Hardest thing to give up?

nirern626

My heart goes out to all the Southern mamas in the wake of these terrible storms.  I am originally from Texas, and in my heart I will always be a southerner.  I hope you and your families are safe.  

This is the first time that I regret the timing of events in regard to my pregnancy.  I'm sure that sounds selfish to many, and I don't mean it in that way.  I don't regret my pregnancy at all.  I have mentioned before that I am a paramedic, as a medic I am a member of a New York City organization that deploys medics to disaster areas.  I went to Haiti, and I've responded to various situations around the country.  It's killing me that I can no longer respond when there is a need.  

I promised DH that once I was pregnant, and after we had children I would stop the disaster relief.  I know in my heart that these situations are often dangerous for me (international more so than domestic) and it wouldn't be right to leave my children behind to help and risk them losing their mother, but it is something that calls to me.  This is by far the hardest thing I am giving up to be a mother.  What about you ladies?  Surely I'm not the only one afraid of completely losing who I am.  What is the thing that will be the hardest for you to give up?  

jam803

I'm really thinking about becoming a SAH mom. I worked very hard to get my master's and pass the CPA exam. I just got my certification in January. I feel like my job has been my identity kind of, and it is scary to think about not having one.  Especially, since I live in a small town and I'm not sure there are the mom's groups and things I would like to be able to participate in to get social interaction. I would have church, but it is a little bit different being the pastor's wife.

ishka338

We thought this through and decided to have this baby and couldn't be happier, as I'm sure you all fee the same, but I have to say it will be hard to not just drop everything and go on vacation now.  DH and I have always been the last minute travelers and we loved doing that.  Now, I won't be working and we will have a little person to think of too, so it won't be easy to just get up and go.  I'm sure we will still do vacations, it will just have to planned out a lot better now. 

ashleah83

OP - Am so sorry you had to give this up. I broke up with college BF (who I dated for 4 yrs) in part because he didn't support my desire to do this kind of work.  The man I married having dealt with the tsunami in Sri Lanka feels very differently and would be the first to pack up our whole family to go help in a disaster.

I think I have always been a risk-taker though and I am going to have a hard time giving that up, but I agree that some things are just not safe and it is unfair to engage in unsafe ventures when you have LOs depending on you.