Throwing Things Problem

satreece

Okay, so Butler's into Polls and PIPs tonight and I'm into problems!  We're having issues and, well, as someone said earlier - you're my peeps!

Quinn is throwing things.  It was starting before the baby was born and it's continuing!  I usually correct him in a calm firm voice the first time and then take whatever away if he continues to throw it.  He absolutely knows what throwing is and I assume (because he's a pretty bright kid), the he knows I'm telling him NOT to do it.  He looks like he's being defiant when he is doing it and I know he's just testing the boundaries.  I'm sure he doesn't fully understand (if at all), WHY throwing is not a good idea.  The other day his empty water cup hit the baby in the head when he threw it and the baby started to cry (I was holding the baby, but couldn't block the cup in time to keep it from hitting him - bad mom).  He looked very surprised and sad when the baby cried.  I know he isn't trying to HURT, just trying to get attention.

SO... my question is, do I ignore it?  Should I try removing myself from the situation (just leave the room - tell him I'm not going to play with him if he throws stuff)?  Yesterday, he woke up from his nap in a good mood, had a snack, and proceeded to throw one thing after another at me, having a huge tantrum every time I took something away.  He was being so loud, DH came in the house and made a comment about how I obviously needed help because I couldn't handle the situation or something like that.  I thought I was doing the thing that he and I discussed we were going to do when Quinn threw stuff, but it was not having any positive effect.  I felt like Quinn continued to do it because he was getting attention, even though it was negative attention. 

What to do???

mrs.a.butler

I would probably tell him that if he throws such and such again you will take it away.  then take it away if he does. 

I would get on his level and actually explain why you don't throw, even if you don't think he understands, he may understand more than you think.

Remove him from the situation and get his mind on something else.  Start coloring with him or something.  Just a different activity with just you and him.  And make it a point to give him just you and him time every single day.  Even just 20 minutes.  And try to make it around the same time every day.   

crackerjackprinter

mrs.a.butler:

I would probably tell him that if he throws such and such again you will take it away.  then take it away if he does. 

I would get on his level and actually explain why you don't throw, even if you don't think he understands, he may understand more than you think.

Remove him from the situation and get his mind on something else.  Start coloring with him or something.  Just a different activity with just you and him.  And make it a point to give him just you and him time every single day.  Even just 20 minutes.  And try to make it around the same time every day.   

This whole post, esp. the bolded part.  We had the same issues when DS was born but I think explaining it to her helped.