Poll: Then and Now--Your DH

kfishie

Was your husband (fill in the blank) back then (years ago/when you were dating) or now?

1) More romantic?

2) More helpful around the house?  

3) More attractive?

 

Bonus: name something that used to annoy you about your DH and now doesn't or that didn't annoy you previously but now does.  

amyfelice

Was your husband (fill in the blank) back then (years ago/when you were dating) or now?1) More romantic? Yes in the "bringing flowers, rubbing feet kind of way, but now we have such a mutual understanding of one another, that's romantic too in a different way. LIke we are on the same wavelength. 2) More helpful around the house?  YES! He used to put away the clean dishes and stuff, now he only does that if I tell him to. He makes dinner every night though and that's not too shabby. He was more helpful also when I was pregnant and nursing. 3) More attractive? He is still the same to me. He has put on a little weight but I thought he was too thin when we first met. At one point he had put on too much but now he lost some so he's in a good place in my opinion.  We have only been together since Dec 06, so it's not  a super long  time. ETA: Oh I didn't see the bonus. he stays up later than I do which used to annoy me, but now i like it because if the baby has a problem he will just deal with it and I can get some sleep during that time (say 9-12).  

My.ABC.Life

1) More romantic?  Definately then! 

2) More helpful around the house?  Now... he's learned to help balance.

3) More attractive?  Hmmm... good question.  Not sure about that.  I think, the same.

Bonus: name something that used to annoy you about your DH and now doesn't or that didn't annoy you previously but now does.  His "goofiness."  I'm not a really silly/goofy person... so his playfulness used to bug me.  Now I can think of nothing more adorable them him rolling around on the floor with DS!

lukaface

1) More romantic?

Definitely then!  He used to plan elaborate surprise dates for special occasions...and bring me flowers for no reason at all.  Now-not so much.  Then again, I probably used to be more giving in the BJ department-now not so much

2) More helpful around the house?  

Now. He is a great partner and defintely takes on his fair share of household duties and parenting.

3) More attractive?

I've always thought he was a hottie so this hasn't changed.

melgrady

1) More romantic? Then for sure.

2) More helpful around the house? Now

3) More attractive? Both then and now.

 

Bonus: name something that used to annoy you about your DH and now doesn't or that didn't annoy you previously but now does. 

It's dumb, but it annoys me how DH loads the dishwasher, especially the silverware. I should be happy that he helps out with household chores, but even after telling him that it irks me he still does a horrible job of loading the dishwasher.

lukaface

I forgot the bonus!  His sports obsession used to annoy me and now I find it endearing.  It didn't used to bother me that he took his shoes off in the kitchen as soon as he got home and left them there, often next to the shoes he took off the day before.  Now it makes me bat sh!t crazy.

TheMutleys

Was your husband (fill in the blank) back then (years ago/when you were dating) or now?

1) More romantic?

He's never been romantic in the traditional sense.  However, he still gets the type of romance that I like.  I am not a flowers and chocolate type of girl.  I'm more of a let-me-design-our-kitchen-and-you-build-it-in-to-reality type of girl.  

2) More helpful around the house?

He is about the same but needs more reminding than before.  We both got into a rut after the baby was born but we are trying to get back on track.  Add in the house remodeling + me going back to school and the time is not there like it used to be.     

3) More attractive?

I find him more attractive now but in a different way.  He is still a stud physically.  However, seeing him interact with our son brings on a whole other level of being attracted to him. (Insert gagging from sappiness.)  

Bonus: name something that used to annoy you about your DH and now doesn't or that didn't annoy you previously but now does.

It annoys me that he doesn't keep in touch with his friends more.  I am the one who has to make social plans for us, even if it involves his best friend.  I think that because he works and generally likes his coworkers, he is okay to just be at home.  However, since I don't work and spend most of my day with G, I need more social interaction, so it falls on me to make plans.   

SarahCee

1) More romantic? Then, I used to get flowers and he'd plan little trips away.

2) More helpful around the house?  Now, he has realized that I can't do it all.

3) More attractive? I think the same

When we were dating, the fact that he chewed (as in tobacco) didn't bother me. I honestly thought it was kinda cute that he had a vice, since besides that he was so health conscious. Now it disgusts me, and I am so at a loss of how to convince him to quit.

tiki_t

1) More romantic?We're more stressed out. Life happens and we're just in the middle of it. I don't judge him on things like this when our plates are so full. Our lives were simpler when we were first married.  2) More helpful around the house?  No but see the reason from #1. When crap happens, it is time to cut slack. 3) More attractive?Same.  Bonus: New annoyance... when I have to take care of sick kids and I"m sick too... I understand that he's the bread winner but I need down time too. Since he doesn't give me down time to recover, I have to take the kids to my mom's house when they are well so that I can get well. Then he complains non-stop about how he misses the kids and tries to pressure me into bringing them home before I'm well. I think it is selfish and it bugs me. I miss the kids too but I'll be even more useless if I get so sick that I end up the hospital. I don't know how to make him understand this.  

quesarah

Was your husband (fill in the blank) back then (years ago/when you were dating) or now?1) More romantic?  No.  He wasn't romantic then and isn't now.  I just don't think it's in his nature and that's fine.2) More helpful around the house?  Definitely now. And he grumbles about it less too.  I think having kids has helped this.3) More attractive? I think he's the same to me.  I haven't really thought about this one. Bonus: name something that used to annoy you about your DH and now doesn't or that didn't annoy you previously but now does. Hrmm, I'm feeling stumped on this one.  There's stuff that use to annoy me and still does, but I'm trying to figure out what's new.  Oh! Here's one.  He use to be REALLY bad at cleaning up his clutter, e.g. leaving a trail around the house wherever he went.  He's gotten much better at cleaning up after himself. 

KellyMRocks

1) More romantic? Neither. He is thoughtful and kind but I don't think he has ever been very romantic.

2) More helpful around the house?  Now. Mostly because he hates clutter  more than I do so he is more quick to pick up the kids stuff when they make a mess. 

3) More attractive? Now. His style has gotten better. (it's still metal t-shirts, but he wears better jeans). He has been eating better because I have been cooking better. Plus he just started working out with a trainer (danandkelly's cousin actually. Who, BTW, is super cute and way sweet) and it is starting to show already. 

Mrs.Wubbin

Fun poll!

1) Honestly, romance is not my scientist's middle name so I would say his romantic overtures are about the same.  He has become more thoughtful though.  Sometimes I am floored by his thoughtfulness.

2) He has always been pretty helpful but I think he has really stepped it up since we had kids.  Also, he seems to be "points keeping" (Who does more, etc.) less, which is really nice!

3) It is so not fair!  My man just keeps getting better looking! 

Bonus: His intensity in all things used to irritate/exaust me but now I appreciate that he is such a go-getter.  It does annoy me a bit that he has a tendency to think he is the authority on everything.  :0)

mommy2jay

Im happy to say he is more romantic, more helpful around the house and more attractive NOW

mrs.moosie

 We've been together for 10 years (since we were 16) so I think we've both changed a lot.

1) More romantic? Now. Since we were just kids when we started dating, he always did cheesy, silly, teenage-type romantic stuff. Also, he was in the army, so we didn't get to spend that much time together for the first 3 years. Now, he knows me better than anyone else, and while we're still very playful, he is more mature-romantic. He is always thinking about me, and shows it, and I love that.

2) More helpful around the house?  Now! He is great at vaccuming, taking out the garbage, and cleaning the bathroom. He also helps out with the Buns a lot. (He's allergic to their grass, so i have to take care of the feeding, but he helps where he can). He's really learned to ask "What can I help with?" and I really appreciate it.

3) More attractive? Totallly now! He was just a kid when I met him, and while I obviously thought he was cute, he's so handsome and amazing to me now. The more I know him, the more attractive he is. And his police uniform boots... oh gosh, those do it for me every time. ;P

Bonus: I used to love when he played the guitar all the time for my over the phone (while he was in the Army). He learned just for me, because he thought it would impress me (it worked).  Now, sometimes I get annoyed when he plays it because I'm trying to talk on the phone, or write an email, or do homework and it gets distracting.

ChristinaMT4

1) More romantic? No, he's less romantic now. But I'm glad because romance isn't my thing. lol If it were I'm sure he would still be romancing me.

2) More helpful around the house?  Yes, much more. He was domestically challenged when I got him. Now he does laundry, dishes, yard work, child care, etc. He held out on cooking for a long time but he started having to fend for himself more lately and has learned to cook a few things.

3) More attractive? More attractive. He started working out last fall and has lost about 30 pounds and added some muscle. I feel shallow saying it, but I am more attracted to him now than I was prior to him dropping the weight.

As for annoying things, some things annoy me less now and some more. I'm very good at hiding my irritation with him. At least I hope I am.