Emotions regarding arrival of #2

futuremrs.inman

My emotions are definitely getting the best of me this morning. I started looking at pics of C's first Easter and was crying like a baby. And in the middle of my sobbing C came over and hugged me and I said "I love you" and he replied "I love you more"....I lost it.  It's making me very sad to think he's not going to be the "baby" much longer.  Being a family of 4 seems so much bigger to me than our small little family of 3.  DH and I know we want more kids (probably 3 or 4) and are so excited to meet this little girl but then there's the side of me that wants it to be just the 3 of us forever. I keep telling DH whenever we go out to eat or go to the park or whatever, "This might be the last time we ______ as a family of 3!"  Of course he tells me it'll be fine which I know it will be but the emotions keep coming. I am going to be a wreck when we have to leave him to go to the hospital! 

Please tell me I'm not the only basket case that deals with this!

stacieann15

I don't have 2 (yet -- hopefully one day!) but I think I would feel exactly the same. Totally normal!

identicaltwins2be

I felt exactly the same way.  We knew we wanted to bring another baby into our lives but when we got pregnant I was worried we made the wrong choice.  Of course, now I can't image life without the boys and we absolutely made the right decision in expanding our family.  The good thing for you is your DS is young enough that he isn't going to remember life without his sibling.  I'm sure it will be an adjustment in the beginning but it will quickly become "normal' life.

Good luck!  Enjoy your remaining time as a family of three but think about how wonderful life will be as a family of 4  

cat81305

Totally normal!!  Enjoy your time as a family of 3 but you will make even more memories together as a family of 4!  I can't imagine my life without my 2 precious babies

gandcnky

You're totally not alone.  I felt like this my entire pregnancy with A.  People kept telling me it'd go away, but I just kept feeling sad off and on, and I felt so guilty for "ruining" B's world.  I did a lot of the "this is the last time we'll ____" thinking, which made me crazy.

Leaving B to go to the hospital was hard, but it was really only a blip in the grand scheme.

I know I'm only 3 weeks in, but I can honestly say that giving B a sibling is a great thing.  Seeing how much he adores his sister already, at not even two years old, melts my heart.  He wants to help and he's not jealous.  It just works.  I thought I could never love another child the way I love B, but you just do.  People assured me of this, but it really is true.

Enjoy these last days, and know it will be wonderful!

Traycee1242

I think many people feel like that. I know I do, and I still have a bit of time before she gets here.. (and OMG it is so weird to say SHE )

I've actually felt really guilty about baby #2... because the excitement isn't the same this time around.. it's all "ive done that/felt that before"  and it's not new.

I know like everyone said I will love this baby just as much.. Right now it doesn't seem possible. Hang in there, I bet once she gets here you will never know what you did without her!

warriormomerin

Totally normal. We tried for 1 1/2 years for DS so I felt even more guilty for feeling this way. Now when I see the bond that my children have, I wouldn't have it any other way. They absolutely adore each other (even now when they spend 99% of their time fighting like cats and dogs) and I can't imagine what life would be like without DS. It's also a comfort to me to know that if anything were to ever happen to me, they'd still have each other.