RSVP regrets only ?

kellyt327

My shower is Saturday. I asked my aunt, who is hosting, how many had RSVP'd with regrets.  She said only a few had.  Would you assume that all of the others will come?  I think it's a lot to assume. What are your experiences with "RSVP regrets only"?

cherokeemomma87

I would talk to your aunt and give her the list of numbers for people who you havent heard from and have her call and ask if they will be able to attend. Its not rude and you will get a better idea about who will be able to attend and who wont. It drives me nuts when people dont RSVP at all, you have to let the hosts know one way or the other, other wise its just rude.

pam1005

I've had the best luck with regrets only vs. just the "rsvp."  Did she put "regrets only?" If she did that, then I would go with the number she has.  If she put rsvp and the only people who called were the ones who could not come, then I would have her follow up.

rhubarb123

Sometimes I wonder if people even know what RSVP means!  Seriously...you can count on about 1/4 of those that never responded to not show up.  Hopefully your aunt is having food that can be eaten as left-over for the next couple of days because she really needs to make enough for those that didn't send regrets (even though the chances of all of them coming is slim). 

I guess that is why I don't care for the Regrets Only....you can't really call them.  KWIM?

OctoberCAPA

I think Regrets Only assumes way too much.  If people have to RSVP, they are at least making a commitment verbally which may make them more likely to follow through.  I would not count on a 100% attendance rate for the people who didn't respond to a Regrets Only invite.

kellyt327

RSVPs are one of my biggest pet peeves.  I'm pretty good about RSVPing within a reasonable time frame!  This shower Saturday had RSVP regrets only on the invite.  My shower with my friends is the following Saturday and nobody has RSVP'd yet. Urgh. And I know for a fact that tons are coming. It is just annoying.  This Saturday's shower is 90% family so I am expecting a pretty good turnout. Excited!!

cozylittlecave

My experiences with regrets only are not to do it... ever. I would NOT assume anyone who didn't rsvp is coming. That said, it's a tough situation, because calling to verify might seem weird since they were only told to rsvp if they weren't coming.

laurasuzanne2006

my sister did RSVP regrets only for my shower in June.  I think it is pointless.....not like you are getting any kind of an accurate headcount any way.