I am sick and tired of DH comparing me to his 6 yr old daughter. If I ask her to pick up her laundry, or her toys, or take her shoes off the couch I shouldn't be compared to. If my clothes aren't put away because everyone else's is my first priority then so be it. I clean up after everyone, I'm 9 months pregnant, I work , I go to school full time so if I can't live up to the same standards right now then so what! It doesn't mean that I can't be a teacher and step mother who tries to teach her the correct way.
on top of which he constantly insists on having these conversations and fights in front of her. Frankly her mother is a *** who plays games with him and fills his daughters head with crap which he naive to!
I cannot take anymore. This is NOT how I want my daughter to be raised. Which would frankly be a spoiled little brat.
I am hormonal, I am upset, I a pissed off, Im miserable being pregnant and I want my baby
vent over.
Re: HUGE fight with DH.. and on my Birthday
I think if I were in your situation I'd wonder if my H was going to belittle me in front of my own child as well. It certainly would make me wonder what our relationship is all about and if it was something I thought was healthy. I'm the type of person who over-anaylzes everything though...
I will say outright that I don't think it is fair of him to criticize you in front of your step daughter. Its deffinatly not encouraging her to want to listen to you or respect you in anyway.
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Double undergrad graduation May 2011| Me: Psychology, DH: Communication| A long journey!
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Happy Birthday! I hope you can work it out so you can still have a good day.
I agree with PP's that your DH shouldn't criticize you in front of your step-daughter. You should have a talk with him when you two are alone together and tell him how you feel.
Thanks for the support! it was good to get it out!
We have talked so many times about it but he just can't get it into his stupid head what a big deal it is.
His daughter is spoiled and I bring along rules and discipline to a child who has none. Eats with her mouth open, talks with her mouth full and "negotiates" and manipulates big time. (overall she is a well behaved child she just needs direction as any child does they are learning from US as role models and parents!)
I don't stand for it so he gets defensive and makes me look bad.
I'm not 6 and there is no comparison. If I want to jump up and down on my couch with mud all over my feet I can because guess what I CLEAN IT! and of course I know better!
You're so right. Resentment has set in and it's not good. I've told him in a good mood, in a bad mood, yelling, being nice you name it.
She can do no wrong EVER. neither can the Ex.
I could have written this... my SD is 8, and not a bad kid, but has been acting like a real brat.