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not giving daycare a 2nd chance

hopeful34hopeful34 member
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Ok so we are definitly not bringing the babies back to the daycare I told you about a few days ago. So now we have to start all over again sigh...

BUT dh thinks i should just tell her we have a family member that lost their job that is going to watch them instead of telling her it's because she "neglected" our kids. He doesn't think its worth it. I feel that i should tell her because why not??? What happened was really bad!!! But then again, it's not going to do any good but make me feel better.

What would you do? Just move on discreetly or tell her the truth?

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  • jalaiaajalaiaa
    I'm glad you're not taking them back. Personally, I think that you should tell them. I think she deserves to know. That said, if it were me I'd have to build a lot of courage to say something because I'm not a confrontational person. I think I'd still do it in the end. 
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  • Temp6313048411121614Temp6313048411121614 member

    I'd tell her, I think she should know that you're removing your kids because she was a sh!tty "care" provider.  

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  • UsedToBeGoldieUsedToBeGoldie member

    wow - i just saw your OP and  you are making a WISE choice.  Yet another post that makes me have zero trust for in-home daycares at all.

    I would file a complaint with your local agency if you feel it's important to do so - but otherwise I'd just tell her you are not coming back. If she asks why let her know you are not happy with the care your children received there - if she wants specifics, give them- but if not - just leave it at that. She sounds like an idiot - she LEFT and thought a baby didn't need more than one bottle in a day??? WTF???   That makes me so sad.

    Look for a daycare center that follows regulations by your state- and has lots of people working there... more people = more accountability. And a director = someone you can go to if things aren't going right.  Many have video cameras, too (ours does) which = more accountability.  We LOVE our center. I would never put my kids in a home daycare - i have zero trust.

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  • OctoberCAPAOctoberCAPA member
    I'm so glad you aren't taking them back.  I highly doubt she'd need any explanation of why you weren't coming back--she knows she STARVED your children!  If she does ask, I don't think you should lie--she does not deserve to get told an excuse that would make her feel better.
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  • LucyRicardo3LucyRicardo3 member

    I'd be truthful, not necessarily confrontational about it. But she should be told at least that more than a few concerns that you don't feel like they are going to receive the level of basic care and attention that you want for your children.

    I had to do this once when my oldest was in DC at 2 years old. I went in to pick him up one afternoon and his teacher had left him in a high chair in a dark room for Lord knows how long, as punishment for tearing up decorations on a bulletin board. Super Angry

    I am normally a passive aggressive person, but I did address it with the director and told her the specific reasons why I wasn't going to be returning because she should to know.

     


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  • ProwdMommyProwdMommy

    imageOctoberCAPA:
    I'm so glad you aren't taking them back.  I highly doubt she'd need any explanation of why you weren't coming back--she knows she STARVED your children!  If she does ask, I don't think you should lie--she does not deserve to get told an excuse that would make her feel better.

    This and I think she should be reported.  What if other parents are not aware of what is going on.

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  • 2shihtzus2shihtzus

    I am also not confrontational but I do think you should let her know the reason you are pulling them.  I also would have to really work up the nerve/courage to say that but I think it is the right thing to do.  The not knowing a baby would need more than one bottle in a day just sleighed me.  Also, she is licensed through your state/county, correct?  I would definitely let the county/state know.  At least my county has a list that I was given of in home daycares with exceptional ratings, that's how I found mine.

    I respect the opinions of those that prefer centers over in home daycares but I have to say that my boys go to an in home provider that is absolutely amazing, I trust her implicitly with my boys.  I personally don't like the idea of in home daycares with extra assistants because then they are allowed to have more kids and I think at that point, it is just too many kids in a house when it really is more like a center with so many children.  My daycare is very small and I just feel that the amount of love and personal attention that they get there could not be matched at a center (at least none of the ones I went to to look at in my area), just my opinion though.  My daycare provider follows very strict guidelines from the county/health department etc. and I am very aware of what they are so I know what needs to be followed.  Anyway, I hope that you can find a new daycare arrangement that makes you more comfortable, go with your gut!  We went to several daycares that we loved but at the end of the day, we went with our gut and my husband and I feel like we absolutely hit the jackpot with our daycare provider.

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  • schoolsoutbrideschoolsoutbride
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    imageOctoberCAPA:
    I'm so glad you aren't taking them back.  I highly doubt she'd need any explanation of why you weren't coming back--she knows she STARVED your children!  If she does ask, I don't think you should lie--she does not deserve to get told an excuse that would make her feel better.

    This and I think she should be reported.  What if other parents are not aware of what is going on.

    ditto, and whatever you do, you should report her.

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  • blondek8blondek8 member

    Good for you Hopeful. Glad you're taking your babes out of there. I think you should tell her why. She failed to provide both of your LO's with the basics of life really. Who thinks it's appropriate for a 7 month old to only have 1 bottle/day.

    Her excuse that you didn't put another feed on the schedule isn't even remotely acceptable. Any good care provider could put two and two together and feed your kid another bottle.

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  • hopeful34hopeful34 member
    imageblondek8:

    Good for you Hopeful. Glad you're taking your babes out of there. I think you should tell her why. She failed to provide both of your LO's with the basics of life really. Who thinks it's appropriate for a 7 month old to only have 1 bottle/day.

    Her excuse that you didn't put another feed on the schedule isn't even remotely acceptable. Any good care provider could put two and two together and feed your kid another bottle.

    Thanks!! I just need to get the nerve to do it now lol.. Love your new siggy. It's awesome. I just love your little babies :)

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