I'm done with his sh!t

cherie82

I don't know what there is left to talk about.  What I would do is call the police and request that someone be there while you are packing you and your lo's things.  That way he can't say that you did something "crazy".  If he flips out there will be an officer there.  Good luck, and get out ASAP.

snansley

Get.out.now.  Call a shelter/safe place, then call a lawyer.  There is not going to be a happy ending if you continue down this path. 

pmorgan1985@yahoo.com

My heart just breaks to read this, no one should ever have to go through this. I agree 100% with what everyone is saying and I believe you should get out asap. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Jaffytaffy

wife1014:

J+MS:

wife1014:

Here is my advice.

step 1. If you do not have a safe place to go, call a womens shelter.

step 2. pack your stuff while he is at work and have that safe person/shelter pick you up.

step 3. call police to tell them where you are and about the situation (It sounds like he would call and say you kidnapped) then call a lawyer.

He is violent and neither of you should be around him.  End.of.Discussion.

It's not kidnapping if she takes her own kid.

We know that.  But if she leaves to protect herself and the baby, there may be limited contact and he won't know where they are.  That is kidnapping, in his eyes and the authorities, if no one is notified.  I just recently read that most kidnappings in the US are by parents.

That only applies if custody is already legally established.  Unless he has already gone to court to establish custody, she can take off to wherever she wants with the kid and he can't do a damn thing.  But she needs to do it now, before he does apply for custody...

nadinethequeen01

Dude, don't even waste your time with that bullsh!t. Seriously. For one, he would have lost his hand if he ever touched my face like that and two, he obviously control issues. Don't put your baby through that. Be a smart woman and leave him.

monkeybelly

OMG sweetie I am so sorry!! I know you want to give him a chance but it seems like you have already given him chances. He doesnt want to change and you cant force him.

Trust me there are guys out there that will be better for you. Before we got married my husband was all about porn and checking every girl out and just being a jerk. I told him how it made me feel and at first he gave me that bullshit your DH is giving you. After a few days he realized he was wrong and he started to change himself. He is so different than he used to be in all good ways. So I know first hand there are some amazing guys out there and you need to be good to yourself and find one of those.

MJHershey

Um, don't give him a heads up that you're leaving. As PPs said get out... go to a safe place and call the police to start a paper trails and Order or Protection.

This is not just a lot of fighting... he is abusive and it's only a matter of time before he starts it towards DS.

angelame1979

You need to get out and get out now.  The fact that he put his hands around your throat is a red flag that he is not afraid of hurting you.  You need to document this stuff and get a lawyer fast.  The first chance that you can get out and go somewhere safe you need to.  Don't sit down and talk to him or he will know something is up.