help! baby allergic to milk

ginanddavid

and she's 14 months old now and i'm tired of feeding her baby food and i'm sure she's tired of eating baby food. i'm at a loss of what she can eat aside from fresh veggies/fruit. i tried looking it up online last night but my internet went down.

 she got ahold of another kids bottle today at the babysitters. my morning has been crap and nerve wracking. i want what's best for her but aside from vanilla wafers, bananas and apple sauce, i'm scared to feed her much else.

LisaK2b

At 14 months old, why can't she eat regular table food that just doesn't have milk in it?  Rice with baked chicken and broc?  I would think there's a lot of options for her that doesn't have milk in it. 

sad5781

C is 1 year and eats pretty much every kind of food we eat.  Chicken, Turkey, Pork, Beef, all veggies and fruits, pasta (loves pasta).  I'd just find regular foods that dont have milk and let her have at it.  C loves shredded rotisserie chicken, shredded turkey (i'll cook a butterball turkey breast on sunday and we all eat off it all week) and ground beef. 

BritanyV

LisaK2b:

At 14 months old, why can't she eat regular table food that just doesn't have milk in it?  Rice with baked chicken and broc?  I would think there's a lot of options for her that doesn't have milk in it. 

Ditto.  I'm kind of confused as to why you are thinking she is so limited?  Just read the ingredients and if it says "Contains: Milk" don't buy it and if it doesn't then let her try it.   And like Lisa said you have fresh foods like chicken, beef, fish, and etc that doesn't have milk in it. 

 

ginanddavid

you have good (no duh) points...no duh as in mad that i didn't think of that myself. i guess the "problem" as you state, is that we cook low cal dinners from a cookbook as we're both (DH and I) are trying to lose weight. DS is a picky eater, so he tries it and if he doesn't like it, he eats his staples like a sandwich, mac and cheese, etc.

so our dinners are not just chicken and veggies or fish and veggies. i guess our diet can change to that.

i was hoping to find another mom who was having this problem too. it's not as easy as you guys think it sounds. like the gerber graduates cereal bars, we read the ingredients and it's got dry milk in ( ) but heck it's still in there. the veggie sticks have milk something another in it. we were even limited on the baby foods we could buy. it's a pain. and it's getting worse (the reactions) rather than better which scares me to no end.

sad5781

as annoying as it will be, you probably are going to have to make an extra meal for DD.  We do a lot of frozen veggies with plain meats (like I mentioned before, rotisserie chicken, turkey, pulled pork, etc).  

Since you have trying to cook a certain way for you and DH (good for you) and if thats not working for the kids, I'd suggest that at least for DD, you sort of try to make a weeks worth of meals so you arent cooking extra every night.  

What I do is boil a whole bag of frozen veggies and put them in individual servings.  Then I shred the whole chicken/turkey/pork roast and add to the veggies.  Aside from teh time to roast the turkey or crock pot cook the pork, I spend 30 minutes doing this.  

That way if we are eating something that I know DS doesnt like or if I'm getting home late and DH needs to feed him, we can just grab a bowl, microwave for 15-20 seconds to take the chill off and throw on the plate.  

I can't imagine how scary it is so see your LO have a reaction like that and I know its hard to find milk free foods.  I think the safest route is to just do lots of fresh fruits and veggies, fresh cooked proteins, etc.  Good Luck.

sad5781

Oh yeah, another thing my guy loves is scrambled eggs (or an omelet).  I can hide all kinds of veggies in an omelet.

ginanddavid

sad5781:

as annoying as it will be, you probably are going to have to make an extra meal for DD.  We do a lot of frozen veggies with plain meats (like I mentioned before, rotisserie chicken, turkey, pulled pork, etc).  

Since you have trying to cook a certain way for you and DH (good for you) and if thats not working for the kids, I'd suggest that at least for DD, you sort of try to make a weeks worth of meals so you arent cooking extra every night.  

What I do is boil a whole bag of frozen veggies and put them in individual servings.  Then I shred the whole chicken/turkey/pork roast and add to the veggies.  Aside from teh time to roast the turkey or crock pot cook the pork, I spend 30 minutes doing this.  

That way if we are eating something that I know DS doesnt like or if I'm getting home late and DH needs to feed him, we can just grab a bowl, microwave for 15-20 seconds to take the chill off and throw on the plate.  

I can't imagine how scary it is so see your LO have a reaction like that and I know its hard to find milk free foods.  I think the safest route is to just do lots of fresh fruits and veggies, fresh cooked proteins, etc.  Good Luck.

 

thanks! makes complete sense.

i gave her a bite of my omlette last weekend. she loved it!!!!

rayskit10

ginanddavid:

you have good (no duh) points...no duh as in mad that i didn't think of that myself. i guess the "problem" as you state, is that we cook low cal dinners from a cookbook as we're both (DH and I) are trying to lose weight. DS is a picky eater, so he tries it and if he doesn't like it, he eats his staples like a sandwich, mac and cheese, etc.

mac'n'cheese has milk.

If you are trying to lose weight, a nice grilled chicken breast/baked fish/lean beef and fresh veggies should work well. High fiber carbs as well. Have you tried Weight Watchers? It's the best way of eating that suits a whole family. Plus, if you only feed him the things he likes now, he may never eat anything but that.

When I was BFing, both my sons had lactose allergies and I had to cut out all milk. I still had a very healthy, well rounded diet. 

Also, I had a lot of eating issues with my older son and just want to offer a piece of totally unsolicited advice: rather than making him something separate, make meals that have at least one component that you know he will eat (and put some on your plate, even if you don't eat it). When you least expect it, he may start to try new things. Basically "this is dinner. eat as much or as little as you like but this is what we are all eating." don't force him to eat but don't bend over backward to accommodate him either.  Neither of those approaches end up working out well in the end.

kat.in.the.hat

check out Wholesome Baby Foods and Weelicious for recipe ideas.  Spend an hour or two on the weekend making some foods for her, freeze them in single serve portions, then just defrost & reheat throughout the week

kreeper611

Have you talked to your pedi?

DS isn't allergic to anything (that we know of) but there are things he won't eat.  For my diet, I grill a whole package of chicken tenders on Sunday to eat with a pita bread or on a salad.  C gets that when I know he won't eat what we're having.

I agree with WW.  They have a TON of recipes and you can adjust them as needed.  I rarely cook with milk, but I do add cheese to things.  However it is easy to get around.  Also, my lifesaver is frozen veggies for Cooper.  He loves frozen green peas and I just pull them right out of the bag. 

Also, check out the special needs board on the Bump.  They may have some advice from other moms with kids who have allergies.  See if you can't find a book that will give you some tips.  There are too many people who have to go lactose free out there that it can't be that hard to find some good cookbooks that will eliminate cheese.  It might cost a little more, but you could start cooking with goat cheese, etc.

I also agree with Rayskit about your son.  Repeat after me: I am not a short order cook!  This is not Burger King.  I'm a witness that if you don't change it now, you'll be making 4 meals every night until your kids move out!!

lautrec

kreeper611:

Have you talked to your pedi?

I also agree with Rayskit about your son.  Repeat after me: I am not a short order cook!  This is not Burger King.  I'm a witness that if you don't change it now, you'll be making 4 meals every night until your kids move out!!

THIS AND THIS AGAIN. I won't bore you with all the food fighting we've had with DD. It was my MIL who set me straight on that. Just one more reason I wish DH was DD's biological father. I could have saved some years of torture about food.

Have you talked to your doctor? At this age your child needs a lot of calcium so your doctor will be able to tell you what you should substitute for cows milk. He can't just go without. There needs to be some kind of supplementing. You may already be doing this but I couldn't tell from your previous post.

mom2ll

Pasta with marinara
Bread (we make our own and it's dairy free)
Meats
Crackers
Soy cheese?
Peanut butter and jelly (not sure if you're doing nuts)
Eggs (scrambled, boiled)
Egg salad
Chicken salad
Hummus
Dry cereal as finger food
Raisins
Baked Potato
Sweet Potato Fries
Hamburgers (with or without the bun)
Hotdogs
Chicken nuggets
Soups
Muffins (make your own use apple sause instead of butter if the recipe calls for it, use other liquid instead of milk if it calls for milk)
Lunch meat
Tortillas
Pita bread
Rice

KNJepp

bpaullo:

Muffins (make your own use apple sause instead of butter if the recipe calls for it, use other liquid instead of milk if it calls for milk)

Also,  coconut oil (which is actually semi-solid) can be substituted for butter in baking and also many, many other cooking applications.

BritanyV

ginanddavid:

you have good (no duh) points...no duh as in mad that i didn't think of that myself. i guess the "problem" as you state, is that we cook low cal dinners from a cookbook as we're both (DH and I) are trying to lose weight. DS is a picky eater, so he tries it and if he doesn't like it, he eats his staples like a sandwich, mac and cheese, etc.

so our dinners are not just chicken and veggies or fish and veggies. i guess our diet can change to that.

i was hoping to find another mom who was having this problem too. it's not as easy as you guys think it sounds. like the gerber graduates cereal bars, we read the ingredients and it's got dry milk in ( ) but heck it's still in there. the veggie sticks have milk something another in it. we were even limited on the baby foods we could buy. it's a pain. and it's getting worse (the reactions) rather than better which scares me to no end.

I think that you are just not thinking outside of the box, which you are learning because everyone has great suggestions.

It may not be the easiest thing but it's not the hardest either.  You just have to adjust.  My son is allergic to peanuts, pecans (most likely all nuts), chocolate, and eggs.   So I know what it is like to have to work around his allergies.  It's much easier for me if I make everyone in the household eat according to his allergies, that may not be for everyone but it works for us. 

In his nut allergy, he is also allergic to shea butter (it's derived from a nut), so I can't put any lotion or sun product that has shea butter in it on his skin.   Even a "hypoallergenic" lotion can have shea butter in it. 

Crumcakefl

I'll be honest and say that I don't know yet about babies with milk problems, but I'm lactose intolerant and wanted to share a couple things with you.

You may already know this, but there is a difference between lactose intolerant and milk allergy. You'll def. want to know if your child is intolerant vs. allergic.  Lactose intolerant folks don't have allergic reactions so much as digestive issues. It's easy to manage in adults because you can take a pill when eating dairy that contains the enzyme that the person is missing.

I take a Lactaid pill (https://www.lactaid.com/products-home#Products) with any dairy I eat and am usually fine. Maybe once a year I have a little too much icecream and my tummy disapproves.

Your child may be too young for Lactaid pills, but they also sell diary products that are real dairy just with the enzyme added to them. So they would be fine for the whole family because it's regular milk.

Has anyone try lactaid products for thier children?  

 

Crumcakefl

And don't beat yourself up! I'm sure everyone with allergic kiddos had the same stress.

You're a great mom for knowing that there are probably more options out there and trying to find them! 

 

AggieDee

Reese has a dairy allergy.  She eats all table foods.  I just do my best not to cook with milk or cheese products.  

ginanddavid

Crumcakefl:

I'll be honest and say that I don't know yet about babies with milk problems, but I'm lactose intolerant and wanted to share a couple things with you.

You may already know this, but there is a difference between lactose intolerant and milk allergy. You'll def. want to know if your child is intolerant vs. allergic.  Lactose intolerant folks don't have allergic reactions so much as digestive issues. It's easy to manage in adults because you can take a pill when eating dairy that contains the enzyme that the person is missing.

I take a Lactaid pill (https://www.lactaid.com/products-home#Products) with any dairy I eat and am usually fine. Maybe once a year I have a little too much icecream and my tummy disapproves.

Your child may be too young for Lactaid pills, but they also sell diary products that are real dairy just with the enzyme added to them. So they would be fine for the whole family because it's regular milk.

Has anyone try lactaid products for thier children?  

 

no lactose problem here. We gave her formula for the first time last summer and immediately she swole up, turned red and had severe difficutly breathing. We were rushed, by ambulance, to the er where they determined it was the cow milk protien she's allergic to.