what. 

My SIL's sil (her DH's sister) recently had a baby girl and named her Reese.  I told her that I loved that name and it was at the top of our list if we have a girl next go round.  She said that was funny because they loved DS's name but took it off the list after we had DS since we named him that.  I've never met either one of these people and if I have a girl and want to name her Reese, then so be it.  I hope they don't think that I'm not going to use it just because they did.  And I wouldn't care at all if they name their DS Liam in the future. 

jaredswife

Is DH's name uncommon?  I think that you dont really have a right to be mad about it.  It is just a name.  You can still use it.

pincushion

shopgirl_07:

You know, I think I'd mention it to my cousin if I was going to name my son the same name as their DH. So it's kind of odd that they didn't give you a heads up.

 But I'd still go ahead and use that name though, wouldn't let that stop me.

 

ditto.

I would have just been a common courtesy to mention it. I have 2 cousins with my name.. not so bad now that we live 10 states away but it was a real PIA growing up with 2 other kids we saw regularly and "JENN, JEN, JENNY" being yelled out every 5 minutes.