Feeling overwhelmed

normajeane6126

Before I got pregnant, SO & I had a lot of issues with communication. Once we found out I was expecting, we started to really work on those issues, and things got a lot better.

But since DS was born 3 weeks ago, I feel like we're right back to square one. He makes little comments (especially about my decision to BF) that sting. And every single time, I end up in tears. Tonight, I put DS to bed and locked myself in the bathroom so I could have an all out, loud cry.

I feel like I'm a horrible mother. If I stay, my son will see his parents argue. If I leave, my son will miss out on having a "real" family. I feel like I'm trapped no matter which road I take, and if it weren't for my son, I wish I could just disappear and not have to deal with this. 

snoboardbabe77

 

Being a parent is hard hard hard...........being a couple after a baby is born is hard...it takes time. Maybe it's time you don't want to wait for, etc. - but give yourself a break-your DS is only 3 weeks.

I felt pretty overwhelmed too as a first time parent - I have a Type A personality and my son is just over 3 mos. And I've been with DH for 12 YEARS! It was a hard adjustment. Some families adjust better and earlier than others.

Your DH's little comments aren't cool at all - and while you're both sleep deprived, it's not right or fair.

Good cries are good....your 6 week check up is right around the corner, do you have other girlfriends/family you can lean on for support?

 You are not a horrible mother. And not like this will help-but currently, what you argue about, etc. will not affect your baby. Most agree (Peds, etc) that until they have their first shots-they're not really 'aware' of that type of stuff. Course you both need to work on it-but ....

No one is going to tell you what to do or what you need to do - but don't make any rash decisions without thinking them through. You both have a lot on your plate, your emotions are still very high and you are sleep deprived.

It DOES get better....and I honestly thought it would not. I was literally in your same spot at 3 weeks.......(and couple that with a very alert baby who never really slept and was ALWAYS hungry...)

I'm not you and i don't live in your marriage, if you think it's that bad-tell DH you need to step away for awhile, take a few long naps and a bath and you need friends/fam to watch baby, etc. if that's a possibility