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Would it be rude...

time3to1dance5time3to1dance5
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... If I planned my baby shower along with my mom?
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Re: Would it be rude...

  • BallSoxBallSox member

    Planned as in hosting?  Yes.  Planned as in when she says "what kind of cake do you want, chocolate or vanilla?" and you say "Chocolate", not really.  

    However, if you respond "QUIT asking me all of these questions! Take your shower and screw off" when someone asks you what kind of cake you want, then yes--yes, it's rude.  (Sorry for the callback to https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/52297143.aspx, but  I couldn't resist)

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  • time3to1dance5time3to1dance5
    That post is kind of what made me ask lol.
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    imagetime3to1dance5:
    That post is kind of what made me ask lol.

    I will give you a heads up though, if you start posting on a lot of more public/popular boards, you're likely to get a lot of flames for all of the tickers.  It's annoying to scroll through so many that say, essentially, the same thing.  

    .....and people say I can't be nice. Ha!  

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  • mandyhall2882mandyhall2882
    My mom is throwing/planning mine and I'm helping her in small details such as food, guest lists, etc. She also wanted me to help her choose some games for the guests to play.
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  • cherokeemomma87cherokeemomma87 member
    imageBallSox:

    Planned as in hosting?  Yes.  Planned as in when she says "what kind of cake do you want, chocolate or vanilla?" and you say "Chocolate", not really.  

    However, if you respond "QUIT asking me all of these questions! Take your shower and screw off" when someone asks you what kind of cake you want, then yes--yes, it's rude.  (Sorry for the callback to https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/52297143.aspx, but  I couldn't resist)

    LMAO!!! I agree, helping to plan or give the host direction is fine, but dont cohost its supposed to be your day.

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  • mybobofomybobofo member
    I think it is fine to help out as long as your mom wants/asks for help.  Don't just step in and take over, though!  Lol.  My mom hosted mine and asked me about a lot of the details in the beginning.  I even designed the invites and sent them out (used to do graphics, so it just made sense).  However, she paid for everything, put everything together, and made the big decisions - venue, food, decorations - after we discussed theme and invites.  I think she was a little nervous to do it on her own at first, but once the ball got rolling she was excited.  
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  • BallSoxBallSox member
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    imageBallSox:

    imagetime3to1dance5:
    That post is kind of what made me ask lol.

    I will give you a heads up though, if you start posting on a lot of more public/popular boards, you're likely to get a lot of flames for all of the tickers.  It's annoying to scroll through so many that say, essentially, the same thing.  

    .....and people say I can't be nice. Ha!  

    That was very delicately put BallSox!

    I'm not entirely sure, but I think my being nice is one of the signs of the end of the world.  I'd stock up on flashlights and batteries.   

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  • abell77abell77 member
    you shouldn't host your own shower, but if you mom is actively inviting your input about what you want, then it's fine.  if your mom feels like she's got things covered but you keep telling her what you want as though it's a demand, then that would not be ok.
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  • Amanda&EricBAmanda&EricB member

    imagemandyhall2882:
    My mom is throwing/planning mine and I'm helping her in small details such as food, guest lists, etc. She also wanted me to help her choose some games for the guests to play.

    This is sorta what is going on with me/my shower. My stepmom asks for my opinion a lot, and I believe its only because she truly wants to make it a day that I will love. I don't think there is anything wrong with "helping" as long as you aren't doing the majority of the hosting duties.

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  • Heather16578Heather16578
    I personally dont see a problem with it - although I wouldnt put on the invites that your co-hosting or make it to public that your hosting either. I would consider yourself a "silent" partner in this and just give the ideas to your mom. My SIL had input on her shower when her mom planned it, as for me my mom has has alot of sisters so I can NOT wait to see what they came up with.
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  • weddingbells2010weddingbells2010 member

    imageHeather16578:
    I would consider yourself a "silent" partner in this and just give the ideas to your mom.

     

    this.  I am essentially doing the same thing because my mom works two jobs and my MIL's idea of planning a party is to take everyone to a restaurant and let the waitress do the work.  I have food allergies and need to be involved in some things like the food selection, but basically only the two of them and my BFF know that I have helped in any way... it would take the fun out of it for the guests to think the guest of honor hosted her own party. 

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