WWYD work question

katie052409

Hey guys

We have our 12 week dr appt on Friday and on Sunday will be telling grandparents and family the news.  I wanted to wait another week and a half  or so to tell friends and work (after my u/s).  But my work just sprung on me that they need me to move to another group to "help out" (its permanent) because a girl is leaving today and another one will be on maternity leave late summer/early fall and they need me to cover their duties.  The position is lateral and although I had a promotion that was approved last July it has not gone through yet.  In the group I am in now, there is no room for my promotion to go through and in the new group there is no room either so the move is not to better my career but just to help out another team.  Im the type that they know can do the work so they kind of use me which gets very frustrating...  I dont mind the move since I dont love my current manager and I really like the new one.  But I also am not looking forward to leaving a client I know really well to have to learn a new one all over again for the next 6 months.  Also I am not sharing with them that after this one I will be a SAHM.

My question is, do I let the move happen and then "come out" or do I tell them ahead of time (in confidence) and let them decide if taking me is worth it? (our maternity leaves will overlap about a month) The problem with the latter is that everyone talks around here so the second I tell them (even the higher ups) its out and that was sooner than I was looking to share it..

LJR 84

That's tough. I think I'd "come out" and tell them and let them decide if it's worth it. I think that would probably be your best option...and it would make for less stress down the line because you wouldn't have to worry about their reaction.

Mr.&MrsS

LJR 84:

That's tough. I think I'd "come out" and tell them and let them decide if it's worth it. I think that would probably be your best option...and it would make for less stress down the line because you wouldn't have to worry about their reaction.

I agree with this. And we are only talking about a week earlier than you wanted to tell anyway, right? I think telling now is your best option.

katie052409

Thanks ladies!  I think that is what we are going to do.  I hope to hear the hb tomorrow so I guess I am ok with forgoing the u/s before telling people.  I hope to have the u/s next week anyhow, maybe if I am lucky I can get it for Monday as well.  Thanks for your input!