Confession

devinjonesrn

I think a singleton would be a piece of cake, and I scoff at my friends' complaints of parenthood challenges on facebook...

(Never mind that I've had my mom, grandma or husband's help all but one day, but still, I think I'm a pretty bad @ss mom so far...I'm going to rock this twin thing!)  ) 

 

leslie13510

LOL. 

I think it all depends on the individual baby/babies.  For instance, my kids were STTN around 8-9 weeks, but a friend of mine has a 15 month old who still wakes up 3-5 times a night every single night (and can't sleep train because of medical issues).  I would lose my effing mind after 15 months of having to wake up several times a night.  Or how another friend of mine has a 5 month old who cries for hours and hours every day apparently because of colic, since they can't find any medical reasons for it.  My kids might have cried a lot, especially during Riley's reflux phase, but even with two of them I don't think they ever cried as much as her son does all by himself. 

That said, logistically, singletons are about a thousand times easier IMO.  Yes their one baby might cry 6-8 hours a day (which SUCKS, I can only imagine), but at least they don't have to worry about feeding and tending their twin at the same time.  And when they're old enough to walk/run, if a singleton runs away from you at the store you can just chase after them without having to worry about making sure your other child is within eyesight, or grabbing them to drag off with you after their sibling.  You can go eat at places where you order at the counter without having to drag in a stroller, or hope like hell that your kids will actually behave and stay next to you while you're carrying food to find a table (because you can't physically contain both of them with one free hand and a tray full of food and drinks).  Taking two toddlers to a playground by yourself is a nightmare, because one is usually trying to run down the sidewalk while the other is scaling the stairs to the big kid slide, with only crappy overly-spaced guard rails to keep them from falling 15 feet down to the ground.  And you can sign a singleton up for swim classes without having to find a time when another adult to come with you (or in my case, find another adult in the first place). 

Clearly, I could go on and on (and on and on and on).  The occasional times that I put one kid in daycare for a few hours so I can have some one-on-one time with the other are like a freakin' vacation compared to "normal" life. 

And seriously after typing all that out, I have NO idea how you moms of triplets, quads, etc do it.  None.  Mega kudos to you guys, because while two can be difficult, at least I still have a hand for each. 

hunt2005

I completely agree with you and mine aren't even here yet!!

It also annoys me to no end when those people who have those type of issues then tell me just how hard my multiples are going to be because mine will do the same thing! Yes. Make me even more stressed about how I'm going to raise multiples by telling me how hard it's going to be. That makes SOO much sense

I feel bad that I'm not as compassionate as I used to be, but when people complain that their 4 year old is still sleeping in their bed because he won't sleep in his own room (with no medical issues causing them to not sleep train, it's just that he's their last kid, and the baby, and she doesn't want to let go), or when they complain about being SOOO tired from their ONE baby, I just want to roll my eyes...

MamaCat21

I found out I was pregnant with twins literally a few days before my best friend had her son. She called me the first night home crying and talking about how hard everything was, and she was exhausted, and the baby wouldn't stop crying...

Then she stopped and said "I can't even imagine having TWO!"

I get this comment just about every day.

bellasmom27

devinjonesrn:

I think a singleton would be a piece of cake, and I scoff at my friends' complaints of parenthood challenges on facebook...

(Never mind that I've had my mom, grandma or husband's help all but one day, but still, I think I'm a pretty bad @ss mom so far...I'm going to rock this twin thing!)  ) 

 

ha! same here girl, my daughter woke up every 2 hrs for 17 months!!! The boys sleep so much better then her and we are much more prepared for their 1 and 1/2 to every 2 hrs middle of the night feedings during growth spurts! I've also taken them out alone numerous times alone since their second shots. I improvise feedings in public and multi-task them just fine (so far) lol

pea-kay

I think the same thing sometimes (and I hate to say it, but I feel that way about twins a lot too) but, I wrote this blog post and a lot of MoMs seemed to agree with me. I guess it's all about perspective!

3 easier than 1?

And then I wrote this one. 

1 is easier than 3

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Preemies I'm sure have a whole different set of challenges, but logistically my twins are WAY easier than my singleton.  The difference is immeasurable.  When I only have to care for the twins, it's like a vacation day in comparison, just saying.

MrsLnt

Pam, that blog entry sums up how I feel a lot of the time.  Sure, it's more work at the outset to teach babies to fall asleep on their own, but it's still less work than rocking babies all the livelong day (and night!). 

amanda31H

Eh - it really can depend.  If we're speaking in general terms, I guess so.

But one of my friends had a colic baby- for almost 9 months.  I think that's harder.

My other friend had a baby who BF every 2 hours until about 8 months- and NEVER SLEPT.  I think that's harder!