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My CRAZY story!

So I have been meaning to post for awhile but have been insanely busy. Warning, this has to do with a baby so don't read it if it will upset you.

As you guys know we are 2.5 years TTC. 3 REs later we are still unexplained and after much soul searching we were gearing up for IUI #1. I was ready to move to adoption and had researched it ad nausea but DH wanted to try ART. Our friends and family however knew we were considering adotpion as a possibility at some point down the road.

I was waiting for AF to call the doctor to get our IUI rolling. 2 weeks ago I get a call that says basically "a friend of a friend has a 10 month old baby she can not care fo (long story but trust me she can NOT care for this baby), DCF is set to step in and take the child but gave her the option to voluntarily place it for adoption can you take it. You have to decide NOW and you have to come now". I left work immediately and drove 8 hours to get the baby. That night AF arrived. I did NOT call the RE to start our IUI (I called DH on teh way and told him to get a crib)!  Next day we did paperwork, bought things needed for the drive home, saw the DCF worker, etc. The next day I drove home. That was CD3, the day I would have started my meds for IUI. 

Now this is not all a "pie in the sky" story because it is still very risky.  We have temporary custody which means the mother could revoke that at any moment before we get the legal stuff taken care of.  The grandparents also want the baby but again can NOT care for the baby (I can't go into details unfortunately but you will have to trust me on this one).  They don't have any legal rights and since the mom is dead set against them having the baby (because of how they treated her as a child) they probably will not but you never know what crazy things judges decide.  We have hired an attorney and will go to court in a few weeks. 

So this is why I haven't been around!  We haven't had a spare moment. Our lives got turned upside down in the most unanticipated way.  In addition to taking care of a totally unexpected baby, we are outfitting a nursery with no notice at all, dealing iwth doctors, and DCF, and lawyers and trying to figure out work schedules (I jsut left work when I got the call and haven't been back since - fortunately they are understanding). Oh yeah, did I mention we're taking care of a baby.  Just nuts.

I am sooooooooooo terrified.  DH is always optimistic about everything and says repeatedly that he jsut knows this is our baby forever. I am not as optimistic and am so scared that she will jsut be gone.  I started crying last night thinking about it - you have all of these hopes and dreams for the future iwth this little person and for her to suddenly be gone would seem almost like a m/c (I mean no disrespect to anyone who has had a miscarriage - I jsut mean you have those dreams for that little person and then know they will not happen).  We are doing what we can to keep her and the rest is out of our hands. So much of this feels like IF again - the lack of control, the hoping against hope, the fear of loss, the prayers to be a family forever.

And yes, when I raced out of town and packed the most rediculous suitcase (5 pairs of pants, and ONE shirt and a *** - huh?  a suit????) I DID pack my lucky socks :-)  And I wore my pomegranate necklace :-)  So we are hoping this is our permanent BFP and this is our sticky baby.

I know this isnt' the board for this kind of stuff but this is MY board and I wanted to let you ladies know why I disappeared.  I don't know if you guys want updates or not, or if you prefer not to hear. Let me know. And yes, I know this story sounds crazy and you are all wondering if you really just read this - I am living it and can't believe that it is real. This is a crazy, crazy, crazy life I live.  Please, please say a prayer or good Karma, or positive thoughts, or whatever it is you do.

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History of IF and 2.5 years TTC. The day we were to start our first IUI we received a call that changed our lives forever and 10 month old Olivia joined our family. Shortly thereafter we got a surprise BFP and baby 2 is due July 5, 2012

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Re: My CRAZY story!

  • OMG that is INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!  And exciting and crazy! 

    For now I will say congrats on your new little one.  I really hope that you can get everything worked out legally!

    Our Blog - http://thedittemores.blogspot.com/
    Dx PCOS 2003/high fasting insulin/clotting issues DH Dx with low sperm count, motility and morphology. Varicocele repair (11/1/2010)
    2/2011 - Confirmed no improvement - On to Donor Sperm
    4 failed IUIs in 2010
    IUI#5 and 6- with DS, BFN
    Final IUI - Lucky #7! IUI with DS - 20.Jun.2011 - 21.5 mil motile! Not so lucky - BFFN and the end of our IF journey....
    Waiting for our family to be complete through Adoption - May 2012 - Hoping our baby finds us soon!
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  • STL34STL34 member
    Wow!  That is a crazy, insane story!  Congrats on the little girl.  Sending T&Ps that you get everything worked out and she is your forever baby! 

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    ~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~ 

    Me= 37 and DH = 41 

    Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)

    IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN

    IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.

    IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132.  Lil is here!

    TTC#2:  Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.

    IVF #4:  BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #5:  MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #6:  (New RE):  Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN

    FET#1:  BFN

  • Wow.  That is so crazy.  All of it.  But I would've done the same thing right now.  Good luck with the legal headache... but it will be so worth it.  Wow again.  Enjoy!!!
    PCOS, Hypothyroidism, a ton of IVF... finally it worked => a rough pregnancy => my sweet, sweet son born at 29 weeks 1 day Lilypie Premature Baby tickers
  • Out of this world!

    Good luck and keep us updated. I hope this works out as smoothly as possible and that all your legal issues are wrapped up very quickly.

    xo

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  • Whoa chica!!!!!  What a crazy and wonderful story!!!!  Congrats!!!!

    Keeping my fingers crossed that every goes smoothly with everything, keep us posted!!!!

    TTC #1 Since 11/08 - Dx: MFI & PCOS
    7 IUIs = All BFNs
    2011: March IVF #1.2 = e/p @ 6w: May IVF #2 = BFN: July sFET #1 = BFN

    2012: Jan We're Certified FC/A Parents
    May IVF #3 = c/p
    June-Nov Foster Mommy to M (Toddler)
    July FET #2 = BFN
    Aug FET #3 = BFN
    Sept-Nov Foster Mommy to Baby Bella (Newborn)
    Nov HSG/Sono = Clear!
    Dec FET #4 = BFN

    2013: Feb FET #5 = m/c @ 6.5w
    May-July Foster Mom to H (8 yr old girl)
    June/July/Aug IVF #4 = Freeze All
    July = Unofficially Adopting T (10 yr old boy)
    Sept FET #6 = TBD
    **PAIF/SAIF Welcome**
  • OMG, I love your story!!!! Definitely keep us posted! 
    Diagnosis: MFI and Egg Quality Issues IVF#1-October-BFN ER-16 eggs, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 2transferred and no frozen IVF#2- March-Beta 3/19 ER- 12 eggs, 8 mature, 7 fertilized, 2 transferred and 1 frozen-BFN. IVF#3 July ER-19 eggs, 13 mature, 10 fertilized...waiting til Day 5 to PGD. PGD results-4 out of 5 embryos are normal and will be banked. IVF#4 Sept 11' 22 eggs, 16 mature, 15 fertilized...waiting til Day 5 to PGD. Total normal embryos banked, quality varies: FET-Nov 11'-BFP Beta #1: 156, Beta #2: 489 First u/s revealed TWINS!! 2nd u/s= 2 beautiful heartbeats! 12/17 Lost one of the twins :(BabyFruit Ticker
  • Wow!! How amazingly wonderful and scary at the same time. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through right at this moment.

    All I can say is give that little girl all the love you can, even if for some reason she isn't your forever child, she deserves every ounce of Love you can give her while she is with you.

    Praying that she will never be taken from you! I am so happy for you and YH that you now have a baby in your home!!

    June 2010-Lap
    b2b Injectable IUI #1 7/25/10 & 7/26/10 = BFP beta 14dpIUI = 133 MC 9/14 at 9 weeks
    b2b Injectable IUI #2 12/5/10 & 12/6/10 = BFN
    IVF #1 ER 3/28/11 ET 3 embryos 3/31/11= BFN
    b2b Injectable IUI#3 6/28/11 & 6/29/11 = BFN
    PAIF/SAIF Welcome :)

    Submitted Adoption Application on 6/1/2011
    Homestudy 7/19/2011
    IVF#2 CX due to Adoption Match
    We were blessed with our daughter through the gift of adoption
    IVF #2.1 ET 2 embryos 2/14/13 7 frostiesLilypie First Birthday tickers

  •  I know everything will work out great for you! I was wondering where u were! Thanks for sharing and keep us up to date! I wish you all the best!!!
  • OMG, what a crazy and incredible couple of weeks you've had!!!  Congrats on the LO!  Sending lots of T&P!  Please keep us updated!
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  • I hope this is your sticky baby!!  Congrats!  You with be in my t&p's that things continue to go well!
    After 4.5 years our miracle IVF baby is here!
    Born 7/30/13
  • OMG! I am soooo crazy excited and happy for you and sending you all the sticky (to your home and arms) baby dust I have!!!!
    Mommies to 5 fur babies!
    TTC#1 since 2004
    LGBT
    4 cycles @ home with known donor - BFN
    RE un-medicated IUI cycles # 1-7= BFN
    NEW RE Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/ IUI #8 BFN
    Took long break
    Nov 2009 - Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/IUI #9 = BFP
    Beta 12/4 - 10...Beta #2 12/7- 28 Beta #3 12/9 - 80!
    1st sonogram 12/28 - slow hb and growth
    m/c 1/1/2010 Courtland 8w0d
    Nov 2010 cycle cancelled - polyp removal/hysteroscopy
    April 4 2011 - IUI #10 BFFN
    July 5, 2011 - #11 BFFN AMH .62 Boo
  • Seriously you almost had me in tears with your story!!!  I'm sending you all the T&Ps I can spare.  I love this story.  Keep us posted!!!

    My Wonderful Sister is my GC!!!! 3 IUIs, 2 unmedicated, 1 50mg of Clomid = All BFNs Next step IVF!!!! Melinda & Michael 5*6*06 God Bless The Broken Road
  • Wow! This is the stuff I dream about Smile Wishing you luck,good Karma, positive vibes,etc. I hope it all works out hun!
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  • Holy crap! Good luck with everything! Sending you T&P's this all works out Geeked
  • I'm so happy for you!!! I hope everything works out!!
    TTC #1 since 7/09
    Dx: LPD, underdeveloped follicles, blocked left tube
    3 C/P, 1 BO, 1 Ectopic
    IVF#1=BFN (3/11)
    FET#1=BFP
  • Oh my goodness what a turn of events!!  I hope everything works out for you and that this baby gets to have very loving capable parents.  Lots of T & Ps for you!

    Please keep us updated!

    TTC since 07/2009
    Me: PCOS, Blood/Immune Issues DH: Low all 3
    Jun.- Sep. 2010 IUI#1-#3 = BFN
    Oct. 2010 = IVF #1 = B/G Twins (passed away Feb. 2011)
    May 2011 = Myomectomy and trans-abdominal cerclage (TAC)
    Sep. 2011 = Surprise BFP = C/P
    Feb. 2012 = sFET #1 = BFN
    Feb.2012 = Hail Mary IUI #4 = BFN
    April/May 2012 = FET #2 w/our last two embies = BFP (Please let this be it!)
    Beta #1 8dp5/6dt = 234 Beta #2 10dp5/6dt = 695 Beta #3 12dp5/6dt = 1796 Beta #4 17dp5/6dt = 17,888 U/S #1 May 17, 2012 = Twins
    Baby B's heart stop beating at 9 weeks 5 days
    Our little miracle baby is a boy. :)

    Baby Boy Owen and Baby Girl Avery were born too early on Feb. 13, 2011 due to a pedunculated fibroid, incompetent cervix and suspected placental abruption.
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

    "What the heart has once owned and had, it shall never lose." - Henry Ward Beecher
    SAIF/PAIF Welcome
    Lots of love and luck to my PAIF/3T/IF Veteran ladies, especially my dear friend Zookie. Congrats to Papps, Teach84 and Starbuck on their little ones.
  • That is insane. Congrats! I hope it all gets settled soon and she is your forever baby!
    TTC with severe MFI since 9/08 IVF w/ ICSI #1 May/June 2010= BFP twins
    Callan George and Bennett Charles born and died 11/7/10
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
    FET #1 April 2011= BFN
    FET #2 July 2011= no transfer because my lining sucked
    FET #3 February 2012= BFP! 1st beta 9dp5dt=314 2nd beta 11dp5dt=977 1st U/S 3/20 Twins- Heart rates of 111 and 138 Pregnancy Ticker
    Living After Losing
  • WOW, u weren't kidding!  I so so hope it works out legally for you.  What an amazing gift!!!!

    Please keep us updated!

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  • Oh WOW!!! This is amazing! I am hoping with all my heart that this works out just the way we all hope it will for you! You're in my T&Ps hon!!!
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  • Wow!!  That's quite the story :)  I saw you on the adoption boards a few weeks ago and wondered if you were pondering adopting....but I would never have thought this!  Crazy.....and good karma indeed.  Lots of good thoughts and prayers your new little family stays permanent!!!
    TTC since May 2009 - DOR (ovarian cancer) DE w RBA December 2011 - transferred one embryo 12/14 - three frosties Beta #1 - 129 (12/22) Beta #2 - ? (12/26)
  • Wow...that is an amazing story. Praying it all works out and she is your baby legally.
    *SAIF* always welcome
    TTC since October 2007
    Dx with Unexplained IF
    IUI #1-3 w/clomid: Jan-March 2010...BFN
    IUI #4 w/injectables: April 2010...BFP
    1st u/s: 5/17-one little perfect hb@7w2d, 2nd u/s: 6/5-no hb@10w;
    missed miscarriage: 6/10 d&c
    IUI #5-7 w/injectables: Sept 2010-Jan 2011...BFFN
    IVF #1: Feb/March 2011...pretty please let this work!!!!

    Expecting twin boys!!!!! Pregnancy Ticker
  • Wow! This is an amazing and wonderful story!
    Very best of luck with everything and keep us posted.
    TTC #1 since 03/09 Dx Unexplained
    Jan to April 2010 - Clomid - All BFN
    June 2010 - IVF - BFN
    Oct 2010 - FET #1 - BFN
    Dec 2010 - endometrial biopsy
    Jan 2011 - Surprise BFP! - m/c at 6w5d
    March 2011 - FET #2. Thawed 11 Day 1 embryos; 5 'exploded' / possible lab error?
    ET 4/2/11 transferred 1 blast & 1 morula
    Beta#1 10dp5dt =81; Beta#2 12dp5dt =222 Beta#3 16dp5dt =1337
    It's a BOY!!! BabyFruit Ticker
  • Wonderful news!  I hope everything works out 

    I love that you packed your lucky socks.

    Keep us updated! 

    Surprise BFP after 5 yrs of TTC
  • That is amazing! I am keeping everything crossed for you that this baby here is with you for good!
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  • Wow what a story! Congrats. I hope all will go okay. So happy for you:>
    PAIF and SAIF Always Welcome!
    TTC since 2007
    6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 m/c :< PCOS, Blood Clotting Disorder & MFI
    IVF #2 Aug 2011 is a BFN:<
    IVF #3 March 2012 is a BFN
    Not sure what to do now. Sad and lost.
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  • koynkoyn member
    OMG!!!!  That is crazy and amazing and wonderful and scary and blessed at the same time.  I so hope for you this is your sticky baby!   That baby and friend of yours are very lucky people that your heart was so ready and open for this very thing.  Congrats!  I would love to hear the updates.
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  • WOW.... I read this story twice once out loud to DH.  I can't believe that all this happened so quickly.  I am wishing you so much luck and sending you so many T&P that this all works out.  I have a really good feeling about this for you.. I don't know why..I just do.  It just seems so incredible.  I have been doubting the presence of God lately.. but stories like this reaffirm my belief that there is something more powerful out there working in wonderous ways! Good luck! And I can't wait to hear the progress updates.
    ***SAIF & PAIF Welcome***

    TTC since November 2008; me - poor egg quality,hypothyroidism,missing beta 3 integrin;
    DH - some MFI;

    1 month clomid plus timing - BFN;
    3 months clomid + IUI - BFN BFN BFN

    IVF #1 Nov/Dec 2009 - BFP - c/p;
    IVF #2.1 Jan 2011 - Converted to IUI - BFN;
    IVF #2.2 March/April 2011 - ER 3/23/11: 12 retrieved, 8 mature, 3 fert-ET 3dt 3/26/11: 3 embies - BFN;
    IVF #3 May 2011 - ER 5/19/11: 20 retrieved, 10 mature, 9 fert-ET 5dt 5/24/11 3 embies - BFN;
    Switched RE's for IVF #4 (CCRM) Oct 2011 - Surprise BFP before starting IVF #4!
  • Just wanted to say congratulations on your baby girl!  What a whirlwind of events!  I pray this is your take home baby!  
  • Okay... when you said you were MIA for reasons but they were good.... you didn't say they were GREAT!!!  Wow!!!  So so happy for you and I am PRAYIN' HARD that this is your sticky BFP!  Sending you so many positive vibes and thoughts and prayers!!! 
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  • Amazing! I am so happy for you guys! It will work out, with all these positive vibes from us:)

    Can't wait to hear more updates and see pictures!

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  • Congratulations! I teared up reading this and am so very happy for you!

    I will keep you and YH in my T&P that this will all get worked out legally and that she will be yours forever.

    Definitely keep me posted!!!

    TTC #2 since June '08

    ~*DD 10.21.07*~

    dx unexplained

    IUI #1-4 BFN

    IVF#1 June 2011 BFN

    IVF#2 Dec 2011

    Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634

    EDD 8/25

    *PAIFW/SAIFW*

  • That is amazing news!  Congratulations!

    I'll keep my fingers crossed everything works out and please keep up posted!

    GL with you LO!

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  • What a great story.  Crazy, but great! I have secret thoughts that some day, someone will drop a baby off on my doorstep.  :)  I hope you get to keep your little girl forever! She's already so lucky to have you in her life! Congrats and enjoy! 

    TTC Since 10/08 4 IUIs=BFNx4
    IVF#1=BFP!! Twins!!
    Bradley and Billy born and lost on 2/2/11 at 19w2d due to pPROM/PTL. I miss you, little angels.
    IVF#2=BFN
    IVF#3=c/p IVF#4=Empty Follicle Syndrome; 1 mature, fertilized, & made it to blast. 5dt of "the lone ranger" on 9/6. Please stick, little one! Image and video hosting by TinyPic Lilypie First Birthday tickers
  • OMG!  That is crazy and amazing.  I so hope that everything works out and best of luck catching your breath.
    TTK 9/06 / TTC 10/08 / Twins 12/11 / Life Blog
    5 REs + 3 surgical hysteroscopies for septum/lap + 3 failed IUIs
    IVF w/ICSI/AH & acu = BFP!, unexplained spontaneous m/c @ 8w2d (our little girl),
    FET w/acu = BFP!, B/G twins!, lost MP @19w, dx w/funneling cervix @20w,
    twins nearly lost to IC @21w, saved by rescue cerclage, 17P & 16w of bedrest
    Our twins born @36w4d via CS when A came foot first

    Thankful for every day

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  • Wow!!  That is truly amazing!  Sending you lots of T&Ps that this is your sticky baby!!!  Keep us updated!
    *P/SAIFW* TTC since 1/08 Clomid, 2 IUIs, 4 IVFs, FET 7 losses Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • Amazing!  I hope it all works out!!!

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    After 2+ years and multiple treatment cycles,
    including an IVF vacation in Costa Rica/Panama,
    IVF #2 brought us our miracle baby!
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    Surprise!  Baby Boy is on the way!

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  • Oh my, that is such a great story, I'm so very happy for you!! Crossing my fingers that everything works out!!
  • Praying for you that this works out the way you want it to!!!  Very exciting!!!  Keep us posted!!!

     

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  • crazy indeed!!!   and so exciting!     Congratulations and the very very very best of luck to you!!!!
    Brought to you by IVF, ICSI, limited fert, and oocyte cryopreservation.
    Because we're fancy like that.

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  • mm29mm29 member

    I am so, so happy for you and your DH!  I have a good feeling that all of the legal issues with this process will be sorted out and your LO will be safe and cared for by you two!  She is so lucky to have you and your DH in her life!  I will keep my fingers crossed that everything will work out perfectly :)

    ::: Married June 2003:::
    TTC #1 since: Aug. 2008
    Me: 34, DOR, MTHFR-A1298C (heterozygous), decreased blood flow to uterus, Mild Endo
    DH: 38, Balanced translocation 5&10, unexplained MFI, normal SA and SCSA
    Tx History: IUI 1&2= BFN
    IVF# 1 W/ICSI= BFN
    IVF# 2: cancelled d/t no response
    IVF# 3= 1 egg retrieved=immature/not viable
    IVF# 4= c/p
    ***CCRM ODWU***
    Found DHs BT and Me-decreased blood flow to uterus
    Recommended DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. Decided to cycle locally
    ***New RE***
    DE IVF# 1(cycle #6) w/pgd, (freeze all): 30R, 23M, 15F, slow/poor embryo development, 4 biopsied, 1 Normal "Norm"; DE IVF w/PGD, incorporate electro-acupuncture. 
    IVF# 6: (OE/DS) cancelled
    IVF# 7: (OE/DS) 1R, 1M, 1F, arrested day 5
    Plan-DE IVF# 2 (cycle #8): DE/DS in May 2015


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