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Final Child Support Payment Question
SD turns 18 Aug 6th and CS stops at 18 (she graduates high school in June). I have a two part question.
1. We have a little bit of a credit (paid ahead an extra payment when DH got a small bonus). Do we have to pay the entire month of Aug or should we be done in July. ( DH gets paid bi weekly..so after 2 payments in July with the extra one we paid that would be covering half of August- in my mind at least).
2. Is there anything we should do (call FOC prior to the 6th) to make sure no further payments get deducted? I know if they (CS office) get overpaid we will play heck getting the money returned to us.
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Re: Final Child Support Payment Question
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I think this was unnecessary. She refers to a credit they already have, i.e. PAID AHEAD. Her question is valid based on the fact that he is already paid ahead and in no way equates to kicking anyone out.
I don't think she mentioned kicking the kid out of the house..lol You seem to always jump two steps ahead, and make assumptions... and to belittle people all the time, doesn't really seem necessary, but I am sure you know best.
I am a firm believer that just because a child turns 18 that the NCP shouldn't just cut everything off and not help anymore. Maybe you don't give money to BM, but helping with clothing, school, supplies.. etc.
ITA. Asking about a final CP payment does not always make the next step totally cutting the kid off!
I was actaully thinking this too, so i dont think it was "unnecessary" while the wording is a bit, er, frank..the message is right on the money (pun?)
I dont think its an invalid question. Nor did I say that the OP should throw the kid out.
What I ASKED was if the OP or her DH - and now Bebe or Odear since they feel I am being extra harsh here - what if YOUR parents immediately stopped all financial support at the time YOU turned 18? Or a better analogy, if your parents covering your auto insuarance, did they ask for repayment for any coverage over the time you turned 18?
So what is so hard for the father to at least finish out financially supporting his daughter for the full month, let alone 11 days (going with half of August being 8/15).
But hey, I guess I am just a *** for finding this a sad situation for the SD in question.
Side note: I think it is very odd that Bebe can ask the same thing I am, but I am the belittling one?
She asked a question! She in no way said they were going to cut off all financial support the moment the clock struck midnight on her 18th birthday. It is the leaps and assumptions being made that make your responses "extra harsh".
I do not know what the bold side note is referring to.
It's the way you word things....
Here is what YOU said: You seriously want to prorate the money your husband's child receives. Let me ask YOU this, when YOU turned 18, did your parents immediately kick you out of the house? Here is what I said: I am a firm believer that just because a child turns 18 that the NCP shouldn't just cut everything off and not help anymore. Maybe you don't give money to BM, but helping with clothing, school, supplies.. etc.The actual question was, "Do we have to pay the entire month of Aug or should we be done in July" .
Its not a hard leap, especially when her OWN calculations have her paying through till the middle of August to begin with.
Its not as if she said something along the lines of "Does anyone know how to stop CS payments mid-month? DH pays bimonthly, but we prepaid a two week period. That means he will only need to pay the first half of the month to get us through till the end of August."
Do you see the difference? Asking if they can stop payment in July means that the last check SD sees is the first part of the month of August. While that may not be a cinderalla's carriage turning back into a pumpkin moment, it sure does mean that at the very least the SM is looking to cut off support at the earliest moment possible.
Which brings me back to the question I asked (still not sure how asking this makes me harsh though). Did your parents cut off all financial support the day or even month that you turned 18?
And again, with the assumptions in bold italics. WHERE does she say that once SD turns 18 that all support will be cut off? Maybe once she turns 18 they want to give $$ directly to SD? That is what my DH's dad did once DH and his brother turned 18. Nothing was court ordered past 18, but their dad continued to support them during college-he just sent it directly to them, not to their mom. I don't know-obviously more info is needed, and you could have asked questions like that instead of instantly assuming the evil SM wants to cut off all support.
And to your question....No, they did not, but my parents had a divorce decree that ordered college to be split 50/50. They paid tuition, dorms for the 1st 2 years and my rent/utilities for the last 2 years. I was on my own for books, social stuff and any extras.
After responding to this, I am done because its 9:15pm here and I really dont think going round and round about this will get us anywhere.
While my response may have been curt, I am really having a hard time trying to see how it was belittling (or implying that they were kicking the kid out into the streets for that matter?) unless there really and truely were nefarious purposes to the quesiton.
I asked the OP a simple question, with the hopes of her getting past the blended family aspect of financially supporting a child and looking at how most intact families handle supporting their children. That intact families rarely quibble over 2 weeks.
And if the OP really IS looking at pulling support in the middle of the month, then I am not going to feel ashamed for implying that she is spiteful, becuase (again that is if this IS what she is asking) its a spiteful thing to do.
This is, for all intents and purposes, still a child we are talking about. And while financial support does have to end at some point, the harshness of cutting your child off in the middle of the month just seems punitive.