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damabo80
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Evites for shower? WWYD?
damabo80
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in Baby Showers
I was talking to one of my hostesses tonight and asked for an extra invite to send to my mom (who wants one for memory purposes, since she won't be able to attend the actual shower itself).
The hostess informed me that the invites were sent through evite a few days ago.
Some more info: it is a women's only shower held at the home of the hostess. All invitees who will be attending have access to email.
So, I have two choices:
1) Be thankful that a shower is being thrown for me, and keep mum about not having paper invites sent.
2) Ask the hostess to send out paper invites. If she already sent out evites (within the last few days), would this be weird? Heck, I would even pay for the invites and postage, no problem.
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Re: Evites for shower? WWYD?
I'd go with choice 1.
As a hostess, I wouldn't do e-vites myself, but as a guest of honor I couldn't bring myself to make a big deal out of it.
I agree. Evites for showers make me cringe, but it would probably hurt your hostesses feelings and that's more important than paper invites, IMO.
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I've never tried but can you copy and paste the evite? Didn't you get one yourself? Or didn't you rmom get one? Maybe she could just copy the page.
My good friend is having a baby dedication for her 2nd DS and sent evites. I did a scrapbook for her first DS and included his invite. I told her I would do paper invites to send even though there is only a week left (people already know the date/time/place etc) so it is not like they only have a week to prepare...but at least I'll have a PAPER invite to include in his scrapbook. Kind of funny because already he has about 1/3 of what his brother has...poor little guy. The disadvantages to being 2nd in line I guess.
I didn't get an evite sent to me. For my mom, no problem, I'll just give them her email address, and she can print a copy if she wants to.
Rather, my main concern is about the evite being super tacky, and whether it's worth it to say something or just keep mum.
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BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
I realize that you are concerned about the evite coming across as tacky, but rest assured that it doesn't reflect poorly on you. If people got it and thought it was tacky they are judging the hostess of the shower.
Of course I think paper invites would've been the better choice, but I don't think it's worth it to hurt her feelings by saying something.
This again. IMHO, you saying something about the e-vites is a bigger faux pas than the e-vites themselves. You can only control your own actions, and I'm sure your hostess had good intentions. Hopefully, most of the guests will (like her) think nothing of it.
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My younger sister was one of the co-hosts for my shower and she put together beautiful e-vites (she's in the graphic design & advertising field) but she also send a printed copy to the few ladies that didn't have access to email and one for me as a memory. They turned out stunning! I didn't think it was tacky at all.
I did make sure to send hand-written thank-you notes though, as I think a mass thank-you email/ thank-you emails in general border on tacky (double strandard?). Email is the way to go- get with the times
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Agree with this... I think evites can be acceptable, but in this instance, I would just smile and thank her for the shower. By the time you send out paper thank-you notes, I'm sure any guests that thought the e-vite was not appropriate will have forgotten.
Are evites super tacky? Yes.
Should you say something at this point considering that's what your hostess chose? No.
I think this is one situation where you just have to keep your mouth shut. You might not love it, but you wouldn't want to put a strain on the relationship and/or start the shower on the wrong foot.
This... I completely agree with your reaction, and would feel the same way if I learned evites were sent for my shower... but for all you know, maybe she couldn't afford to order paper invites and postage. It's a reflection of her, not you.
Do not ask her to send paper invites.
I don't like baby shower evites either, but you will be the tacky one if you ask her to do this. Just print out the evite and save that as a keepsake.
my thoughts exactly. i hate evite but ...
1st baby shower, yes paper would be more appropriate.
2nd shower, I would say evites are fine.
This... while I understand the desire to say something to the hostess I wouldn't actually do it. I don't think that the "evites" are an indicator of something you would do. When I attend a baby shower I know that the momma-to-be probably didn't do much in the way of planning.