I just got a text from my Ex......(weight gain related) Vent...

MrsG NC

Not trying to give you a hard time..but I'm guessing this post isn't going how you thought it would. 

I think everyone is just a little confused as to why A. you are talking to your ex in the first place and B. clearly fishing for compliments (whether you realize it or not), bringing up your weight and being hurt by someone's response clearly indicates you were expecting a different response, which means you were expecting a compliment.

 

Mt2G1012

I'm so glad to see you, amy052006 on this board!  I have missed you!

monkiem

amy052006:

Crystal318:

t watley:

It's pretty shitty to break a man's heart by leaving him in the dust and making a baby with a different man. It's even more shitty to maintain contact with that man when he clearly still has feelings for you. I'm all for being friends with exes, but it is really inappropriate in this case.

And based on this story alone, I'm having a hard time thinking that you're "just too nice".

You're right, I am a total f*cking ***.

And I am sure that all of you have NEVER engaged in any sexual activity before getting married. I am sure that there was never a moment in any or your lives where you could have gotten pregnant and it wasnt planned.

I got pregnant. I had the baby. I wouldnt change it for the world.  He was the best thing that ever happend to me.

Now if I could just lose some weight...which was the entire intention of this post. Damn you ladies are cranky!

I can say with 100% certainty that 1) I always practiced safe sex until I was TTC and 2) no, I didn't screw another guy while "on a break" from my boyfriend.

Bahahaha.  I love it.  

OP, we're not cranky, we just have morals and standards.  

J+MS

heckysue:

J+MS:

FTR, I adore hecky.

and you can't be friends with this dude, especially once you're married. 

::Humps J+MS's leg::

And I you :P

J+MS

heatherm818:

I'm so glad to see you, amy052006 on this board!  I have missed you!

I second this!

rg8482

OP, in reading this post and the one you made the other day about feeling down about the weight gain, I get it -- anything anyone says to you about your weight will suck regardless of how it is said, BUT I also agree with the PP's that you shouldn't have mentioned anything if you didn't want to hear a potentially hurtful comment in return.  If your ex has feelings for you, it's hard to remain friends and keep it that way.  Not that I think it's impossible to be friends with exes, but your ex clearly does not see you as a friend and you need to set some boundaries.

AuburnBride06

Crystal318:

A little background:

Ex and I were together for over five years. We were taking some space (initiated by me) and I ended up dating my current FI. I got pregnant pretty quickly and of course I broke things off with Ex completely. He was devastated.

He texts me to say hi every once in a great while (FI knows about this).

I ran into Ex's roommate a couple weeks ago while I was with LO.

The text from my Ex that I just got is asking me to stop by his work (a local restuarant) just so he can see me and say hi (admittedly, he is still not over me). My text back to him (I am very sarcastic) says something to the affect of "I dont think that is a good idea but trust me, I dont think you would want to see me anyways, didnt Roomate tell you I blew up?"  (I was kinda joking around but its true that I did gain a lot of weight since Ex and I were together).  Ex responds back and and says "YES, Roomate did said that you got a big, but I dont care" 

I am bothered by the fact that I have gained  weight but it just sucks to hear that other people are actually talking about it!!!  I love to be the topic of a FAT conversation..NOT!  Now I am even more depressed about it then I was before! 

I said "Well, did he at least tell you how cute LO is - at least that would make up for it" and he said "No, he just told me about you (how fat I got)"    Great. That makes me feel fantastic!

VENT over.

Thanks.

This is an odd response all around. The correct response (if you really found it necessary to respond to him) would have been, "No, I am not coming to see you, that would be incredibly inappropriate" (given the circumstances). I find it so odd that you said he wouldn't want to see you anyways. Why do you even care??? That speaks volumes to how much you care what HE thinks of you.

This board is loads of fun!

Kate621

Yesterday I was all ready for a flaming and got nothing. Today I had shiit to do and you guys are going to town. You can all suck it.

Spelling edit.

Kate621

monkiem:

amy052006:

Crystal318:

t watley:

It's pretty shitty to break a man's heart by leaving him in the dust and making a baby with a different man. It's even more shitty to maintain contact with that man when he clearly still has feelings for you. I'm all for being friends with exes, but it is really inappropriate in this case.

And based on this story alone, I'm having a hard time thinking that you're "just too nice".

You're right, I am a total f*cking ***.

And I am sure that all of you have NEVER engaged in any sexual activity before getting married. I am sure that there was never a moment in any or your lives where you could have gotten pregnant and it wasnt planned.

I got pregnant. I had the baby. I wouldnt change it for the world.  He was the best thing that ever happend to me.

Now if I could just lose some weight...which was the entire intention of this post. Damn you ladies are cranky!

I can say with 100% certainty that 1) I always practiced safe sex until I was TTC and 2) no, I didn't screw another guy while "on a break" from my boyfriend.

Bahahaha.  I love it.  

OP, we're not cranky, we just have morals and standards.  

I wouldn't go that far.