First of all, I'd like to say my husband is wonderful and has been so awesome throughout my pregnancy. Several months ago, one of his best friend's bachelor parties was planned for June 4th weekend. I am due July 2nd. He mentioned the date of the party to me, and asked how I felt about him going. I said it was totally fine for him to go- and at the time, I was really okay with it.
As a side note, I went away on little weekend trips for maybe 8 of my close friend's bachelorette parties in the past couple of summers. This is his first bachelor party "trip" and I know he is excited, especially because it's one of his best friends. They are going to be about 3 hours away.
Anyways, now that my due date is getting close, I'm starting to regret the fact that I said I was okay with him going. I'm actually really regretting it. I want him here. But I feel badly asking him to stay back now. What would you do? Should I just have him go, or should I ask him to stay?
Re: Husband going away while I'm 36 weeks pregnant
I would let him go. If my FI were to ask to go out of town with friends this weekend, I'd say okay. It's not going to be very easy once baby is here. I haven't shown any signs of PTL, so I feel confident. I'm also a FTM, so I'm more likely to go past my due date than early.
You probably are more emotional now that you are in your third trimester, and need his support, but I would tough it out. He's not going to get a second chance to go to his best friends' bachelor party (at least hopefully not).
I would let him go. He's only going to be 3 hours away.
Ugh I know! My pregnancy has been pretty normal (knock on wood) but I keep envisioning myself going into labor early and I'm getting freaked out.
The trip is late Friday to early Sunday. I think he would be disappointed if he didnt go. I know he was kinda jealous I went on like 8 million girl's trips and has been looking forward to a guy's trip.
I really dont want to hold him back. He knows I am getting a bit freaked out about the birth, so I almost wish he would intuitively say he'll forget it and stay home. I dont think thats going to happen though!!
This. I'd be worried if it was farther away but this seems fine.
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Agree to all this.
I would let him go. My DH was out of town, and out of cell service for a weekend at 35 weeks. And while it made me slightly nervous,after all his hard work these last 8 months and all his help, I felt like he deserved one last weekend away.
If you have family near by, I think its just a few days, and he's only a few hours away.
It's only 3 hours away so I'd say that's fine. You will probably want to labor at home for a few hours before heading into the hospital anyway unless you are an extremely rare case that progresses quickly. Regardless, 3 hours is most likely enough time for him to get back if need be. The only thing I would want if my DH were to go away to something like that would be to make sure he had his cell phone on so I could reach him if I needed too. Also, my other concern would be if he was drinking and so wouldn't be able to drive back if I did call. I have been fine with DH going out and having drinks with the guys the whole pregnancy but I'm not comfortable with it during these last few weeks because I want him to be able to drive me if he needs too. I'm guessing there will be a lot of drinking since its a bachelor party but would your DH be up for maybe being the sober driver or sticking to one beer or something so he can drive home if he has too?
If you guys can figure that out then I'd say let him go! You most likely will not go into labor and he is not that far away. DH and I drove almost 3 hours away this past weekend when I was 35.5 weeks because I felt comfortable that we could get back if I started having and signs of PTL.
is the trip just saturday or all weekend? ... I think one night away is ok. but more than that , I would ask dh to come home early. I would also call him to come home...with any sign of labor coming . so to give him plenty of time to get home.
Adding to the chorus...let him go and suck it up. I agree it sucks, but it's basically just 2 nights and 1 full day, your husband will really enjoy himself, and you're going to REALLY not want him to go anywhere after baby is born.
Plus 3 hours is really not that far...and if he was drinking as PP notes, he could either find a friend to drive him back or in the worst case get a taxi/take a bus/train. Anything can be dealt with if it needs to be.
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Let him go. He is only 3 hrs away. Just take it easy. If you want have a friend or family member come stay with you if it will make you feel better.
My husband has to take two trips with his work. One for the week I am 35 weeks and one for the whole week when I am 37 weeks. For the second trip I think I will ask my MIL to come stay with me since I delievered #2 at 37w 6d.
I totally agree. Let him go. I know you're pregnant and all...we all understand and are in the same position....but I think it's a bit selfish of you to take away this chance for him to enjoy with his best friends. It was planned out for a long time. You should sacrifice a little bit for him, and chances are...if the pregnancy is going smoothly that you won't go into PTL. I just find it odd, that you would rather him sit beside your bedside all weekend long, do nothing with you, than him go enjoy with his friends.