IL vent

wildfloweragain

MIL and SIL have been on my kids about the fact that there are no fairies.  They just started watching Disney movies last year and ILs keep correcting my kids that there are no fairies (it's not that my kids are asking if they are real.)  DD lost her first tooth today and is super excited about the Tooth Fairy.  We are going to MIL's for Easter and I know she is going to burst her bubble.  I have already said "I'm fine with my kids believing in fairies at age 4 and 6.  Please don't correct them."  They still do.

luckyluvr

Why do some grown-ups have to be such buzzkills?

kancell724

I would just remind your MIL and SIL that you want your kids to believe in faries and to please not say anything to your DD because shes excited about the tooth fairy. 

ilovemygirls

What creeps.  Seriously.  And this is from someone who doesn't do Santa!  But I am very big on making sure that my kids don't ruin it for anyone else.  And even though we don't really "pretend" that holiday characters are real, my 3yo has decided that the Easter Bunny is real.  She's 3 and I'm not going to burst her bubble!

wildfloweragain

And they do Santa and the Easter Bunny.  It's just they are super Catholic and got peeved when DS mentioned his fairy godmother.  They both flipped since "Godmother" is a super-de-duper religious thing and they can't get over it.  Therefore they have to eradicate all things "fairy" from my children's vocabulary.

Cbidt's girl

I would be reminding my kids that some grown-ups aren't able to see fairies or to see their magic. That way, when MIL says something you can just give your kid that little look that says "she's one of THOSE grownups that just can't see fairies and their wonderful magic.". You're kid still gets to believe, MIL gets to spout her mean reality, and the relationship is preserved.

MelandJeff

These are your children, I dont care what the beliefs are of your MIL- it is NOT her place to say jack sh!t.

Tell her to keep her trap shut, or you will keep your kids at home.

 

Littlejen22

I would flat out tell them "My kids believe in the tooth fairy, the Easter bunny and Santa, do NOT tell them that those are not real."  Actually I would have DH make it very clear that they should keep their opinions to themself.

Zenya

woah what asssholes, seriously.

littlemermaid

wildfloweragain:

And they do Santa and the Easter Bunny.  It's just they are super Catholic and got peeved when DS mentioned his fairy godmother.  They both flipped since "Godmother" is a super-de-duper religious thing and they can't get over it.  Therefore they have to eradicate all things "fairy" from my children's vocabulary.

Please don't use the "she's super Catholic" to explain why she does this.  I'm Catholic, my children go to Catholic school we all do the Easter Bunny, Santa Claus, Tooth Fairy, Fairy Godmother.  Please just say she's a nut case and leave it at that.  It has nothing to do with being Catholic.

Mominator

Cbidt's girl:

I would be reminding my kids that some grown-ups aren't able to see fairies or to see their magic. That way, when MIL says something you can just give your kid that little look that says "she's one of THOSE grownups that just can't see fairies and their wonderful magic.". You're kid still gets to believe, MIL gets to spout her mean reality, and the relationship is preserved.

 

 

wildfloweragain

littlemermaid:

wildfloweragain:

And they do Santa and the Easter Bunny.  It's just they are super Catholic and got peeved when DS mentioned his fairy godmother.  They both flipped since "Godmother" is a super-de-duper religious thing and they can't get over it.  Therefore they have to eradicate all things "fairy" from my children's vocabulary.

Please don't use the "she's super Catholic" to explain why she does this.  I'm Catholic, my children go to Catholic school we all do the Easter Bunny, Santa Claus, Tooth Fairy, Fairy Godmother.  Please just say she's a nut case and leave it at that.  It has nothing to do with being Catholic.

 

Maybe I should have said it this way - they believe they are Super Catholic, their own cape-wearing versions.

littlemermaid

wildfloweragain:

littlemermaid:

wildfloweragain:

And they do Santa and the Easter Bunny.  It's just they are super Catholic and got peeved when DS mentioned his fairy godmother.  They both flipped since "Godmother" is a super-de-duper religious thing and they can't get over it.  Therefore they have to eradicate all things "fairy" from my children's vocabulary.

Please don't use the "she's super Catholic" to explain why she does this.  I'm Catholic, my children go to Catholic school we all do the Easter Bunny, Santa Claus, Tooth Fairy, Fairy Godmother.  Please just say she's a nut case and leave it at that.  It has nothing to do with being Catholic.

 

Maybe I should have said it this way - they believe they are Super Catholic, their own cape-wearing versions.

That's much better!  LOL!!

shopgirl78

Gah!  That sucks.  I second having your husband approach them.   

Have fun playing tooth fairy tonight!  

wildfloweragain

ILs were fine, tonight at least.  Very excited for her about her tooth. 

I'm actually the one who messed it up.  Dh got his coins out that he received as a child from the tooth fairy (yup, apparently tooth fairy was fine with MIL back then.)  I put them next to me on the computer table and DD came downstairs an extra time to use the bathroom yet again.  She honed right in on them and asked what they were.  Ugh, she remembers everything, too. SO I looked up online how to fold a $1 bill into a ring and used that.  I want to use DH's coins in the future but he thinks she'll always remember and then she'll figure it out. 

She asked "what are those?" and I said "coins, now go potty."  Trying to distract her.

 

I seriously hope she gets to enjoy the magic for a while.  She already asks a lot of questions (How are tooth fairies born?) and it was treacherous trying to make the switch right now while she shares a room with her light-sleeping brother!