How do you teach your husband....

jcole32444

to be good in bed? I love my H. And I love our sexy time!

But honestly he is horrible at foreplay and most of the time he ends up being the only one that is pleased. I have tried helping him.

It seems like he needs a play by play the entire time!!! 

Hyfagal

Then give him a play by play. Being timid in bed isn't going to help your cause and guy's often like dirty talk. Tell him what you what, put his hands and mouth where you want them. Be forceful. It might be fun for both of you.

I know he's not a dog but reward him for good behavior. : ) Tell him when he's doing something right and never ever fake a response if you don't like something or it's "meh" because you'll just keep getting more of it..

TakeLuck

Hyfagal:

Then give him a play by play. Being timid in bed isn't going to help your cause and guy's often like dirty talk. Tell him what you what, put his hands and mouth where you want them. Be forceful. It might be fun for both of you.

I know he's not a dog but reward him for good behavior. : ) Tell him when he's doing something right and never ever fake a response if you don't like something or it's "meh" because you'll just keep getting more of it..

This is true. You've really got to tell him what you like and what you want him to do. Pretending he's doing a knock out job is only going to encourage him to keep doing what he's doing. In my experience, boys like being told what to do in the sack...

bobbyruth

Hyfagal:

Then give him a play by play. Being timid in bed isn't going to help your cause and guy's often like dirty talk. Tell him what you what, put his hands and mouth where you want them. Be forceful. It might be fun for both of you.

I know he's not a dog but reward him for good behavior. : ) Tell him when he's doing something right and never ever fake a response if you don't like something or it's "meh" because you'll just keep getting more of it..

Yes! This.

skroops

Ditto telling him what to do. DH loves dirty talk.

jcole32444

I do!!! But I want a night where I dont have too.

Hyfagal

jcole32444:

I do!!! But I want a night where I dont have too.

Make a deal with him. Tell him you'll fix or take him out for dinner. You get a night in bed to be spoiled. He knows what you like so do it well. If he fails ditch him with the kids and console yourself with some retail therapy the next day.

xoashleigh4ox

then you give him a play by play!!! hes not going to learn if u don't teach him.. but be gentle... good luck!

Hyfagal

Also if you're into movies you could watch one together and point out things that you'd like to try or mention "hey I love it when you do that." Just introducing something new might make a difference in the overall experience.

Have you tried toys? You don't have to answer but that could also be fun for you both. Suprise him with a new one. Adam and Eve is a great site to buy from. They have totally discrete shipping but don't sign up for their mailing list. Those postcards totally let my postman on to my freaky nature.

xoashleigh4ox

also invest in a bullet.. its my orgasm life savor...

jcole32444

We have an entire drawer deticated to toy, bed restraints etc. We have done so much.

But like I said, I just want a romantic night in bed, no toys, no words. Just me and H and the moment. Maybe I am asking for to much.

We havnt tried the video things, I'll suggest it!

Tricia879

jcole32444:

We have an entire drawer deticated to toy, bed restraints etc. We have done so much.

But like I said, I just want a romantic night in bed, no toys, no words. Just me and H and the moment. Maybe I am asking for to much.

We havnt tried the video things, I'll suggest it!

 

My only suggestion if he is not retaining the play by play is to write it down, hand it to him and say remember this if you ever want sexy time again..

Fergie+1

I dunno; girl. If he can't rember the difference between "Ooh, yeah..." and "FUCKMELIKEADIRTYWHORE!"... maybe some educational videos might help... and make SURE he knows what rocks your world and what doesn't.

Also, stroke his ego as much as you can. If I make a point to praise H during, after, and the following day on his amazingness, he usually gets the point.

pattersg

PP are right. You don't want to treat him like a dog, but the more you show him you are pleased with what he does right... the more he'll do it! I am a Passion Parties Consultant and we sell so many toys and stuff to help with foreplay because it is one of the area women want more of and men don't know where to start! We also have a book called "Passion Parties Guide to Great Sex" and it is amazing!! It talks about 10 ways to improve your sex life. It is really difficult to bring it up with your SO but it will always be worth it in the end! Sometimes a play by play is completely necessary! HTH. Look for a consultant in your area and I bet they can help you out!! or my website is gilliancromwell.yourpassionconsultant.com