Feeling lost and alone... (vent)

deroumanie

When I found out I was pregnant, I was in the process of leaving my boyfriend of a year, and moving out. We were in an unstable relationship, plagued by possessiveness, and a lot of hurt and anger. I most definitely didn't want to have a child at that point, and until then I was always pro-choice. But something about the way it happened, how early I found out, (over a week early) , after a night of heavy drinking with my girl friend, made me start wondering if there is such a thing as 'meant to be'. For the last 2 months I tried repeatedly to make things work with the father. Now  I have to face the reality of doing it all on my own. I will have support from my family, but this isn't how I pictured welcoming a child into the world. I wish things were picture perfect, but they're not... I am the only one out of my friends who is even close to having children, it's hard not having anyone to really talk to, someone that understands how scary it is to be pregnant, and to have to  be both mommy & daddy. ;(

 

P.S. I'm 25. 

achase123

Unfortunately this isn't how any of us pictured raising a child.  You deal with the hand you have been dealt (one of my mottos).  Hang in there.  You CAN do this and you WILL do it. 

deroumanie

I really hope to be a wonderful mom! By the way you have a beautiful little boy! 

achase123

deroumanie:

I really hope to be a wonderful mom! By the way you have a beautiful little boy! 

Thank you very much

septmom11

I am in a similar situation.  I dont know about yours but my ex is not helping out AT ALL. We had also split when i found out i was pregnant.  The first few months were really hard.  I am 5 1/2 months now and just starting to get past the pain.  I am now super excited for my baby to come.  As long as you have your family/friends support you dont need him.  Also look on the bright side you can make all parenting, decorating and planning  descisions on your own and dont have to compromise with your ex over anything!

achase123

I would also like to add that the birth experience can still be wonderful.  Have a friend be your labor coach, or a trusted family member.  Don't let him ruin the experience for you.

dimake

achase123:

Unfortunately this isn't how any of us pictured raising a child.  You deal with the hand you have been dealt (one of my mottos).  Hang in there.  You CAN do this and you WILL do it. 

This!  It's scary, but rewarding.

gns1988

i have a similar situation my ex left me at 20 weeks im now 34 weeks and it has been hard not having him around for support but after all he has sead to me im glad he is not in my life and at this point choosing not to be in her life he is not a good person and im so scard but i know it will all be worth it to see her in 6 weeks i have read a lot or theas post and i can say theas woman will be honest but will support you as much as they can