Update to vent post below

Miller238

When I picked Kate up today, I talked to the Director. She was annoyed the daycare owner said that to me and told me that the owner can exaggerate. She said the other girls parents have never mentioned anything to her before. They decided to move katelyn to the infant room for breakfast where she can eat her eggs. Kinda makes me sad that she will be more isolated than she already is. She is in a highchair for over an hour and a half each day. And the highchair is in a corner where she is all by herself. I feel sad for her.

megan1019

awww!! That makes me sad just reading it!! Though she is probably too into her breakfast to know any better or wish others were around! Big hugs!!

hav2run

I think their solution is unreasonable.  I would not accept that for one second.  Unless it goes both ways, and children who are eating things your DD is allergic to are isolated while they eat those things.  If they are doing the isolation bit in the name of protecting a child, then they should be doing it for your DD too.  That would certainly make me find a new daycare.  They are not all that way.  I also would not be ok with the hour and a half in the high chair unless there is a specific reason that she needs to be there for that long.  I am sorry you have to deal with that level of crazy, and I do feel the pain you have for your DD and the isolation they have put on her.  Not ok.  You are in the right to be hella pissed.

identicaltwins2be

I'm sorry you are dealing with this.  Is it necessary for her to be secluded like that for breakfast?  Will the other child have a reaction if they are around eggs or only if they eat eggs?

Moesten

That stinks! I feel sad for her, too. I know providers do what they can to keep kids safe but at the same time one has to wonder at some of the ways they choose to do that, kwim? I wish they had a better solution for her.  

buckeyethor

I think that is crazy. I agree with Hav2run.

curlypie1

Aw, Jenna. I read your post below and have to say I am frustrated and sad for you and for Katelyn. I don't think their alternative is acceptable. How long do they plan on keeping her in isolation you know? That's not going to work for many more months. I hope they come up with plan B quickly.

addslove

I'm sorry And I agree with several of the PPs, it just seems as though a better solution ought to be worked out.

Miller238

hav2run:

I I also would not be ok with the hour and a half in the high chair unless there is a specific reason that she needs to be there for that long. 

Well, each meal time is about 30 minutes (breakfast, lunch, snack) and she has to stay in the chair while the other kids eat, then she has to wait for the table to be cleaned and the floors to be mopped.  I am glad they do that for her safety, but it just pains me that she is so isolated.

It does bother me a bit that she is the one to be moved and she has to be the one accommodating this other girl.  Now she will have to be in a highchair in the infant room away from all of her friends.

I have tried finding a new daycare multiple times.  What scares me are her allergies.  Her daycare is very well aware of her issues, and I feel comfortable with how they handle her.  I was all ready to switch a while ago, but then talked to a mother with a child who has allergies in the daycare I was going to switch her to.  The stories she told me really opened my eyes (and scared me shiitless) and she basically said she would not send a child as allergic as Katelyn to that daycare. 

I just don't know what to do.  I wish we could afford a nanny.

jerseygirl81

I don't think that's a good solution, at all. There is a kid in Charlie's class who is highly allergic, eggs included, and he doesn't have to eat by himself. They're just really aware of who he's sitting near and what the other kids are eating.

mrs.george2be04

Miller238:

hav2run:

I I also would not be ok with the hour and a half in the high chair unless there is a specific reason that she needs to be there for that long. 

Well, each meal time is about 30 minutes (breakfast, lunch, snack) and she has to stay in the chair while the other kids eat, then she has to wait for the table to be cleaned and the floors to be mopped.  I am glad they do that for her safety, but it just pains me that she is so isolated.

It does bother me a bit that she is the one to be moved and she has to be the one accommodating this other girl.  Now she will have to be in a highchair in the infant room away from all of her friends.

I have tried finding a new daycare multiple times.  What scares me are her allergies.  Her daycare is very well aware of her issues, and I feel comfortable with how they handle her.  I was all ready to switch a while ago, but then talked to a mother with a child who has allergies in the daycare I was going to switch her to.  The stories she told me really opened my eyes (and scared me shiitless) and she basically said she would not send a child as allergic as Katelyn to that daycare. 

I just don't know what to do.  I wish we could afford a nanny.

The bolded is what gets me.  I think if ANYONE should be moved (although it sounds like the current plan has worked so far), it should be the other kid.  Because this is all because the other parents are upset about Katelyn just HAVING eggs, right?  The girl has never actually had a reaction to Katelyn's eggs, correct?

This is such a shitty situation, and I'm so angry on both your and Katelyn's behalf.

(((HUGS)))

Miller238

mrs.george2be04:

Because this is all because the other parents are upset about Katelyn just HAVING eggs, right?  The girl has never actually had a reaction to Katelyn's eggs, correct?

Yep, never had a reaction.  And, the daycare serves egg noodles.  And they have eggs in their meatloaf.  So, the place isn't egg-free anyway.

Meg41208

Miller238:

mrs.george2be04:

Because this is all because the other parents are upset about Katelyn just HAVING eggs, right?  The girl has never actually had a reaction to Katelyn's eggs, correct?

Yep, never had a reaction.  And, the daycare serves egg noodles.  And they have eggs in their meatloaf.  So, the place isn't egg-free anyway.

The other parent is way over-reacting.  

I don't think Katelyn should have to be moved, I think they should put the other girl in a high chair as well while Katelyn's eating to keep her out of K's (and the other kids') food. 

mrs.george2be04

Miller238:

mrs.george2be04:

Because this is all because the other parents are upset about Katelyn just HAVING eggs, right?  The girl has never actually had a reaction to Katelyn's eggs, correct?

Yep, never had a reaction.  And, the daycare serves egg noodles.  And they have eggs in their meatloaf.  So, the place isn't egg-free anyway.

I feel like Katelyn's being punished because that other kid's dad is Spazzy McGee.  I mean, I feel like you are being so levelheaded about Katelyn's allergies, trying to balance her safety, while still making sure she has as "normal" of a childhood as possible, and the daycare is compromising that.  I can't believe how riled up I am getting over this situation, but I am wicked pissed.

Ttimes3

mrs.george2be04:

Miller238:

mrs.george2be04:

Because this is all because the other parents are upset about Katelyn just HAVING eggs, right?  The girl has never actually had a reaction to Katelyn's eggs, correct?

Yep, never had a reaction.  And, the daycare serves egg noodles.  And they have eggs in their meatloaf.  So, the place isn't egg-free anyway.

I feel like Katelyn's being punished because that other kid's dad is Spazzy McGee.  I mean, I feel like you are being so levelheaded about Katelyn's allergies, trying to balance her safety, while still making sure she has as "normal" of a childhood as possible, and the daycare is compromising that.  I can't believe how riled up I am getting over this situation, but I am wicked pissed.

This.

If anyone should be isolated, during breakfast, it should be the child with the egg allergy. If the father of "egg allergy child" has issue with the current solution, HIS child should be the one to be moved/isolated in order to pacify his concern...not Katelyn. As long as you are happy with how Katelyn's allergies are being accomodated, SHE shouldn't be further impacted by ANOTHER child's allergies (any more so than the other children are impacted by HER allergies). It just doesn't make sense.

buckeyethor

I agree with PP. They should have that girl in her own little high chair off to the side too. So insane. I am not happy with this situation. Your DD already has to deal with enough isolation. Why is what works for your highly allergic child not what the other child does? There should be a standard for all allergic kids throughout the daycare. Period.

linzpinz14

Ttimes3:

mrs.george2be04:

Miller238:

mrs.george2be04:

Because this is all because the other parents are upset about Katelyn just HAVING eggs, right?  The girl has never actually had a reaction to Katelyn's eggs, correct?

Yep, never had a reaction.  And, the daycare serves egg noodles.  And they have eggs in their meatloaf.  So, the place isn't egg-free anyway.

I feel like Katelyn's being punished because that other kid's dad is Spazzy McGee.  I mean, I feel like you are being so levelheaded about Katelyn's allergies, trying to balance her safety, while still making sure she has as "normal" of a childhood as possible, and the daycare is compromising that.  I can't believe how riled up I am getting over this situation, but I am wicked pissed.

This.

If anyone should be isolated, during breakfast, it should be the child with the egg allergy. If the father of "egg allergy child" has issue with the current solution, HIS child should be the one to be moved/isolated in order to pacify his concern...not Katelyn. As long as you are happy with how Katelyn's allergies are being accomodated, SHE shouldn't be further impacted by ANOTHER child's allergies (any more so than the other children are impacted by HER allergies). It just doesn't make sense.

Agree.  And how far away is she from the other kids?  Like can she hear and see all the action?  If all the children are sitting at a table, she should still be able to be sitting with them, just out of reach, right?  I could see moving her away when all the children start to get up and line up to leave the eating area.  But during the actual sit-down meal time when interactions and conversations are happening, is she able to participate.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.  What a frustrating situation.

doodlebug914

That is a ridiculous solution.  She can't eat in the infant room forever, it isn't fair to her.  I thought I remembered you saying that both Katelyn and the other little girl both sat in a highchair during eating times.  What are they going to do when all the other kids are eating egg noodles or meatloaf?  I would refuse to let them make Katelyn sit in a different room.  If she can be around all the other kids when they are eating multiple things that she is allergic to, there is absolutely no reason that she can't be present.  You are not throwing a fit about everything that all the other kids eat.  If anyone should have to be moved to another room to eat, it should be the egg girl.  I'm so sorry sweetie.