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tell me its gonna be allright
so...my LO's father and i broke up bc he was cheating, everytime he comes to pick her up he tells me how he misses me and wants to get back together but yet he is still dating the other girl, he says she wont leave him alone and he dosent want to hurt her feeling which think is bull
yesterday he was asking if we could move back in together and being extremly sweet to me, when i went to pick up LO from his house after i got off of work the other girl was at his house
i freaked, she isnt supposed to be around LO, i think it not appropriate and the fact that he is intimate and kissing me in front of LO and then doing the same thing with some other girl infront of her as well grosses me out...the whole thing kinda grosses me out
LO is supposed to sleepover at his house tonight (court order) and the other girl is going to be sleeping over as well
well im upset and i know i will just have to get over it but idk just make me feel better
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Re: tell me its gonna be allright
Why don't you have yoru court order amended that he cannot have anyone of the opposite sex (girlfriends) stay overnight while he has DD???
You need to only talk with him about your daughter. He is playing both sides and sounds like he is doing a really good job. If he really cared about you he would be worried about hurting your feelings, not hers...
This. You do realize that you are actively participating in him cheating on her, right? Just because he cheated on you with other girls doesn't make it okay for you to be the other woman. Your daughter is 4 months old and has no idea what's going on, but if you don't start making better choices, she's going to think it's okay to be in dysfunctional relationships.
As far as the visitation, it is court ordered and you must let her go. Are you afraid this other gal is going to harm your LO, or are you jealous or being passive aggressive because he's still with her? I'm not trying to be a biitch, because I was a single mom. I know how hard it is. But please, for your daughter's sake, get some self respect, stand up for yourself, and do not let this man string you around. GL
Really? have a little self respect. Although, from the sound of this post it seems like you get some sick, twisted thrill out of knowing he's cheating on his new GF with his old one. Wake up dear, he's playing both of you like a fiddle. I would cease all contact with him unless it has to do with your child. Unless, of course, you like being a doormat.
And just FYI, can you imagine how confusing it will be once LO is old enough to realize that daddy has two GFs. You're actively participating in something that will mess with your child's emotions. Well done.
I agree with pp's, this is a sick situation to be in and to have your LO in.
Additionally, do you have a court order? If not, why are you allowing him overnights at 4 months old? Especially if he is not respecting your wishes about having the other woman sleep over while your child is there?
of course there is a court order...in WI they wont allow 3rd party judgements which means they cant decide who stays overnight with who...he cheated on me with her and she said she would kill herself if he wasnt with her(thats why im scared to have LO around her, she isnt stable)...i stopped all contact with him, made a notebook we hand off when we switch LO to communicate about her and wont take his calls/texts
i dont want to be a weak female role model
A court ordered overnight visits for a four month old? Or even younger depending on when this court order was established? Not trying to be snarky, I am genuinely curious because I thought the norm was 18 months, or 12 months at the very least. That is a scary thought.
it happened, we went to court april 27th, and she is 21weeks old right, tuesday and thrusday
I just joined and was trying to find a good network for my sister who recently just became a single mom. Then I came across this and almost threw up.
First of all you are one of those people who should never have kids. That is absolutely disgusting and for this poor baby to be raised by someone who has NO self respect and who doesn't have the baby's best interest as first priority is so sad. You are obviously either desperate for this guy or you enjoy engaging in this sick, twisted behavior and get joy out of having this guy cheat on his girlfriend with you. Yikes!!! Let me make this clear....he is USING you... and you feed right into it. Words are just that, words and if he really WANTED to be with you he would. The excuse that he doesn't want to hurt this girl's feelings is just an out for him because he knows you eat up everything he says and he will play you like a fiddle always, but you will never have him to yourself. Is that all you want to be is a booty call??? Geeze, your poor daughter is going to learn that mommy and daddy are both complete idiots with no morals and values. GREAT JOB! Maybe you should muster up some self respect, stop being this guy's door mat, and get over him....or don't...in that case you only have yourself to blame if you continue along with this disgusting behavior. I just can't help to think that what goes around comes around and maybe one day as karma your daughter may be played like a fiddle by some guy...is this the advice you would give her???!! Hey baby girl stick around and just be the boys doormat...as long as you can be shallow with no self worth and engage sexually with him then go for it!! Really listen to yourself! You sound ridiculously STUPID!! For the sake of your child cut off ALL ties, quit talking to him and calling and quit trying to make him be with you. There are other MEN out there....ones that don't cheat. You realize he probably tells the other girl ALL the sames things? I feel bad for this other girl... she has no idea that she is involved with some disgusting people. She should know what's going on so she can get the hell out. Get over other people being around the baby... as soon as two people are broken up, yeah there are going to be other people around. If my husband and I ever divorced it would be difficult to know that there would be other women around my little girl, but the most I could hope for is that they would love her and be good to her. I love my husband to death he is my everything, but if he EVER cheated even once...I would be gone for good, no ifs ands or buts about it. As soon as you can cheat that ruins the relationship forever, and the way it sounds even if you got back with this boy, he would continue to cheat. Who knows though maybe you enjoy being a doormat and feel that is what you want for your life. Good luck, for the sake of your baby get some damn self respect and quit that vile behavior. You sound like a complete moron.
wow. settle down. you must know OP personally.
sure, she's making a mistake, which achase already pointed out; you could have just agreed with achase.
overreact, much?