Writing up papers together..

JCGreene85

Has anyone tried this? Tried to be civil and decide on visitation without the court systems? I am not sure I we should even try but is it worth a shot to see if we "agree" Ex lives in Florida and all of a sudden wants to file for visitation to get Wy down there for weekends. I've been sick to my stomach, but I also know he can't afford a court battle so he wants to try and do this together. 

What are your thoughts? He is an OK dad but only visits like every 4-5 months for a weekend. He has never had Wy unsupervised so I worry about that. 

Temp552270562505132

i would hire an atty.  and go through the courts.  especially since he wants him to go to another state to visit.  marietta is a long way from fla for a two day visit.  who is going to take him how would he get there, etc.  who will incur the cost?  etc.  

this is your son you're talking about.  its worth any amount of money for a lawyer/court/etc.  you want to be extra careful with this stuff.  

 

just  my opinion though.  good luck.  and its really good that you're trying to be civil.  just because you get an atty doesn't mean it has to be nasty. 

 

 

Watergirl21

Can you get a consult with a lawyer- maybe through your work or something?

I live in Canada- so things are probably different there but my work offered a free consult with a lawyer and they sent me some info.  They told me that basically when people seperate the best thing to do is go to a family law mediator who will sit down with both of you and draw up the agreement and then you would both get a lawyer to consult with before finalizing the agreement.  She said it is WAY cheaper than going to court.

She also told me that the courts favor having both parents involved.  I think one weekend every 4 or 5 months is really reasonable for you.  Is he willing to pay child support?  Also does he have family in fla?  The odds are probably good that when he is taking LO he will probably take him or her to visit his family.  Do you trust his family?    If he is a good man, I would trust him... the lawyer also told me that what is best for the child is for the parents to get along.

julia0402

We didn't use lawyers or mediators or anything.  It went really well for us (and trust me, our relationship isn't great) but depends on the individual situation, of course.  We both really wanted to avoid the time and expense of hiring lawyers, and wanted to keep our relationship as civil as possible for Caro's sake.  Again, doesn't work in every circumstance but it ended up going well for us.  I can forward you a generic version of our parenting plan that we wrote together if you PM me your email.

JCGreene85

No, he doesn't have any family in Florida. He moved down there for a girl, and they are actually no longer together (or so he tells me). He doesnt have any family here either. He does pay child support, but what he gives me doesnt even cover half of child care. His 2nd court date for CS is Monday. I am not afraid of spending money on a lawyer, and I know this isnt something to take lightly, but if we can do without that would be ideal. If we cant agree, I would call my atty immediately. 

 I would love to see a generic parenting plan of yours. I'll PM you now! 

snozberries

can I also get that similar plan so I can maybe have that with my ex plz...pm me or email me at

ek_1queen@yahoo.com

Meliss227

https://12circuit.state.fl.us/LinkClick.aspx?fileticket=n8D9r5nHwUI=&tabid=240&mid=687

Sorry this isn't clicky (on a mac) but it is a really good parenting plan from the 12th Judicial Circuit Family Law in Florida. It is very detailed and I think covers pretty much anything you can imagine.

Maybe it would help you guys when you are trying to work something out.