This working mom of a SN kid is just so hard. I had my annual perf evaluation and I got dinged for, well, having to spend too much time taking care of personal things with him via phone, insurance, etc. I knew this was bound to happen someday, surprised not before now. I just don't know how else to manage all of this. Any advice?
Re: Bummed, any working moms or former working moms of SN kids
Were you dinged for taking time off to take him to therapy? Or for taking care on insurance things during the workday? Time spent on medical appts., etc. is covered by the FMLA, so they shouldn't be able to ding you for that so long as you follow the FMLA procedures.
As for insurance, I've had to spend way too much time working on that stuff -- I can recall calls where I have been on the phone for an hour at a time. Is it possible to make those calls before you get to the office? Or maybe come in early and take some time in the middle of the day? I'm lucky in that I have an hours commitment for the year, so no one generally cares if I take some time in the middle of the day. If all else fails, can you delegate some calls to your husband?
Yeah, the therapy runs aren't what get me dinged. It is the phone calls. I am usually using my lunch hour to do making runs that, or using PTO, or my dh and parents help out. See, I have no windows on my office door, so I like to keep it open, even during these calls. But, I think I may just have to shut it from now on or walk outside to talk on my cell.
My dh doesn't have any therapists numbers, but that is something I am going to program on his cell asap, so he can start taking care of some of this for me. Other than that, I don't see any other options. Insurance is my deal, and alot of times I have to be sitting down looking at paperwork while talking with them, so doing it while driving usually isn't an option. I don't trust my dh to understand all that goes into the insurance stuff, that is my baby.
My job as a teacher has worked out since I am at work REALLY early in the morning, but in turn get to leave in the early/mid afternoon. I don't have quite the same issues as you because of my schedule, but will say that DH handles all calls that need to be made/received before 3pm. I have told daycare, therapists, etc. to only call my cell if it is an emergency. Otherwise, all the doctors, etc. have DH's cell and not mine. His bosses are amazing and they are super flexible with him doing comp time, etc.
I agree with pps. Close that door! Even with work calls so that it doesn't appear that you are doing it just for personal things. Delegate what you can to DH (sounds like that is your plan as well). Also, I was suprised to find out that my insurance does have Saturday morning and evening hours for claims issues.
I hope that it gets better for you soon!