Worried, scared, sad, and kind of POd...venting

vtmezzo

Ladies, I usually lurk around here, but I just have to vent about my ridiculous appointment yesterday. I'm due tomorrow, at my appointment last week, doctor said baby had dropped down and I was about 50% effaced. Went yesterday, a different doc in my practice said I was still only about 50% effaced and that she could still feel the baby's head "floating around up high". After several phone calls yesterday, the only responses I could get were that they had no idea why they would have 2 drastically different opinions of baby having dropped or not, and that they would not wait on a c-section - I am still scheduled for 40 w 6 d, as is their "standard" for VBAC patients, next Thursday.

I am having a hard time believing that the baby hasn't dropped, my stomach looks and feels drastically lower, I have a huge amount of heaviness and pressure in my crotch, and have been having tons of the "lightening" pain for over a week. I'm just getting scared that this baby needs 42 weeks and they aren't willing to budge on it.

So about going rogue - from what I know, I don't have to show up for my c-section. I never signed anything consenting to surgery. I also know the hospital can't turn away a woman in labor. So WWYD? If I get to next Wednesday and am still not having contractions, I'm going to have a meltdown. I've tried everything in the book to get labor going but I just think he needs a bit longer. Does anyone know of anything I can do or say or suggest to convince my docs to let me wait it out a bit longer? I've got another appointment Monday and I'm trying not to freak out since I know anything could happen in the next week but I just really really really want to try for my VBAC, especially since I'm in perfect health, BP is good, baby's heart rate is great, and everything looks perfect. Help!?!?

Sam78

What is the reason they gave you for scheduling at 40w6d?  I would have a frank conversation with them and present evidence from ACOG showing that there's no reason to schedule at that particular time.  Can you propose NSTs or something else to make them feel more comfortable? Sign a waiver (this is what I did - they drew it up just for me)?

+diana82+

Sam78:

What is the reason they gave you for scheduling at 40w6d?  I would have a frank conversation with them and present evidence from ACOG showing that there's no reason to schedule at that particular time.  Can you propose NSTs or something else to make them feel more comfortable? Sign a waiver (this is what I did - they drew it up just for me)?

I agree. They can't "force" you to have a c/s on that date.  As far as dropping, my first "dropped" a few times after 33 weeks or so, but he never dropped far enough that he was engaged. Maybe the first doctor was a bit too liberal in using the term?  GL.  

preg_amy

Honestly, I would say "I refuse to show up on that date.  You can schedule it if you need to, but I will not be there.  If you would like to do an NST, then I will oblige.  But if you schedule the c-section, it will be a waste of your time.  I will sign whatever you need me to sign."

cchill01

Just remember, that the opinion of your Doctor(s) has nothing to do with what is going on in your body.  If there is anything I learned with my DD's 60 hour induction, it's that every doctor will have a different opinion and a different perspective.  

So, if you believe you're making progress, then you should trust your instincts!!!  The power of positive thinking might even help.  So, might relaxing. Try to put everything out of your mind until Monday.  There's really nothing you can do right now.  Like others adviced, I would have a frank discussion with the Doctor on Monday.  But until then, have a glass of wine (if you choose), get DH to give you a foot massage and think positive thoughts.

nosoup4u

preg_amy:

Honestly, I would say "I refuse to show up on that date.  You can schedule it if you need to, but I will not be there.  If you would like to do an NST, then I will oblige.  But if you schedule the c-section, it will be a waste of your time.  I will sign whatever you need me to sign."

This! If it helps, have your DH or someone else be with you when you talk to them. You can even have someone be your spokesperson if you don't want to talk to anyone directly. Be polite but firm about what you want, Good luck!

popmave

This is why I choose to only be seen by one provider. I hated that with my first pregnancy I was always getting different input. So sorry your frustrated.

Brownie_222

preg_amy:

Honestly, I would say "I refuse to show up on that date.  You can schedule it if you need to, but I will not be there.  If you would like to do an NST, then I will oblige.  But if you schedule the c-section, it will be a waste of your time.  I will sign whatever you need me to sign."