BG - Twice a year the base has a Bazaar. DH works one of the food booths to raise $$ for the Cheifs Group. SS, being in Jr ROTC is required to work 2 hours as pages, during the weekend. And I am on the Board fo the Spouses Group that is running this season's event, so I need to do 2 hours as well.
Special note: the Bazaar is held 20 minutes away. There are hourly shuttles that run between the base and the housing complex (a 10 minute walk for SS to get to). But they are not reliable.
The MINUTE SS joined Jr ROTC, I got on him to figure out this weekend. At that time, he WAS on the Soccer team (quit it because he was not being played...because he never put any effort into it) AND has a weekend job at the commissary. I was VERY adamant that he have this weekend's schedule SET two weeks out so I could set MY schedule.
As of LAST TUESDAY, after two weeks of giving me the same scheduled dates, we were set, with him working today (Saturday) 4-6p. So I set my schedule for the same times, and DH took the afternoon off so he could watch Monkey.
WE BOTH WERE VERY CLEAR THAT WE WERE WORKING OUR SCHEDULES AROUND SS. WE DISCUSSED THIS WITH HIM ON A NUMBER OF OCCASSIONS.
So FF to this morning. SS comes downstairs at 9:15a looking for DH. I give him the WTF look and say "he's gone already." He replies, "He's at the commissary already?" Another WTF look..."No he is working the bazaar."
Well, he goes off because he is now late for work...he doesnt want to walk...its not fair...blah blah blah...
I cut him off - "Excuse me, your supposed to work the Bazaar this afternoon".
He replies "They (the commissary) called me in for Saturday, so I switched my hours."
My reply, "So when were you going to tell yoru Father and I?"
Him "Why does it matter which day I am working?"
Me "because your Dad and I set our schedules to fit yours"
Him "I forgot, but its not like Dad wont be home to watch Monkey. So what does it matter?"
Me "Well, I made plans for Sunday, based on our previously discussed schedule where you were working the Bazaar on Sat and the Commissary on Sunday. Your dad is also set to work all day Sunday. So you are going to have to figure out how to get yourself to the bazaar tomorrow, because I am not going to change MY schedule at such a late date."
SS "your evil, I have to go, this is a requirement, I am giving you 24 hour notice..."
At this point, I step into his line of vision and say "First of all, you did NOT give me 24 hour notice about changing your plans for today, you gave me 15, nor did you mention tomorrow, I had to deduce that on my own. Second, the 24 hour notice was NEVER about us dropping everythingn to suit YOUR needs, it was to check to see if we COULD do it. I cant and I wont."
Him "I have to leave or I will be late...but I am going to call Dad."
I did not say another word.