fears

clpeabody

So I'm new to the PGAL board.  I'm a November mommy and over on the Birth club boards I saw people talking about this board - and I thought I should come over.  I had a miscarriage back in October 2010 at 10 weeks.  I got a BFP in March and am almost 11 weeks!  I have my next appt. (at 12 weeks) next Tuesday and I am just so worried. 

 I can't seem to shake the feeling that I'm going to get bad news and it makes everyday it draws closer even more stressful.  Also, the appt. is on the same day as my EDD for the first pregnancy.  I'm just really fearful and I feel like when I try to talk about it with my DH he gets frustrated because he refuses to be anything but positive about this pregnancy.  It's just isolating and hard.

pennynjon

I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you found this board. We all understand the fear and worry that are part of being pgal. We are here if you need someone to vent to.

Karen1998

(((Hugs)))  I'm sorry for your loss. 

Congrats and welcome to the board!  I can't help but wonder if your upcoming EDD is clouding your mind and making you worry more.  I know that mine sure didn't help (and I was about as far along as you are now).  EDDs are so very hard and they bring up all sorts of fear and grief.  Try to stay positive and focus on the fact that this is a different pregnancy and will most likely have a different outcome than your last pregnancy.  

julesjb

Welcome to the board. I love it hear because we all share very common concerns. I am just over 11 weeks and my NT is on Thursday. I find nothing but negative things to worry about and although he gets why my forever optimist husband is the same way as yours. I hope you find lots of support here!!

ksulli

You should definately make this board one of your homes- it's an amazing group of women going through a similarly unique situation. 

This BFP was my last chance to be pregnant on my EDD, so I look at this LO as a gift from our angel baby- Hopefully after your appointment you'll get to have a similar peace about it. 

My DH also had a really hard time being the kind of support I wanted early in this pregnancy, I've come to see that it was truely just as hard on him and he needed to process it a different way.  Try to keep that in mind with yours, he's probably trying to be strong for you and doesn't realize that you sometimes need to let the fear out to feel better.

allybaby85

congrats on your BFP and welcome to the board. I am sorry for your loss. We totally understand about the anxiety of appointments and that it is hard to be positive sometimes. Hope you have a H & H 9 months!

Monianna

My husband, though very supportive, is also baffled by my constant worry about this pregnancy. Reading this board has been so comforting to me. Just knowing there are other post loss pregnant ladies out there that are as obsessive about every twinge as I am makes me feel so much more normal;) Good luck! Wishing you a H & H 9 months!