I may have to eat my words

sewpinkgal

I'm not a fan of elective ultrasounds for a variety of reasons and had no plan to get one for this pregnancy. However...

MH just found out he might be put on the trial team for a case he's been working on. It's across the country and he would be gone for the anatomy scan. I'm already 19.5 weeks and I tried to move it to next week, but the only day they have available is when he is in an all day mediation. So yeah. I also can't move it until after he'd be home b/c then it's too late.

I really hope he gets on the trial team b/c it's a big fat deal with a big dog partner, but we're both pretty bummed that he could miss the big u/s. We already have an early gender guess from the NT scan, so it's not even so much the gender reveal that's an issue - he just really wanted to be there for all of the u/s appts and he has been like a kid in a candy store for the earlier u/s, so I know he enjoys them.

I think they'll give us a dvd again, so there is that, but I've told him that if he wants another live look at the kiddo, we can do an elective u/s when he gets home. I never, ever, thought I be open to it, but I'm so sad for him possibly missing this appt, that it sounds like an okay compromise.

swankbride

I know he wishes to be there but it sounds like a great opportunity.  Could you do something fun like have the u/s tech put the sex in an envelope so that you can both open it together while watching the DVD? 

I know it won't replace him being there for all the other news but at least it would be something you both can remember. 

alison2379

The only time I don't give electives a side eye is in cases like this. As someone whose husband travels ALL THE TIME, it was a massive feat to get the anatomy scheduled on a day he could make it, and I would have made the same decision if he couldn't be there.

sewpinkgal

swankbride:

I know he wishes to be there but it sounds like a great opportunity.  Could you do something fun like have the u/s tech put the sex in an envelope so that you can both open it together while watching the DVD? 

That's a great idea. I'm not quite sure why I hadn't thought of that. And yes, it's a great opportunity for him and I'm hoping that it comes through. He's been working like a dog recently and it's always nice when that pays off in ways like this.

cantalopes24

The place I go for my anatomy scan won't record it. Only the anatomy scan though, so I would double check they'd be willing to do it.

sewpinkgal

cantalopes24:

The place I go for my anatomy scan won't record it. Only the anatomy scan though, so I would double check they'd be willing to do it.

You know, I just assumed they would because they did for the NT scan. But you're right, they may not. If that's the case, then the elective u/s is sounding more and more attractive.

blu-eyedwife

He's such a golden boy there they'd be a fool not to put him on the trial team. They should be bending over backwards to make him happy since I'd be willing to bet he's the reason for many of their young associates. In fact, I'm surprised they're not rearranging the trial for your scan ; -p. I'll send you an email to pass on to him he'll get a kick out of.

nabum

That's frusterating but it sounds like it's a worthwhile sacrafice in the end.

I love the idea of writing down the sex and revealing it when the two of you are together. A friend did this - they waited until they were on vacation, had a really nice dinner together, and the announcement came at dessert written on their plate.