Rooming In?

lucylea

No need to be nasty?  You said those of us sending our children to the nursery are doing something unnatural!!  I'll also be delivering in an unnatural way (c-section). Good thing there are good shrinks in our area to work out my kids' issues.  

aesf

jdm7:

As a FTM I will be sending the baby to the nursery at the hospital. It is what was recommended to me by a handful of new mom's and 2nd time + mom's. The theory was that for one or two nights I'll be able to get some sleep and then get baby all to myself (and DH) when we get home.

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H2obabyblu

lucylea:

No need to be nasty?  You said those of us sending our children to the nursery are doing something unnatural!!  I'll also be delivering in an unnatural way (c-section). Good thing there are good shrinks in our area to work out my kids' issues.  

Please do not put words in my mouth, I said in my opinion and with my previous experience I feel it is unnatural. I thought we were adults and can handle opinions different than our own? Obviously my comment has upset you and others and I already apologized. I apologize again if it was offensive.

You are right having a csection is not 'natural' but most women do so out of medical necessity, not personal preference.

abergale

My childbirth class with DD recommended trying to room in so you can get used to each other before you have to go home (DH and I were able to establish a good routine, he changed the diaper, handed her to me, and I put her back to bed after feeding). But she also warned to not be afraid to use the nursery if you need it. That was great advice for me and DH.

We had DD stay with us the whole time. The nurses came in to help DH learn to swaddle better etc to help us sleep. The night before we were going to leave she was extra fussy and DH and I were just exhausted. So we sent her to the nursery between two feedings. Not very long but felt wonderful for us

skylooo

H2obabyblu:

mainemommy:

H2obabyblu:

katie4253:

H2obabyblu:

I kept DS with me, my OB suggested I send him to the nursery so I could sleep. That same night he cried unless I held him (after his circumcision). I plan on keeping DD with me as well. IMO there is something unnatural about sending your baby away right after you give birth.

Well, that was judgmental...

Sorry, it is just my opinion

Its not unnatural its intelligent. I have 2 kids that Ill have to keep up with after I come home with baby. I will get no naps. I will be waking up at night to feed baby. I will be much better off getting rest while I can in the hospital, for my sanity & for my ability to not be short tempered with my children.

I had plenty of time with them, I didnt send them "right away". We bonded amazingly well.

Who are you again?

Yikes! Sorry like I said it is just my opinion.

I had extreme anxiety when the nurses took DS away for any amount of time.  You are entitled to your own opinions and can do whatever you would like with your children.

Our opinions may not be the same- but there is no need to be nasty.

I apologize if I offended anyone with my opinion regarding this subject.

 

 FWIW, I agree with you. Some people are going to get defensive about the choices they make, that's all this is.  Room-in or nursery, BF or FF, RF or FF, circ or no-circ, blah blah blah. 

lucylea

H2obabyblu:

lucylea:

No need to be nasty?  You said those of us sending our children to the nursery are doing something unnatural!!  I'll also be delivering in an unnatural way (c-section). Good thing there are good shrinks in our area to work out my kids' issues.  

Please do not put words in my mouth, I said in my opinion and with my previous experience I feel it is unnatural. I thought we were adults and can handle opinions different than our own? Obviously my comment has upset you and others and I already apologized. I apologize again if it was offensive.

You are right having a csection is not 'natural' but most women do so out of medical necessity, not personal preference.

Don't worry, you didn't upset me.  I really couldn't care less what a stranger on the internet thinks of my parenting style.  I'm happy with the choices DH and I make as parents and your opinion has no effect on that.  However, you were upset that someone was being nasty to you when they were far from it.  

aesf

H2obabyblu:

katie4253:

H2obabyblu:

I kept DS with me, my OB suggested I send him to the nursery so I could sleep. That same night he cried unless I held him (after his circumcision). I plan on keeping DD with me as well. IMO there is something unnatural about sending your baby away right after you give birth.

Well, that was judgmental...

Sorry, it is just my opinion

and thats your right. you are entitled to you opinion.  Just as im entitled to think your opinion makes you sound like an as$hat.

 

Thanks to american extended adolescence my kids gonna live with me for like 22 years... im cool with sleeping so i can preform my functions better when we get home and back to real life.  But I see nothing wrong with wanting to keep your little bundle of joy too 

Gummybear

I will send her to the nursery. I am having a c/s and DH will most likely be at home with DD #1. I will need someone to hand me the baby when I nurse, and if she cries or fusses I want someone to be able to attend to her asap, which won't be happening if I am alone in bed 24-48 hours post op.

I was one of those "rooming in, how could you imagine doing otherwise?" ladies the first time. I am just sayin'..

H2obabyblu

aesf:

H2obabyblu:

katie4253:

H2obabyblu:

I kept DS with me, my OB suggested I send him to the nursery so I could sleep. That same night he cried unless I held him (after his circumcision). I plan on keeping DD with me as well. IMO there is something unnatural about sending your baby away right after you give birth.

Well, that was judgmental...

Sorry, it is just my opinion

and thats your right. you are entitled to you opinion.  Just as im entitled to think your opinion makes you sound like an as$hat.

 

And calling people names on the internet makes you what?

katie4253

H2obabyblu:

aesf:

H2obabyblu:

katie4253:

H2obabyblu:

I kept DS with me, my OB suggested I send him to the nursery so I could sleep. That same night he cried unless I held him (after his circumcision). I plan on keeping DD with me as well. IMO there is something unnatural about sending your baby away right after you give birth.

Well, that was judgmental...

Sorry, it is just my opinion

and thats your right. you are entitled to you opinion.  Just as im entitled to think your opinion makes you sound like an as$hat.

 

And calling people names on the internet makes you what?

Still you.  The way you worded it was rude.  You should have said that sending your child away felt unnatural to YOU not that it was an unnatural action for any mother to do it.  

aesf

H2obabyblu:

aesf:

H2obabyblu:

katie4253:

H2obabyblu:

I kept DS with me, my OB suggested I send him to the nursery so I could sleep. That same night he cried unless I held him (after his circumcision). I plan on keeping DD with me as well. IMO there is something unnatural about sending your baby away right after you give birth.

Well, that was judgmental...

Sorry, it is just my opinion

and thats your right. you are entitled to you opinion.  Just as im entitled to think your opinion makes you sound like an as$hat.

 

And calling people names on the internet makes you what?

Actually I didn't call you an as$hat.  I said I think your opinion makes you sound like one.  Its slightly different.  You could be perfectly nice, but its my opinion that you have no care for others beliefs or feelings when sharing your opinions, or at least did not here.  It may be your opinion but it was phrased extremely rude. And its my opinion you know it was rude because of how strongly you are defending "your right to an opinion." THe lady doth protest too much. 

 

its ok to think its not ok to send YOUR child away.  Its not ok to make others feel unnatural or wrong for doing so.  Doing that makes you sound like an as$hat. 

twhatwaffle

H2obabyblu:

aesf:

H2obabyblu:

katie4253:

H2obabyblu:

I kept DS with me, my OB suggested I send him to the nursery so I could sleep. That same night he cried unless I held him (after his circumcision). I plan on keeping DD with me as well. IMO there is something unnatural about sending your baby away right after you give birth.

Well, that was judgmental...

Sorry, it is just my opinion

and thats your right. you are entitled to you opinion.  Just as im entitled to think your opinion makes you sound like an as$hat.

 

And calling people names on the internet makes you what?

 

And saying douchey things on the internet followed up by a cutsey smiley face makes you a what?

Hint: It starts with an A, ends with an -at and rhymes with "masshat"

Seriously, no one attacked you, just the way you worded your shitty opinion.  Stop acting like some sort of martyr and grow a pair to stick by your opinion.  Also, learn to read.

heather_09_15_07

I sent DD to the nursery last time. I thought I'd sleep better but I still had to wake up every 2 hours to nurse, and I could hear her screaming the entire time she was being wheeled down the hall to me, which was heartbreaking.

This time, I'm more used to "baby noise" and lack of sleep, so I'll keep her with me.

WorkingMomofTwo

I kept Oscar with me for as much as I could, but I had DH with me the whole time since I needed help after my c/s. I will most likely room in again... depending on how this c/s goes.

cburitz

Jay_Cee:

Our hospital is family-centered, so rooming in is the only option for us. They don't even have a typical nursery behind a glass window with babies lined up (the ILs are upset about this, haha).

Even if the hospital did not have this policy, I'd want to room in anyway. This baby has been with me 100% of the time for the last 30 weeks. Even though I will be tired, I can't imagine not wanting the baby with me 100% of the time right after s/he is born.

Same here. I'm a FTM so I don't want to be apart from my LO for more then 30 seconds. Maybe I'll feel different the next time around...