AW since it's slow - dh and my parenting plans

CDMay2006

We've all along planned for two children, at least one of whom would be adopted.  In the past couple years my interest in one of the children being biologically ours has really grown and we've now decided it will be our first; for a variety of reasons, it looks like this will work better for us.

Instead of waiting till i finish my thesis (which is going more slowly than i anticipated, as there's not much existing/active research in the area) before finding a job (September-ish), i'm going to start looking now, continue working on my degree and then have several months (~5) to get established before we start trying.  That gives about/at least a year before taking maternity leave (helpful to employer and our bank accounts).  We'll also be using some of that time/$ to do a little remodeling (instead of moving) to make the house a little more comfortable once we have a little one.

When we were talking about remodeling and decorating, which room would be the nursery, etc., dh told me he's been thinking about decorating the nursery for a while and has them, decor, color scheme, etc. all laid out.  I found that to be adorable -- and it's even a good idea!

IdahoGirl

Exciting!!

gina000

That is so cool.

itskacie

Good plan! Congrats!

I have been told by a couple of people (through their own experience, not mine obviously) that adopting can be much more difficult if you already have a biological child. Have you heard that or know if there is any truth to it? If so, maybe something to consider?

KRoseToes

It's always exciting to have a plan! Good luck.

CDMay2006

itskacie:

Good plan! Congrats!

I have been told by a couple of people (through their own experience, not mine obviously) that adopting can be much more difficult if you already have a biological child. Have you heard that or know if there is any truth to it? If so, maybe something to consider?

I'm sure it was a factor in their experience, but in general it shouldn't add significant challenges to the adoption process if the adoptive parents take agencies' policies/specializations into consideration when selecting an agency.  Some biological parents may not choose adoptive parents who have biological children, but this is just another factor that is considered (like religion, stay-at-home parenting, age, etc.) and some agencies may give preference to adoptive parents w/fertility challenges.

 

Thanks for the support, all