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I really need to...

lauralewlauralew member
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...give my sister more credit.  I went to dinner at her house tonight, and she said, "I bet this weekend is going to be hard for you." And gave me a hug.  Later she asked me about how I've been doing, and really meant it.  She asked me if I had thought more about naming our little one; I told her I always think of him as Ben in my head.  We talked about my pregnant co-workers, and I told her about one of them having a due date three days before mine.  I told her about how I'm starting counseling.

It just felt really nice to talk to her about it.  She placed her first child for adoption; a very different loss than what we've experienced, but she still has an understanding of the feeling of loss.  She's said some really bonehead things in the past, but tonight she really listened and talked with me about it.  And I really needed that. 


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Justin + Laura 10.18.08
TTC #1 09.10/Dx PCOS 12.10/BFP #1 12.29.10/EDD 9.10.11/Missed m/c 2.3.11/D&C 2.15.11
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Cycle #1 4.2.11 + Clomid = BFN/Cycle #2 5.9.11 + Clomid + Trigger Shot = TWINS! 
Walter Allen and Eleanor Joan 1.15.12
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  • Missa_gMissa_g member
    Yay for your sister! I'm so glad she made you feel good :-)
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  • mommymoore2011mommymoore2011
    That's so nice! I'm glad that she was able to makee you feel good today
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  • jkfranklinjkfranklin member

    She has seen the light!  It's funny how sometimes reason shines through. 

    P.S. As I've mentioned before, I LOVE Ben!

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  • lauralewlauralew member
    imagejkfranklin:

    She has seen the light!  It's funny how sometimes reason shines through. 

    P.S. As I've mentioned before, I LOVE Ben!

    I know!!  I think she just really didn't want to bring it up if it would hurt me.  I was complaining about Justin's bff's wife, who has yet to call, text, email, or Facebook me about our loss...though his other buddies' girlfriends did.  My sister said, "I just think people don't know what to say."  And I agree, it's just interesting who decides to fumble through the awkward moment and who decided to just ignore it all together. 

    So, I think now that she knows I want her to talk about it with me, she will.

    PS, Thanks!!  I think I need to make it official...maybe talk to Justin about it. Wink 


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    “Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”-Kahlil Gibran
    Cycle #1 4.2.11 + Clomid = BFN/Cycle #2 5.9.11 + Clomid + Trigger Shot = TWINS! 
    Walter Allen and Eleanor Joan 1.15.12
    Another baby on the way! 8.25.14


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  • corndog8corndog8
    I'm so glad your sister was there for you and seemed to be understanding.  :)
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  • buckeyebaby814buckeyebaby814 member
    How wonderful!  Sometimes I truly feel like people close to us forgot, think we're over it or just don't know what to say once time has passed.  It must have felt nice for your sister to talk with you about this- and talk with someone IRL who can give you an IRL hug.  I want to give you a big, virtual ::HUG:: though :)  I'm glad it went well!

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  • KJsbabeKJsbabe member
    What a wonderful sister! I'm so glad she was thinking about you.
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    imagejkfranklin:

    She has seen the light!  It's funny how sometimes reason shines through. 

    P.S. As I've mentioned before, I LOVE Ben!

    I know!!  I think she just really didn't want to bring it up if it would hurt me.  I was complaining about Justin's bff's wife, who has yet to call, text, email, or Facebook me about our loss...though his other buddies' girlfriends did.  My sister said, "I just think people don't know what to say."  And I agree, it's just interesting who decides to fumble through the awkward moment and who decided to just ignore it all together. 

    So, I think now that she knows I want her to talk about it with me, she will.

    PS, Thanks!!  I think I need to make it official...maybe talk to Justin about it. Wink 

    I agree. A lot of people knew about my loss. and some of them still never mentioned it to me.

    I am so happy you have your sister to lean on this. hugs!


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  • chanteltbarrettchanteltbarrett
    Yay!  I'm glad that you too could share a moment like that.
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  • Eris-AlexisEris-Alexis
    I'm really glad she was able to be empathetic and supportive of you today.  ((Big HUGS))
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  • williams4mewilliams4me member

    That is great to hear!  I am glad she was able to be supportive of you.  Sometimes I just feel like certain days are so hard and I wish someone IRL (other than DH) knew how to comfort me.  I broke down and cried on the phone with my sis Thursday night because of Mother's Day coming up, and a few other things that happened that day.  It felt good to let out everything I have been feeling lately. 

     

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  • coreysmommacoreysmomma

    It is nice to have people IRL support us.  I have a couple of friends like that.  Many others just keep their lips sealed.  I am glad you have your sister's support.

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  • JThomas221JThomas221
    I'm glad you finally got some much needed support from your sister!
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