Wedding Invite Question

blueLu25

We got an invitation to one of our best friend's wedding this summer. Its addressed to B and L Lastname. No kids' names anywhere and no where that would hint to if we should bring them or not. The issue is that it is in the middle of nowhere, Oregon, so we would have to be gone overnight to attend. I feel like we should go b/c this guy was IN our wedding and I dont want to miss his... should we assume we should leave the kids at home?

~Lynchie~

If you're close, I would just ask him!   When addressing invites for our wedding I just did Mr and Mrs lastname and I didnt even think to include kids on the invite although they were certainly welcome.  I think sometimes childless people just forget

WatchPot

Ask.  Maybe if they don't want children they will have an arrangement made for sitters for out of towners.  You could say "hey we'd like to bring the kids with us, if children aren't invited to the festivities do you have a friend or family member who you could recomend for babysitting since we'll be coming from out of town?"

 

Good Luck!

cwhip77

Yeah I'd just ask them if kids are okay. 

dawnies79

I agree with Lynchie. That said I think the actual etiquette is; if it is addressed to specific names, those are the only people invited. If it addressed to the family like "The Doe Family", then children are included. Like Lynchie said, I would just ask so you are sure. I'd bet the bride/groom would be happy that you clarified instead of assuming one way or the other.

I know when I was on The Knot it was a big topic because many of the brides didn't want children at the wedding, but it is rude to specifically say "no children". I think the etiquette I mentioned above was the group's con census regarding how to address it.

iHeartHimMore

WatchPot:

You could say "hey we'd like to bring the kids with us, if children aren't invited to the festivities do you have a friend or family member who you could recomend for babysitting since we'll be coming from out of town?"

I'd do this.

dawnies79:

I know when I was on The Knot it was a big topic because many of the brides didn't want children at the wedding, but it is rude to specifically say "no children"

We were rude.    An insert in our invites actually said that it was an adult only affair.  But we did offer to provide childcare for out of town guests. 

dawnies79

iHeartHimMore:

dawnies79:

I know when I was on The Knot it was a big topic because many of the brides didn't want children at the wedding, but it is rude to specifically say "no children"

We were rude.    An insert in our invites actually said that it was an adult only affair.  But we did offer to provide childcare for out of town guests. 

I personally wouldn't think it was rude. I'm also not easily offended, and I'm really relaxed about wedding etiquette (some of the girls on TK were very formal about the etiquette stuff). We almost did the same, but decided we didn't need to since only 2 people we invited had children. We just talked to them directly.

blueLu25

Thanks, I guess I'll just ask him. Duh. lol.

 

IdahoGirl

We had an adult only wedding and specifically addressed it the way he did, knowing ettiquette was to say XXX Family if the children were invited.

And we spread the word about no kids.