Anxious I'm going to get pg with #3

AC_DC

DD is 21 mos and DS is 3 mos and I am TERRIFIED I'm going to get pg.  I don't think it's normal anymore.  Anyone else going thru this?

When DD was 6 mos we changed to a projesterone only pill as our contraception and got 3 positive pg tests and then negatives.  Naively, I thought they were flukes or just happened because I just switched onto the bc.  But, 3 months later we were pg with DS.  After DS was born we've been using condoms but I've been feeling physically funny and am obsessed with becoming pg again so I took a pg test 5 weeks ago that had a faint positive line, but I took MANY MANY more and they were all neg.  So there's my background, and now I'm obsessing about becoming pg again.  Some days I'm totally fine but other days I think about it alot and even have trouble sleeping at night.  It's completely interfering with my sex life too.  I don't want to have sex and even when I do have sex all I think about is getting pregnant. 

So I guess I'm looking for advice or someone who understands.  PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't suggest that I am actually pg.  I took a test last night that was neg.  I've taken one about once a week since we got the (false?) positive.  I know it's only a quick fix but I have to take one to sleep at night sometimes.  I'm looking for a long fix...

moonfaerie

If you're that anxious, I suggest counseling. It's not healthy to have to test to be able to sleep.

hellopoppyseed

Yes I've been there completely. I got pregnant the last week in December for two years in a row. When that time of year rolled around, I had serious anxiety. I wrote about it here. I had nausea most of the time due to the anxiety and that didn't help things. I took tests all the time and it was a quick fix. I am 4 months past when I kept getting pregnant and the anxiety has really passed. I will write more later.

walkernewton0704

Sounds like it is really stressful, so I would say that maybe you should see your doctor & maybe get an IUD of some kind, that are much more long term than a pill and you can't forget to take them!!! 

Also, it's actually quite common to become so obsessed with being pregnant that your body "acts" like it actually is. Even if you are obsessed with NOT being pregnant

Good luck!! 

ShannonSky

walkernewton0704:

Sounds like it is really stressful, so I would say that maybe you should see your doctor & maybe get an IUD of some kind, that are much more long term than a pill and you can't forget to take them!!! 

Also, it's actually quite common to become so obsessed with being pregnant that your body "acts" like it actually is. Even if you are obsessed with NOT being pregnant

Good luck!! 

Ditto all this, especially about the IUD! Also, you may want to change which tests you buy. The cheap internet ones and the ones that use blue dye are infamous for coming up with evaporation lines, which look like faint positives, but aren't "real". I much prefer First Response, I've never gotten an inaccurate result on a FRER.

AC_DC

Thank you ladies so much!  "hello boppy," it was so wonderful and comforting to know that someone has been there!  I make myself sick as well.  I fell alot better knowing I'm not alone!  You have no idea!!!!  "walker," that is amazing, I never thought that my body might just be acting pg but that makes alot of sense!  "Shannon," the faint positive we got this time was a blue dye one!!!!!  All the Frist Response ones I took came back neg!  Oh that makes me feel better.  I've been thinking that one might have been pos but after your comment I'm thinking it wasn't!  Thank you thank you thank you ladies.  It helped alot just to write it all out but it helped even more to have support.  Thanks again!

hellopoppyseed

I also wanted to add, my anxiety was obviously caused by the time of year but I do notice that if I have a lot of stressors in my life, I am more likely to have anxiety over being pregnant. I don't think taking tests is a waste either. I got $1 ones and took them all I wanted. About 2.5 months of testing and not being pregnant really helped me. Now I just don't have the urge to test or the fear as much. Also ds2 is getting older and if I did get pg now, it would be a shock but I wouldn't just fall to pieces. We want 3 though. After 3, I want us BOTH fixed. Overkill? Nah

ShannonSky

Yeah, if it was just the blue dye test that looked positive, I'd be it was just an evap line. I like the First Response brand best, I think they're the most clear, and it's worth the extra $$ for me to know, for CERTAIN, if it's + or -.

AC_DC

hellopoppy I totally agree that getting both fixed is not overkill!  It's a good idea!  We're not sure if we want 3 right now or not.  If we were positive you can bet that I'd be in there getting fixed! Thanks all of you for not telling me that I shouldn't have to test!!!  It's just so reassuring to get that neg! 

Thank you again ladies, you have no idea how much you've helped!