Loosing my mind?

Mamaof3Jade

I am really not sure what is wrong with me lately. My PPD, which I have been fighting since January, seemed so bad recently. Dh and I had a long talk about it two days ago, though, and I thought I was doing much better. We have been getting along so well, and I havent felt particularly down fow a few days-until now. Dh left a little while ago, and I have been a wreck ever since. Im not sure what is wrong with me. I know he deserves to go out, but he does go out, often actually. It bothers me so much when he leaves. Especially when he leaves at dinner/bath/bedtime like he did tonight. Its so hard for me when he just gets call and then says "Im leaving in 15 minutes". I know thats life for him, but holy cow!, that is not life for me. Im not sure if Im being unreasonable about things here, but I really gave him the silent treatment before he left. Its not that I cant do things here on my own, its that I wish he would want to do things with me more. We do lots of things-dont get me wrong. But I always plan them, and he is usually reluctant on going. I am so ashamed of myself right now for being so upset, I mean really, how would you feel?

smj2301

I can see how you would be upset because you feel like he's going out and leaving the responsibility of taking care of the kids and the house all on your shoulders.  If my H did this on a regular basis I would be resentful about being left behind to do all the grown up stuff while he's out having fun.

Have you guys done any couples counseling?  If not I would really suggest it.  A lot of people think it's only for when things are really bad and you're trying to avoid a divorce, but it's so helpful even for minor problems because you learn how to communicate better with each other and how to work as a team. 

The therapist that my H and I saw for premarital counseling told us - the wall of resentment is not built in one day; it's built brick by brick over a period of time and the higher the wall, the longer it takes to break it down.  So get to working with your H on this before you need a ladder to see over the wall!

GL!

FutureMrsWittig

I'm assuming H knows you struggle with PPD?

Have you tried talking to him and saying I know you like to go out and Tu/Th/Sat nights that's fine but M/W/F/Su I need you to be here for dinner, bath, and bed time (or some variation on that, one that you can deal with)?

I agree, counseling wouldn't hurt.  Good luck.